Online Dating?

[Jetfire]

I was looking at some profiles on some dating sites...thanks to the ads here I was curious to see what was out there...did a search and found that none of these women appeal to me...in there profiles they either sound crazy or just seem pathetic. I found a girl on yahoo a few years back and that went well at first but she was insane which I found out a little too late.

I am just wondering when someone fills out a profile what are you thinking??? Are you really trying to find someone or just trying to get attention???

 

[ThankQ]

1. Skip over the crazies. You should be able to catch most of them... sounds like you already are.

2. If you happen to date a crazy, stop dating her.

There is this thing going on with dating where people are looking for the perfect person before they go out on the date.

DATE TONS OF PEOPLE! A date is not a long-term promise.

Go out with Girl A on Monday, Girl B on Wednesay, and if you liked her, Girl A on Friday. If not, Girl C. If Girl B, who you've gone out with ONCE finds out about Friday and gets pissed, SHE'S A GONNER! If you're that jealous after one date, or if you think my agreeing to ONE date with you means I've eliminated all other options, then you're way to crazy posessive wacko for me.

So then I call Girl D. Girl DD

 

[Jetfire]

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I also find it strange that the pictures are horrible too...if you are looking to meet someone special why take a picture of yourself looking ragged or in you pj's or looking like a freak...this is to assume they are serious. I would go get some pictures done and then put the best ones up...not cell phone images of myself looking stupid.

 

[Plomeek Broth]

Is there a site called geek2geek or something like that? Anyone know anything about it? Does it stink?

 

[RoJoHen]

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I also find it strange that the pictures are horrible too...if you are looking to meet someone special why take a picture of yourself looking ragged or in you pj's or looking like a freak...this is to assume they are serious. I would go get some pictures done and then put the best ones up...not cell phone images of myself looking stupid.

Yeah, some people really do have terrible pictures on their profiles.

I love the ones where the people are obviously trying really hard to look hot, but they just end up looking retarded. I never knew I was supposed to be attracted to unnecessarily pursed lips.

 

[Starbreaker]

Geek2Geek is not free.

I've tried Plentyoffish.com There are tons of people on there, but all the cute one have kids, and I'm not interested in that.

 

[OrionSlaveGirl]

I met my husband on "Match.com" but I think I was one of the lucky ones because I too have heard horror stories. I really do like the idea of being able to weed through potential dates to find those who match on things such as education, employment, desire to have a long term relationship, children etc. But of course all of these things depend on people's honesty when they write their profiles. You mentioned people turning out to be "crazy" after a few dates... I really do think that this word is thrown around too often these days when it comes to assessing people with whom you've attempted to have a realtionship. I have many male friends who've used this term often to describe women who they have had an "unsuccessful" relationship with... whose to say that they weren't in fact the "crazy" one (at least from the girl's point of view). I'll be the first to admit that one might go online in search of love because they do indeed have baggage of one form or another... I myself have low self-esteem and trust issues from being cheated on in almost all past relationships and I've indeed taken this out on more than one occasion on my boyfriend (now husband). Fortunately for me I was not afraid to talk about these experiences with my husband and he was able to tolerate my issues because he understood where they came from and that it was not a reflection of his character or distrust in him personally... he knew exactly what to say to my "do you think she's hot?" questioning. For the record guys out there, the correct answer is "yes". My husband was the first guy to ever answer me honestly and that is why I married him!

My point is that when you meet a nice girl/guy and find out she/he has some issues... take the time to see if you can get to the bottom of them first before writing her/him off. You might just be the person to turn their life around and save them from their cycle of "crazy".

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Right now , in the UK, everyone's doing the online dating thing. It's apparently the cold weather that brings us even closer together than usual.... well, online anyway:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/8445593.stm

As the UK's big chill shows no sign of ending, people appear to be seeking to raise the temperature with a bit of online romance.

With millions of Britons unable to make it into work because of the snow and ice, one of the unforeseen effects has been a reported surge in the number of people exploring website dating agencies.

Stuck at home and bored with daytime television, singletons are seemingly turning their attention to finding a new partner via their laptop, with two of the UK's largest online dating sites both reporting a big increase in traffic over the past two days.

Mysinglefriend.com says visitors to its website soared by 55% on Tuesday alone, with its busiest time coming at 1500 rather than the traditional 2200.

Meanwhile rival site Singles365.com says its visitor numbers grew 27% across Tuesday and Wednesday compared with a year ago.

