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Music That Speaks To You

@HaventGotALife in response to your thoughtful post I'd like to say that science is not an aspect of morality. A hammer builds a home or bashes a head, and so science cures disease or leads to eugenics. It's just a tool, not a philosophy. To bring it up in a debate about morality is a non sequitur. It may be used to justify people's moral or amoral acts, but that's the end of it.

Muddled though it may be, that was my attempted point, as well--that science is a tool. In immoral hands, immoral acts. In moral hands, moral acts. This was a response to E.O Wilson's claim that religion should "die out," to the argument that I had with my brother about if I put my "faith in science." To discussions I have had with fellow nonbelievers, even T-Shirts I have seen, that claim "I put faith in science." It is not me that introduced the non-sequitur. It is prevalent in this discussion, and I wanted to point out that it can be as immoral, in the wrong hands, as religion can be immoral. The conclusion, I hope, is that we need morality. If you get there through religion, fine, but being religious doesn't make you moral by association. If you get there through non-belief, fine, but being devoted to truth, doesn't necessarily lead to morality, either. Morality is in actions, not belief structures. Morality is how we treat each other, if we have integrity, if we use compassion and empathy, believe no one is beyond becoming a moral person, no matter when it comes to them in life, using the courage and strength it takes to forgive an enemy, etc.

Religion teaches specific moralities: some of the teachings of religions are beautiful, others terrible. Religion, inarguably, has been one of the most profound driving forces of art and beauty in this world. I say this as a life-long atheist. I say this in relation to this thread, because many of my favorite songs are religious. As I said in a previous post, they are favorites because they speak to the human condition. They speak to it through a lens of faith that I do not share, but to a condition that we all share.

I agree. I would say the religion that isolates us from our fellow man, is not something I wish to carry forward from my childhood religious experience. I was having homosexual feelings, and at the age of 12, went to a Priest, about them. That Priest told me that it was "wrong" to engage in any "homosexual acts." Maybe that needed to be in the original piece. What I learned from that, is that my morality doesn't exclude any particular race or creed or sexuality or belief structure, based on just being that race or creed or sexuality, or belief structure. It is how we treat each other. It reinforced a fundamental belief that I need to show understanding, even to people I do not understand, fully. It reinforced my belief that morality is not akin to any particular group. That includes religion and non-belief.

I don't think anyone will deny the impact of religion on art (and the human condition), but evidence points to atheism being as old as belief. Despite you saying that you think religion does not have a claim on morality, you still seem to imply it. We don't live in a world where we can isolate from religion, but as more and more children are raised without it, we can see more clearly how unnecessary it is to morality. I would quote Sagan, who said that when all the evidence shows us that there is no higher power, no greater purpose, no meaning, that is when humanity can truly shine, for "The significance of our lives and our fragile planet is then determined only by our own wisdom and courage. We are the custodians of life's meaning. We long for a parent to care for us, to forgive us our errors, to save us from our childish mistakes. But knowledge is preferable to ignorance. Better by far to embrace the hard truth than a reassuring fable. If we crave some cosmic purpose, then let us find ourselves a worthy goal."

My piece is slanted, only in this regard: It is a critique on nonbelievers' thoughts, and not on believers. It is written from the perspective "You do not believe in religion, want it ended? It is divisive and destructive tribalism? True, it can be, but what about its contributions to morality?" And the implied question is: "What can we do to establish morality, without religion?" That implied question, is important before we discard religion, if that is a worthwhile goal. I am not saying that on an individual level, we aren't already answering that question, and have for generations. But I want a check, a balance, on society--a stated belief structure--that carries forward our values and morals, something we can put up in a book, if we do not live with moral people, to become moral, outside of our environment--like the Declaration of Independence or the parts of the Bible that talk about moral behavior or even Shel Silverstein's "The Giving Tree." I want it written down, somewhere. If that is asking nonbelievers to act like a religion, so be it. I don't think it is. I think people who do, need to take a Sociology class and learn about social mores and social reinforcement. I do not want a lineage of monsters because of one person's immorality. Our ability to shape ourselves, is important. And media is a psychological influence. Not everyone is going to have a good environment. Right now, government can be lectured when it abandons its values, in the United States. Right now, religion can debate what is moral behavior. Authority is still important, and I point to your Carl Sagan quote as an appeal to authority. I point to Frans De Waal, for myself. But if we ever debate what is truly our conviction, and Sagan and De Waal do not agree, we are left without an authority that trumps the other, for good and bad. Societal structures on morality is not acting like a religion. And asking questions, as I have in this piece, is not wrong or an attack. It is simply bringing up an issue because this has to be thought about. It cannot be a simple conclusion with no planning. It needs to be debated.

