I think that Star Trek we've seen over the years was extrapolated to be advancing from a 1960s vision of what the 23rd century looked like. When that original vision became (SERIOUSLY) outdated, the extrapolations ceased to be relevant. As an example: in the mid 80s and early 90s, the idea of being able to ask a computer to play a specific song from a digital library seemed really highly technologically advanced; in the 21st century this technology not only exists already but is actually far more portable than anything TNG projected.
For this and other reasons one is better off assuming that the Kelvin verse is actually a soft reboot and any comparisons to the prime timeline are basically invalid; you'd have to modify both universes dramatically for them to even BEGIN to be comparable.
I think things got messed up a lot earlier.
To some degree the visual enhancements in TMP, and the other TOS movies, could reasonably be seen as showing the technology how it "always" looked, just modernized. I'm thinking in terms of set designs etc. Same with Klingon makeup and stuff like that. I'd argue that the look of the movies was always supposed to just be a 'more realistic' interpretation of what we already saw in TOS.....
..... right up until TNG baked-in the 1960s look as being an actual "canon" aesthetic. The holodeck scene in 'Relics' was cute, but it also brought up the prospect that the bridge etc really
did look like that. DS9 and ENT compounded this with all the Klingon-forehead malarkey. Suddenly we were being asked to swallow explanations for these changes, where once we didn't need (or even ask for) any explanations. We just accepted the changes.
On some level I really like the idea that the Kelvin-verse aesthetic returns to the purer idea of "this is what TOS-era technology
really looked like, just updated to look more modern to
our eyes". Certainly something like the dynamic view-screen is suggested by episodes like "Balance of Terror" or "Gamesters of Triskelion" where the viewscreen actually does get used for things other than just being a camera, although admittedly I
do find it hard to justify the Kelvin-verse's assertion that it was
literally a window on the bridge....