My family arn't good people!

[T J]

I know it's a horrible thing to say but my family are not good people. You know you meet people who are just the nicest folks you could ever hope to meet? Not my family, not a one! It's so frustrating when you realize the people you are supposed to love, hell, WANT to love are just not good people... Every moment I'm not talking to them is a win for me where I don't have to experience their ignorant poison.

Guess this makes me sound just like them, not good at all but dammit I am and I pity them. Not enough to have a heart attack over them but just enough to vent on the Trek BBS!

 

[USS Triumphant]

Hey, welcome to the club!

The only family I have that's really worth a crap are the ones I've either chosen, or made with my wife.

 

[T J]

I hear ya! God I love my wife!!!

 

[DangerMouse]

The law of averages says pretty much every family is going to have bad eggs... I find it more disappointing and sad than frustrating as there's nothing you can do to either change people or who your family are.

 

[auntiehill]

My husband's entire family are pretty bad eggs. They are the most socially backwards, selfish, ignorant, crazy, repulsive people I have ever met. Man--- I thought my family was messed up with a drunk and a drug addict. Next to my in-laws, my family is a freaking Leave It To Beaver episode.

We had to do an exercise for our adoption class--think of all the positive things you learned from your family and describe what it was and who taught it to you.

Hubby stared at his paper for an hour and couldn't think of one damn thing. That's seriously messed up.

 

[RandyS]

I gotta agree. My dad and my brother are both scum (and no, I don't feel a single bit guilty for saying it, you should hear some of the stuff they've called me!), and it's been years since I've seen or spoken to either one.

In the case of my brother though, I regret it, because I always wanted to be his friend, until I realize what a dick he became.

 

[trampledamage]

We had to do an exercise for our adoption class--think of all the positive things you learned from your family and describe what it was and who taught it to you.

Hubby stared at his paper for an hour and couldn't think of one damn thing. That's seriously messed up.

Jeez. That's hard. Glad he found you and I hope both of you do get to adopt a child.

 

[propita]

My grandmother. She wouldn't let my Mom call her "Mom" for the first 12 years of Mom's life for fear someone would think my grandmother was actually someone's mother. When my sister was born (the oldest grandchild), my great-grandfather blew his top when his daughter refused to be called "Bubbie" (grandmother in Yiddish) and insisted upon it.

She's been horrible to to my Mom for Mom's entire life--and she's still alive! Just turned 95yo and refused to give my Mom a 75th b-day card unless Mom drove into LA to take my grandmother here and there for errands. Mom does this twice a month, but on her birthday? Under threat?

Within a month of Dad's death, my grandmother--on Mother's Day with Mom sitting right next to her--didn't like something I said and commented, "You're just like your Father." "Thank you," I said. She said, "That's not a compliment." All I said was, "That's more of a compliment than you will ever know." She gave up then. Likely because she knew that I'm not THAT MUCH like Dad--he would never chew her out in public as I was about to if she opened her mouth again.

She has never said another derogatory word about me or Dad in my presence. To my Mom, yes; but not to me. What I would have to say to her is pretty bad. Along the lines of, "I really wish you had died instead of Dad." And yes, I really would say that to her face.

 

[Marc]

My husband's entire family are pretty bad eggs. They are the most socially backwards, selfish, ignorant, crazy, repulsive people I have ever met. Man--- I thought my family was messed up with a drunk and a drug addict. Next to my in-laws, my family is a freaking Leave It To Beaver episode.

We had to do an exercise for our adoption class--think of all the positive things you learned from your family and describe what it was and who taught it to you.

Hubby stared at his paper for an hour and couldn't think of one damn thing. That's seriously messed up.

Pity they specified postive things otherwise he could of written that his family showed him how parents shouldn't behave and would do his damndest to ensure he was was never that way.

 

[Kirk-Fu]

I hear ya about Families having bad eggs. Out of all my relatives the only decent ones have been one of my Brothers (My twin) and My Mom.
My Dad was an abusive alcoholic and my other two Brothers and their families want nothing to do with my Brother or I since my Mom passed away.
My Aunt and Uncle and their kids didn't care for us either. When they died they left my 2 other Brothers millions but since my twin and I didn't kiss their asses enough we were left zip.
The only true Family I have right now is my twin Brother.

 

[sidious618]

My family isn't full of bad people but it is full of obnoxious ones.