That said, I am a walking example of how we can live morally, not to toot my own horn, without religion. I lead in the post with some of the values that I hold in my life, the search for meaning and morality, that led me to some of the same conclusions as my up-bringing. I did not mean to imply that religion, everywhere, has those beliefs, but I will not discard them because my up-bringing taught me them through religion.

I hope that clears up any confusion.

As for music, I am delighted that we can have a philosophical debate surrounding something in our culture--music. So, I will put up something that gave me hope, in my lowest days and hours, of course, contemporary, and its last verse is religious. I don't relate to the last verse, at all. But the highest note is a whisper in the ear. It is conviction, that we will see a better day.

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Pretty great thread, @thestrangequark.

Picking just one or two songs that speak to me is tough, because so much of my life has been defined by music. But I can tell you what song is resonating with me right now. A big feature of my life over the past decade has been the premature deaths of friends -- by overdose, suicide, misadventure and the like -- on account of I spent the bulk of my twenties embedded in a hard-drinking, hard-drugging set, and also because of course life just is what it is.

One of these passed about six days ago. (Fuck, I'm tearing up just typing about it.) Anyway, "Laura" by Bat for Lashes is one of the most painful, beautiful and perfectly apt songs I've ever heard that describes all these absences in my life, and the feeling of being left behind to mourn them.

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And now I'm going to curl up and not do anything for a while. :D

EDIT: Eh, that's a little heavy to go out on. So here's something from the opposite end of the scale. This here song from the Red Hot Chilli Peppers brought me through a bout of Severe Teen Angst back in the day, and for all their cheeseball nature I still love it to this day:

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One of many beloved songs from the classic album, but the most personally important one for me for totally random reasons of cosmic timing.
 
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@BigJake , there is no rule that you have to keep it to one or two, just one or two a post!

@HaventGotALife , music brings up passions for everyone, and I welcome tangents! I'll try to be brief, though, so as not to completely go off the rails! I appreciate your thoughtful response and would respond simply with the thought that, far as I know, it is only a tiny subset of non-religious folk radical enough to "want religion destroyed."

I also think "faith in science" is problematic. "Faith" has two very different meanings, but our language evolved in the context of religious culture, and so it is a failure of language to distinguish between religious faith, and the recognition that careful observation and methodology and testing and retesting, yields reliable results (faith in science).

To that end, I'll share another of Tim Minchin's songs. A more typically humorous one -- finding someone singing about reason with humor was something that absolutely struck me, and just at the right time in my life:
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Hey, I will post it here and not just down below, because I mean what I wrote about this thread!
I'm getting real joy from that thread. I was always annoyed that no one ever talked about the songs they were posting in the What Are You Listening To threads. Now everyone's talking, and they're all just so passionate! -- Like, even if the song is total shit and even if I think their reason for loving the song is kind of dumb, the passion makes me happy. I just love when people talk about the things they are passionate about: it's one of the most beautiful things in the world. And there have been some worthwhile stories in there too. It's just all really lovely.
Everyone is passionate about hundreds of songs, I'm sure. And I genuinely want you all to post them. I've read and listened to each one so far, and I hope to be able to keep doing so -- at least for most of them!
 
EDIT: Eh, that's a little heavy to go out on. So here's something from the opposite end of the scale. This here song from the Red Hot Chilli Peppers brought me through a bout of Severe Teen Angst back in the day, and for all their cheeseball nature I still love it to this day:



One of many beloved songs from the classic album, but the most personally important one for me for totally random reasons of cosmic timing.
Love the Chili Peppers and that album. Still remember seeing them a show in '84. My girlfriend was afraid they'd do the cocks in socks. :lol:
 
Going back to covers for a moment, this is one of my favorites of all time, yet most have probably never heard of it. Not having a hipster moment, it's just this is a local band, although a popular one in my area. It's a cover of Lionel Richie's All Nigh Long, but like any good cover, it's drastically different in a good way. I love how the words don't particularly match the style of the music. I love the beauty of the slow progression, the reverb and some type of flanger effects of the guitar, creating a haunting sound.

