Possibly, but not every person is going to want to have kids at all, and even those who do, most will not want a huge family. Two or three kids is possible to combine with a career for both parents, but more than that and it becomes much less likely. Some parents, regardless of gender, might be happy to be homemakers, but the majority with unlimited access to as much education as they're able to absorb won't settle for that. Please don't get me wrong, raising kids is an important role in and of itself, but for most people with options to do something else in addition it won't be enough.
Family sizes have gone down as women have gained access to education and post-marriage careers, not to mention family planning services and birth control. This has been true in all societies where women have gained some equality.
Vulcans, at least those who have embraced Surak's teachings, all read as "autistic" to me. I've always assumed that a human on the autism spectrum could serve on a ship with an otherwise all-Vulcan crew without going crazy.
I've read somewhere, might even have been here, a post by someone with autism who went to a con cosplaying as a Vulcan, and they said something like that was the first time that they'd been able to unmask completely in public.