This come from reading the "Favorite Trek Couple" thread. it never occurred to me before, but I wonder if Riker turned down all of those promotions and starship commands not so he could remain on the Enterprise as Picard's first officer, but so that he could remain on the ship that had Deanna on board, to be close to her. There were various lovers through the years, but no one long term. Once she was married to him and willing to leave with him away from the Enterprise, then Riker moved on to his first command, the Titan. The impression I received from the first season of TNG was that Riker as a rapidly advancing young officer, and that the Enterprise was basically just a stepping stone for him, we find out later that he turned down a number of possibilities to advance. Was it mainly Deanna?