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Which really is telling to how I prefer music. I love music! I was in orchestra when I was young, and I was in a band for over a decade. I've played all different styles of music, and I listen to all types of music as well. Yet I've never cared too much about lyrics. I'm the guy that never really knows what is being sung, and I'm notoriously bad about remembering lyrics to even my favorite songs. And even when I do, I don't always pay attention to their meanings. Like how @thestrangequark mentioned "Daughter," and although it's one of my favorite songs by one of my favorite bands (hey I'm a 90s grunge kid), I never knew that was the meaning behind the words. For me music is less about the words and much more about the feel of the song. I love chord progressions and how notes can illicit the same feelings as words. It's not that I don't want to know the lyrics, it's just not my first instinct.
 
And even when I do, I don't always pay attention to their meanings. Like how @thestrangequark mentioned "Daughter," and although it's one of my favorite songs by one of my favorite bands (hey I'm a 90s grunge kid), I never knew that was the meaning behind the words. For me music is less about the words and much more about the feel of the song. I love chord progressions and how notes can illicit the same feelings as words. It's not that I don't want to know the lyrics, it's just not my first instinct.
I never looked up the "meaning" to the song. It was more about what it meant to me -- which was similar, since a lot of the lyrics are unambiguous.

When I was an angsty teen it was "Better Man" that resonated more (yes, some one has Daddy Issues) -- and it took forever to find a link to this version, my favorite recording of the song. But as I matured "Daughter" just had more power. I guess it's more bitter, but it's also just a more mature song. It says more with fewer words, and it's sad, but also empowering. It's that realization that you, as the child, were't the problem. Abuse and neglect wasn't your fault, and you can indeed rise up.
Anyway, Better Man, more teen angst, but like I said, also resonated:
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This always speaks to me, and for the past few weeks it has been running through my mind on a non-stop loop:

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I suppose teen angst for me was loud distortion guitars and/or melancholy chord progressions. Angry and sad probably summed me up, although I wasn't quite introspective enough to realize it at the time.

Which is probably why Smashing Pumpkins was one of my favorite bands as well.

However I do find myself listening to the words more and appreciating them in my older age. I love the message (and the band) about suburban living in this song:

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Growing up and still living in the same Texas suburbs, I can relate.
 
As a lonely and misunderstood teenager I found the Who were my go to
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Not teen when the song came out
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Barely a teen when this one came out
 
My father was a very abusive man, physically and especially verbally. He tormented my entire family, he had a pretty shitty childhood and thought it was incumbent on him to pass it along to my brother and myself. So when Pat Benatar's "Hell is for Children" was released, around 1980, I felt she was singing about my life. I would lay in my bed and listen to the song over and over again. I was about 12 years old and the abuse was getting worse and worse, my mom started sleeping in my brothers room with the door locked and she slept with a hammer for just in case. In another year or two, they would be divorced and I would be freed from the monster. I remember laying in my bed, crying, hoping that my father would die. It was bad enough to get picked on at school but then come home to him and his shit too. I vowed if I ever became a father, I would never be anything like him.
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One of the songs that has deeply affected me this year is Chris Janson's "Holdin' Her." The circumstances of the song are unique to Chris Janson. He is telling the story of meeting his wife, proposing to her, marrying her, having his first child with her, and he put both of them in the video. But, I long to hold someone from my past. The sensations of joy, comfort, love, and peace that I feel with my arms around her, are palpable, as if I could reach out and touch those sensations. As if they were not neurotransmitters, but other people in the room. It will never happen as she has been married to someone else for three years and is due in November with twins, but for the four-minutes-and-five-seconds of this song, a stupid smile comes over my face, she fills my thoughts, my eyes light up, and I sing it at the top of my lungs.

It is overwhelming because of the feelings, but also because Country music has had volumes of different hookup songs that are all the same. It has depressed and frustrated me for a long time--about 5 years. This is a love song that speaks to me, and it talks about being in-love the way I talk about it. So, the contrast to songs on the radio most of the time, versus this one, is another layer, the icing on the cake, as it were, that there is hope that music is about to go into a new direction.

I have the unique pleasure of listening to the radio at work. I get to choose the station and, today, no one was in the store. Boy, did I jam, and, said to myself afterwards, "This song tests my professionalism."

Take a listen:

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@Tom Hendricks God, I haven't listened to that song in a long time. I didn't know that she sang it every time they played -- that's remarkable. There aren't words to do justice to what you shared, so I'll just thank you for sharing.

