Random Suprise Gifts For SO...

[Plecostomus]

What's instant cream sauce.

http://www.us.knorr.com/products.aspx?brand=1&group=3&pid=1&nav=11

Actually we use whatever brand is on sale.


Hasu: You could be right, I don't know the relationship status of all my MSN contacts... that could be part of it.

Maybe it's cultural too. Alot of my friends online hail from Europe and South America.

 

[Ashu]

Yeah, it all depends on what they're used to i guess. If they dont have a girlfriend, or have never had one, they might think quite a few things are odd.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Does just going on a date with a woman make her your girlfriend ?

You're hurting me.

7 hours would be quite long for a single date, you could probably fit a few separate dinners into that.

Or something. I was referencing particularly successful dates.

 

[Mike Farley]

Does just going on a date with a woman make her your girlfriend ?

If you have a rich enough internal life, sometimes you don't even need the date to consider her your girlfriend. Of course her view of things might be different...

 

[WillsBabe]

http://www.us.knorr.com/products.aspx?brand=1&group=3&pid=1&nav=11

Actually we use whatever brand is on sale.

Thanks! Even after all these years I forget about the power of Google!

 

[Hermiod]

If you have a rich enough internal life, sometimes you don't even need the date to consider her your girlfriend. Of course her view of things might be different...

Oooooooooooooooooooooooooookay.

Does just going on a date with a woman make her your girlfriend ?

You're hurting me.

Didn't mean to. I just don't know, not having any experience of this, at what point does someone you're dating become your "girlfriend" ?

 

[Kestra]

If you have a rich enough internal life, sometimes you don't even need the date to consider her your girlfriend. Of course her view of things might be different...

Oooooooooooooooooooooooooookay.

Does just going on a date with a woman make her your girlfriend ?

You're hurting me.

Didn't mean to. I just don't know, not having any experience of this, at what point does someone you're dating become your "girlfriend" ?

When you've successfully referred to her as such in front of her without an adverse reaction?

Regarding the original question, I think random presents are a great way to show someone you've been thinking of them. I do this with my family and friends, not just my husband, and I don't think it's odd at all.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Does just going on a date with a woman make her your girlfriend ?

You're hurting me.

Didn't mean to. I just don't know, not having any experience of this, at what point does someone you're dating become your "girlfriend" ?

Don't worry, I was just kidding around. In fact, my original statement was meant to be a bit wry. Going on a date with someone does not make her your girlfriend; in other words, rarely have my dates evolved into girlfriends.

 

[Hermiod]

When you've successfully referred to her as such in front of her without an adverse reaction?

What happens if you do it before she's ready and she thinks you're being possessive and dumps you ?

 

[Kestra]

When you've successfully referred to her as such in front of her without an adverse reaction?

What happens if you do it before she's ready and she thinks you're being possessive and dumps you ?

She's not your girlfriend?

In all seriousness, I'd think that if you were at that stage with a woman, it would either come about naturally that you were boyfriend and girlfriend, or could be easily clarified. You could bring up that you had strong feelings for her and did not desire to date anyone else, letting her know that you were looking for an exclusive relationship with her. Her response would give you an indication of how she felt on the matter.

 

[blablover5]

When you've successfully referred to her as such in front of her without an adverse reaction?

What happens if you do it before she's ready and she thinks you're being possessive and dumps you ?

There are about 5,000 different articles on how to bring up "The talk" and decide to be exculsive. Sadly there is no one magical answer. I can't even offer up an example as my husband and I just sort of fell into it.

I'd much rather answer the question of if there's a God than when a couple is offical. I think it'd be a lot easier.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

It's an indication of 'coupledom' when you are both invited somewhere together. Or you start signing or receiving cards with both names. Oh and a wedding invitation to Joe Blogs + one, means you're not yet

 

[Plecostomus]

I simply asked her (the one that became my wife) at one point "so how do I refer to you?" and she was like "wut?" and I said "Girlfriend, aggravation with benefits, organic sheet-heater, endless source of amusement?"

...see at this point I kind of had a gut feeling I could make an outrageous comment of that nature... What I'm getting at is you'll "know" when.

Also to this day "organic sheet-heater" comes up in conversation from time to time, mostly when it's really cold out.

 

[propita]

I never considered this behavior odd, yet 7/10 of my friends consider it "strange." What says the poupluation at large?

You need some new friends.

While Hubby and I get things for each other, it's not usually a formal (or even informal) present. We're out, see something, quickly evalute want and price, and buy or not buy it.

With us, most of the time we're shopping together, so it's not so much a "present" I guess.

Example:

Hubby knows I like heart ornaments. We were at an art gallery and there were blown-glass hearts. He immediately asked which one I wanted.

Hubby wanted (not really needed) a new jacket. We went to Macy's since they were on sale and a coupon gave more off. He couldn't decide between two of them, so I suggested he just get them both.

Hubby loves flavored creamers in his coffee (International Delight only, please), while I can't stand tasting coffee at all. So while shopping, I saw a white-chocolate-coconut (he loves coconut) creamer and got it, though he still had enough for a while. But supplies weren't big and he tends to have 2/3 coffee, 1/3 creamer--so I knew he'd use it.

Hubby bought a set of 3 nail guns. The next week, for $50 more, he could get a set of 4, same mfr. Same with some speakers he bought years ago--they weren't what he really wanted. Both times I said he should return them and get what he wanted. That's not really a gift though, huh?

Anyway, no Hannumas/Chrisikkah presents, no anniversary or birthday present. We go out for dinner and just give to the other when each wants something (and usually when it's on sale).

 

[kitkat]

Me and the hubby do little things like that for each other all the time.

I do a lot of writing so once every couple of weeks I'll put a poem or something in his lunch when I make it for him. He's told me that that's one of his favorite things is opening his lunch and finding one.