So I would like to mine some of you guys for an opinion on some office drama I have. Most of us at work are in our 20s, 30s. Anyway I have a friend at the office who is a woman who I've been close friends with. Totally platonic mind you, we have always been like a brother and sister duo. Yet I have to mention that she is a woman because it seems like a lot of this drama and complications come from the fact that I'm not dealing with another dude, and a lot of times I just don't get what I'm confronting. So female readers please speak up. And yes I'm a straight guy. But some of this story may sound super gay, no offense to anyone out there. Well we've been very close as friends at times, but we have not really hung out outside of work, but we have often texted and called each other. Like I said, completely a brother/sister thing. I have revealed a couple of very personal details about myself to her, and she has told me some of her stuff, but not all. And there are many things I don't tell her, which I guess is all normal, who knows. But I realize that since I'm a man, when she has certain problems in her life she won't always come to me, she'll go to the other women at work, even the ones she doesn't like much or has often told me she flat out doesn't even trust. That does sting, but I swallow it since I realize I'm a guy and she needs her fellow women to talk about things. But when she goes to the other guys at work with problems, it really was a sock in the gut to me. She told everyone in the office about a boyfriend breakup she was having, and never told me, and still has not told me. The thing is, I know her well enough to figure out something was going on in her life weeks ago, just by how weird and often short, curt and overall rude she was being towards me. I tried to ask what was going on, but she would tell me nothing or answer sharply and rudely that it wasn't my buisness. Keep in mind, at times I felt bad about this, but I wanted to be a good friend and let her be. I realize her personal stuff is her business, and I'm not demanding to know her life but I felt it really rude for her to discuss her stuff with the office, especially the other men at the office, but exclude me out, considering how close I thought we were. If it were any other woman at work, or even one of the fellas who I'm not friends with, I wouldn't care, I would think, hey it's their life. But with her, wow I felt really hurt and embarrassed. I mentioned this to one of the guys at work and he was surprised she didn't tell me anything, as she's been going on and on with everyone else. A couple of the women at work actually understood why I was hurt and surprsingly saw my side. Another woman had no idea why she would leave me out, other then she didn't intend to hurt me. I say surprisingly because I was sure some folks would think I was being a whiner or a big baby, needing to know everything. But these women still tried to a little defending of my friend, which was expected. Well lately I haven't been talking to her as much but she's also been keeping to herself as well, again I've felt hurt but I also know she needs her privacy. When I finally asked her why she didn't tell me, she said it was because I never ask her about such things. I couldn't believe it. It seemed like such a bullshit argument to use on me, you know like a used carsalesmen or bullshit politician argument. I mean when I do ask what's going on she shuts me down, or even wants to know why I'm prying in about her and her boyfriend, now I'm being told I never care enough about her life so that's why she didn't tell me anything. I don't get this, don't get this at all. I try to give her her privacy b/c a lot of times she doesn't want to talk about her stuff with her boyfriend with me, but then I"m told I'm an jerk of a friend b/c I don't ask about her life so that's why she doesn't tell me anything. She also said I'm being the more unreasonable and unfair person then she is and I've not been there for her and been giving her a cold shoulder. Telling the other guys at the office about her problems before coming to me is what made me feel bad, as I always figured she'd come to me. I know she's suffering and going through problems, but I'm wondering if this friendship is worth bothering with anymore. Having a female friend like this has been such a damn headache, but I do highly value our friendship when it works, plus she has been there for me before when I've had my own problems. But I'm getting sick of the office drama, perhaps it's best to not have friends at work, of either gender. What do you guys think?