 

[jkladis]

Humans don't normally want to be bad, however anger and bitterness often fuel it. We convince ourselves that we should be assholes for reason X.

Find out what X is and try to fix or eliminate.

 

[Plomeek Broth]

I must have won the lottery because my folks are wonderful for the most part. I certainly do not take it for granted either.

 

[Goji]

No one in my family is perfect, and neither am I, but I would rather be around them than most of the other asshats I've managed to come across so far in my life.

 

[Plomeek Broth]

No one in my family is perfect, and neither am I, but I would rather be around them than most of the other asshats I've managed to come across so far in my life.

It has been through extensive experience that I have realized most people truly are asshats as well.

 

[Kestra]

My husband's entire family are pretty bad eggs. They are the most socially backwards, selfish, ignorant, crazy, repulsive people I have ever met. Man--- I thought my family was messed up with a drunk and a drug addict. Next to my in-laws, my family is a freaking Leave It To Beaver episode.

We had to do an exercise for our adoption class--think of all the positive things you learned from your family and describe what it was and who taught it to you.

Hubby stared at his paper for an hour and couldn't think of one damn thing. That's seriously messed up.

That's really sad. At least he has you! I'm actually in the opposite position ... my in-laws couldn't be more wonderful. Given the cultural differences, things could be so much harder but I can't believe how lucky I am to have married into their family. My brother-in-law and his wife are our good friends and I'm perfectly comfortable calling them up and spending time with them. My parents-in-law are incredibly kind, understanding, easygoing people who don't pry yet manage to be supportive.

My family on the other hand is, well, crazy. I think we're the quirkiest family around, but I love them all dearly. We're going through a really difficult time and it's something that may continue for a long time, so that's pretty rough. But I do believe each member of my family is a good person, issues or not.

 

[John Picard]

Lessons learned in life:
1) The difference between Outlaws and In-laws is that outlaws are wanted.
2) Any time you're ashamed/embarrassed by your family, just go to the State/County Fair. Wal Mart may be substituted for the Fair, when needed.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I live far, far away from my parents--one is in Ohio, the other is in Colorado. I never hear from my father, which is probably just as well because he never has anything to say. I'd rather not hear from my mother, since she can't respect boundaries and not meddle in my life.

But hey, I don't have any in-laws. Score!

 

[MeanJoePhaser]

My one grandma told me I'd be in hell because I wasn't saved.

Her husband, my grandfather, derisively referred to any car with a lot of chrome or style as "an n-word mobile", which became high praise for grandkids. If our ride didn't meet that standard we were doing something wrong.

My dad said regarding cousins, "you might be able to count on them in a crisis, but that's it."

He was too generous in that assesment. One's a borderline con man, former preacher. Another one just got out of prison for drug related crimes (she was a heroin addict who lost custody of both her kids)...the respectable one is the adopted one but even he absorbed too much of his grandfather personality via osmosis or something.

And that's one side, I haven't seen any of my mother's side of the family since 1993.

 

[thumbtack]

My grandmother. She wouldn't let my Mom call her "Mom" for the first 12 years of Mom's life for fear someone would think my grandmother was actually someone's mother. When my sister was born (the oldest grandchild), my great-grandfather blew his top when his daughter refused to be called "Bubbie" (grandmother in Yiddish) and insisted upon it.

She's been horrible to to my Mom for Mom's entire life--and she's still alive! Just turned 95yo and refused to give my Mom a 75th b-day card unless Mom drove into LA to take my grandmother here and there for errands. Mom does this twice a month, but on her birthday? Under threat?

Within a month of Dad's death, my grandmother--on Mother's Day with Mom sitting right next to her--didn't like something I said and commented, "You're just like your Father." "Thank you," I said. She said, "That's not a compliment." All I said was, "That's more of a compliment than you will ever know." She gave up then. Likely because she knew that I'm not THAT MUCH like Dad--he would never chew her out in public as I was about to if she opened her mouth again.

She has never said another derogatory word about me or Dad in my presence. To my Mom, yes; but not to me. What I would have to say to her is pretty bad. Along the lines of, "I really wish you had died instead of Dad." And yes, I really would say that to her face.

I've known a few old buzzards like this. I've never understood their behavior. They're 4 feet into the grave and stilling being a-holes to one and all. Even if there is no afterworld or day of reckoning, you'd still think they'd want to go out on a high note.