 

[Jetfire]

I met my husband on "Match.com" but I think I was one of the lucky ones because I too have heard horror stories. I really do like the idea of being able to weed through potential dates to find those who match on things such as education, employment, desire to have a long term relationship, children etc. But of course all of these things depend on people's honesty when they write their profiles. You mentioned people turning out to be "crazy" after a few dates... I really do think that this word is thrown around too often these days when it comes to assessing people with whom you've attempted to have a realtionship. I have many male friends who've used this term often to describe women who they have had an "unsuccessful" relationship with... whose to say that they weren't in fact the "crazy" one (at least from the girl's point of view). I'll be the first to admit that one might go online in search of love because they do indeed have baggage of one form or another... I myself have low self-esteem and trust issues from being cheated on in almost all past relationships and I've indeed taken this out on more than one occasion on my boyfriend (now husband). Fortunately for me I was not afraid to talk about these experiences with my husband and he was able to tolerate my issues because he understood where they came from and that it was not a reflection of his character or distrust in him personally... he knew exactly what to say to my "do you think she's hot?" questioning. For the record guys out there, the correct answer is "yes". My husband was the first guy to ever answer me honestly and that is why I married him!

My point is that when you meet a nice girl/guy and find out she/he has some issues... take the time to see if you can get to the bottom of them first before writing her/him off. You might just be the person to turn their life around and save them from their cycle of "crazy".

When the girl admits to being crazy...she is crazy...that is what happened to me...I delt with it for a month then other things started happening...I wasn't cool with. ofcourse I should had known better she did serve time for arson.

I don't think people are honest when they fill out an online dating profile and if they are serious...they need to be honest.

I aslo do not want to turn someones life around...I have done that before and ended up with my heart broken.

 

[Lord Garth]

Is there a site called geek2geek or something like that? Anyone know anything about it? Does it stink?

I tried it. Nothing really came of it. I narrowed it down to a pool of a few people but if they don't have a certain level of membership then they can't send messages, even assuming they're still looking or have paid attention to the site. It's a shot in the dark.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I tried plentyoffish.com, but the one match I got...did not work out. Not my type at all. So that kind of soured me on the whole online dating thing.

 

[sidious618]

I tried plentyoffish.com, but the one match I got...did not work out. Not my type at all. So that kind of soured me on the whole online dating thing.

Dude, if I stopped dating after one bad experience I'd never meet anyone. Try again either in person or via the website.

 

[Lindley]

It's definitely true that you have to keep at it. Don't get too wrapped up in anyone before you've even met them.

On the flip-side, do approach each in-person meeting as if there's a real possibility you might be meeting your future spouse. If you're tentative or don't seem interested, they will pick up on that. They might be fine with it or they might not----everyone is different----but they'll notice.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I tried plentyoffish.com, but the one match I got...did not work out. Not my type at all. So that kind of soured me on the whole online dating thing.

Dude, if I stopped dating after one bad experience I'd never meet anyone. Try again either in person or via the website.

I didn't say I stopped dating altogether...

 

[Kestra]

I tried plentyoffish.com, but the one match I got...did not work out. Not my type at all. So that kind of soured me on the whole online dating thing.

Dude, if I stopped dating after one bad experience I'd never meet anyone. Try again either in person or via the website.

I didn't say I stopped dating altogether...just *that site*.

One person does not a website make. I have friends who have met and formed long lasting relationships with people on free dating sites.

 

[Jetfire]

All I want is to love a woman & have her love me back...by reading some of the profiles on several sites...that doesn't seem possible...if I get some money I might try an introduction service.

 

[ThankQ]

All I want is to love a woman & have her love me back...by reading some of the profiles on several sites...that doesn't seem possible...if I get some money I might try an introduction service.

But, unless you get super duper looper lucky, you'll have to go through a huge process of failure before you get there.

 

[Jetfire]

All I want is to love a woman & have her love me back...by reading some of the profiles on several sites...that doesn't seem possible...if I get some money I might try an introduction service.

But, unless you get super duper looper lucky, you'll have to go through a huge process of failure before you get there.

I have failed enough.

The problem isn't finding someone...it is finding the right one. I am willing to endure whatever...as long as the other person can open their heart to me...as I open my heart to them. I have had several women say I am the right guy but they aren't ready for the right guy...???...and have seen them go through horrible asshole after another because of...what???

 

[Lindley]

Failing is part of the process. That's really all there is to it.

 

[ThankQ]

All I want is to love a woman & have her love me back...by reading some of the profiles on several sites...that doesn't seem possible...if I get some money I might try an introduction service.

But, unless you get super duper looper lucky, you'll have to go through a huge process of failure before you get there.

I have failed enough.

The problem isn't finding someone...it is finding the right one. I am willing to endure whatever...as long as the other person can open their heart to me...as I open my heart to them. I have had several women say I am the right guy but they aren't ready for the right guy...???...and have seen them go through horrible asshole after another because of...what???

My answer depends on your answer...

How old are you?