What's The Best Way To Ask Someone To Marry You?

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  1. Vorta

    Vorta Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    More specifically a guy that's already asked you(several times), but you turned him down each time.

    Because I've been giving this a lot of thought, and even though I was terrified at the prospect of marriage at first, I really want to give my child a good, stable upbringing. And I think he really deserves to have his father there every step of the way. Plus, said father is a wonderful guy, and I think I've been really unfair as to how I've been treating him thus far.

    So. Any advice? Because I could really use it. I'm so nervous I can barely sit still. :lol:
     
  2. 1001001

    1001001 Ready for the Laughing Gas Moderator

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    Simple and straightforward.

    And private.

    That's my advice.
     
  3. Vorta

    Vorta Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    Simple

    Straightforward

    Private


    I like it ;)

    I mean, you wouldn't be hesitant if you'd turned the person down several times already??
     
  4. thestrangequark

    thestrangequark Admiral Admiral

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    Like this:

    [yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bQVoAWSP7k4[/yt]
     
  5. teacake

    teacake Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    Being married doesn't mean the upbringing will be stable or the father will be there every step of the way. Being married doesn't do jack, you have to both do that yourselves.
     
  6. Vorta

    Vorta Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    Oh yes, yes, of course. It's just that the father really wants to be a part of his sons(possibly daughter, but I just have a strange feeling it's a boy) life. I've been pushing him away every chance I get, not really wanting him here(long story), but I realize how selfish that is to said father and child, and I've decided to give him a fair chance.
     
  7. teacake

    teacake Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    Is the abusive Australian you are talking about? Who took over your account here and posted crap?
     
  8. teacake

    teacake Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    Oh and as to "giving him a fair chance" I would just suggest living with him first if you don't already. If the relationship is still working out, he's a good partner and dad get married when the baby is a year old. If it doesn't work out you gave him (and you) a fair chance and you can move on. If you get married and it doesn't work out then you end up with a divorce which is a real pain in the ass compared to just parting ways.
     
  9. Vorta

    Vorta Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    I don't care how old you are teacake, but either way you are wise beyond your years. I couldn't have been given better advice, and I thank you a million times. So glad I asked before going through with it! :)

    (By the way, hell no its not that stalker from Australia! I'm done with little boys, and found myself a real man ;) )
     
  10. iguana_tonante

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    Busy three months.
     
  11. Gov Kodos

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    You say you have been turning him down up to now, have you answered to yourself why?
     
  12. Kirkman1987

    Kirkman1987 Commodore Commodore

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    I just wanted to second Teacake's advice.
     
  13. Relayer1

    Relayer1 Vice Admiral Admiral

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    You have to know the answer to this question.

    You also have to ask yourself if it would be fair to him if you married him. Even if you've decided that he is right for you, you've shown that you might not be right for him.
     
  14. JarodRussell

    JarodRussell Vice Admiral Admiral

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    Exacta mundo.


    Why do you think that a marriage will suddenly change your relationship?
     
  15. BillJ

    BillJ Former Democrat Premium Member

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    Three words: marriage is hard.

    It is one of the most volatile things two humans can go through. You have to trust each other and you have to be able to stand each other.

    Me and the Misses have been going at it for twenty years and three children and it's a new adventure everyday...
     
  16. JarodRussell

    JarodRussell Vice Admiral Admiral

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    And it wouldn't be that way if you weren't married?
     
  17. boobatuba

    boobatuba Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    You "found yourself" a real man who has asked you several times before to marry you? I'm really confused.
     
  18. Locutus of Bored

    Locutus of Bored The Lunatic Is In My Head Moderator

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    Honesty is the best way to go before asking him.

    He needs to know that you had an abusive Australian boyfriend that you were hopelessly in love with off and on who sometimes was in America and Australia simultaneously while you were pregnant with this new guy's child three months ago and also finding out at the same time that you were dying of neural pathway degradation which was presumably cured by Commander Data and Admiral Haftel in a revolutionary new procedure they developed after the death of Lal from the same condition, and that after the procedure saved your life and you had a baby on the way with a real man you loved but rejected proposing to you multiple times you contemplated suicide and sought advice on how to do it here (holy run-on sentence, Batman).

    These are the kinds of things potential husbands need to know about their wives (and vice versa), because if all that can happen to you in the past three months, he's going to feel like he's 100 years old from stress by the end of the honeymoon (probably best not to go to Australia for the honeymoon, by the way).
     
  19. Vorta

    Vorta Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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