Much of the abuse in my childhood was something I myself was unable to recognize until I grew up. "Betterman" came out when I was 11, and I immediately identified with it. My father wasn't especially violent -- he beat my mom a couple times only, and never even spanked us kids. He raped my mother, but she was so traumatized from her own abusive childhood that she didn't even recognize what was going on. He was drunk or high or just gone a lot of the time and the lyrics of "Betterman" are blatantly about that. I had sort of an innate understanding, even at a young age, that my mom stayed with my dad not because he treated her well, but because he treated her better than any man ever had.
It was more neglect on his part. I was deaf until I was four and a half but he never bothered to learn sign. He never took me or my brother's diabetes seriously, even after my brother died of hypoglycemia. He preferred to go to do coke and get drunk rather than take care of his kids, and my mom was severely mentally ill -- so if she was in the hospital, that meant leaving us alone or in the hands of people that did horrible things to us. I was sexually abused from the age of 2-11, and I blame my dad's neglect in part for that, though he would never hurt a child. Like a lot of young kids in that situation, I didn't fully understand it. So as an adult, it's "Daughter" that sings my relationship with my dad.
And I love him, and that's what makes it hardest, because the older I get, the more I realize that trying to maintain a relationship just isn't worth it. I know he loves me too, but he's never going to change.

So I have two songs for this post. One is by an Indian songwriter I've already shared, Jim Boyd, the song is "Father and Farther" which also speaks to that relationship:
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And when I think about my life overall, a song that has always resonated with me (another early 90s grunge song, of course), but just keeps hitting closer to home with every passing year is Toad the Wet Sprocket's "Before You Were Born". God, every time I hear this song, I truly, deeply feel that they are singing to me. Because even after you understand what's going on, life still keeps throwing the pain at you. There are no breaks to catch, and you want to ask "How can this be?" But the truth is that it doesn't matter, you just have to keep breathing, keep fighting.
I hope anyone who's experienced any kind of trauma in their lives will listen to this song:
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Shadows of the Night by Pat Benatar. This song is one of my favorites. I've always imagined this as a "soundtrack of life" song that would play at the ending of my personal romance/action/comedy with me and the women of my dreams running off into the night to live a life of adventure and endless possibilities.

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The interesting thing about your lifetrack (as I call the soundtrack of your life) is that it varies so much over the years, as you move from kid to young teen to older teen to young adult to older adult, songs change and what you get from them changes too. A lot of songs from your earliest day has a nostalgia component, but the reasons for their importance also remains. The kid in you wouldn't have listened to the angsry stuff teen you listened to, but you can listen to both down.

What is fascinationg (to me, for some reason) is that every year there's something new.

This song move me, I don't quite know why. I watch Eurovision for laughs (some acts being inadvertently hilarious) but the chorus reached out and smacked me between the eyes. Maybe because every day is a struggle with forces without and within, endlessly competing, and the acknowlwdgement of that struggle between the good and bad in us reallymoves me.

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Realtionships with parents can be complicated. Both mine are gone now and I miss them terribly, I sometimes fel like a lost kid. The one that hit me when my mother died was 'Into The West' by Annie Lennonx, on the LotR soundtrack.

Anyway, this struck me as quite powerful when I first saw it in the TV show 'Gideon's Daughter'. The story the song is based on is true, and all the more powerful for it.

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Finally, something a little more upbeat to disperse the gloom. I was always a bit odd as a child, and wondered where I was going to fit in. This song made me think, "hell with it, I am who I am" and get on with it. The soaring guitars at the end of the solo just lift it so much higher.

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There are literally dozens of songs I could put in here, and why they're important to me but I'll stop there.
 
Oh, in trying to find a copy of the video for Shadows of the Night online, I came across this. Helen Schneider's version recorded a year before Benatar's. Not the different lyrics and really sad video production. Just shows the difference between a decent music video from the 80's and a poor one. (the astronaut walking a dog/sheep? at the 2:18 mark is just hilarious)

Beyond the silly video, her delivery of the song almost has a Dr. Frankenfurter vibe to it. The director should have been sacked.

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Speaking of music that 'speaks' to you, and cover versions: Speak Low. Of all the romantic Broadway musical songs - and admiration/love for Cole Porter, Rodgers & Hart, Rodgers & Hammerstein, Lerner & Loewe - this is my favourite ever. Simple in its melody and lyrics, yet incredibly effective. And heart-rending. Words by Ogden Nash, music by incomparable Kurt Weill. Written for Broadway musical 'One Touch Of Venus'. Favourite version is Lotte Lenya's (Weill's wife). But the diversity of cover versions, from Billie Holliday to Ester Ofarim, shows how adaptable it is. Here are some of the most interesting versions:

The musical (movie) classic version
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A great avant-garde minimalist version
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Exquisite version from German holocaust film, Phoenix
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