Mental illness and Neurodiversity Support Group

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  1. Obsidian7

    Obsidian7 Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    The noisy neighbour left in May 2019. The trouble is long over but I'm dealing with the after effects. Since then, I've still been dealing with face/scalp eczema, blepharitis and other delayed stress 'reactions.' I spoke up about the long term risks to my health before they happened but it fell on deaf ears. Hard to reason with people who talk in circles and can't have linear thoughts. Over a two and a half/three year period my physical and mental health dropped. I'm still trying to get back to normal. At least, what's normal for my long term condition.

    I tried wearing silicone earplugs at night but didn't find them comfortable. During the trouble, I listened to iphone music with noise cancelling headphones too. But then, it was hard to escape the noise all night and my body was still screaming for sleep.

    I've got a hormonal deficiency. It's a rare condition that affects 1 in 80,000 men and 1 in 120,000 women. While the problems were ongoing (because of my noisy neighbour and the narcissistic abuse from the local government/authority who refused to stop him) I had my hormone levels checked out. It's important to get my levels checked every year. I was worried because it's not wise to be below the normal level. Sleep deprivation can screw with hormones.

    The levels came back normal though. No thyroid problems either. Instead, they found that my cholesterol levels were a little high. At that time I'd already changed my diet to deal with the eczema. I was roughly two months into it at that point.

    My hormones were out of whack and probably still are. Anxiety is a part of my condition and it was/still is difficult to relax. I tried to go out and have fun during the trouble but it was hard. I'd be sleep deprived before I went out anywhere and sleep deprived when I came back. My body couldn't recover at all and the stress and tiredness accumulated.

    Now... There are times when I can't sleep or do anything for long periods etc. I can't watch intense action sequences because it kinda triggers my anxiety. For a while I also had recurring nightmares of the noisy neighbours breaking into my home. Now it's just the occasional anxiety dream and the auditory hallucination.

    I'm trying to build a positive daily routine. Last night, I ate some probiotic cereal that's good for the gut. If I keep doing that it'll help calm my nerves before bedtime. The trick is to replace a negative routine with a positive one.

    I hope your tumor is easy to fix. I sympathize with your thyroid problems because my Mum deals with that.
     
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  2. rhubarbodendron

    rhubarbodendron Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    Your situation sounds similar to mine. I've been away from my noisy and abusive landlady for years but when I'm under stress, the problem recurs. I have the impression that I get a thinner skin (both literally and figuratively) the older I get and that each new fit of depression and anxiety leaves me more vulnerable to the next. On the other hand, I have gotten a lot of practize in suppressing those fits, so I there is a silver lining.
    Positive routines are extremely important. My sister swears by a bath, I prefer a cup of tea or warm milk with honey, a good book and a lavender scented candle. In May I always have a big bunch of lilac in my bedroom, and in February a few hyacinths but not everybody likes the scent.
     
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  3. Miss Lemon

    Miss Lemon Commodore Commodore

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    I made a list of stuff that relaxes me or puts me in a good mood. I also buy myself flowers regularly (I already have hyacinths, I love them!). And a few years back I found out that listening to soft classical music relaxes me. But the best thing for me is walking and being in nature.
     
  4. Obsidian7

    Obsidian7 Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    Warm milk and honey was great for a while during the trouble. Drinking it slowly is the best way to fall asleep quickly but sometimes the effects weren't long lasting for me. It was really nice though.

    In the fridge, I've currently got kefir and cherry juice. In the past, I had soya milk, coconut milk and almond milk to combat the stress/eczema symptoms. They had varying degrees of success like the warm milk and honey above.

    If the local government/authority had dealt with the noise problems quickly then I wouldn't have developed certain symptoms. I outlined the health difficulties that I was experiencing at the time and they got progressively worse.

    The local government/authority had the nerve to urge me to see a GP about my health. They were 'more than happy to help' with my symptoms (that they partly caused due to a lack of action) but offered no solution to stop the noise. In their mind the situation wasn't serious. They had no intentions to tackle it.

    Originally, they'd told me to see a 'victim support councillor' when I dealt with the first noisy neighbour. Talking about it just frustrated me even more because the situation just dragged on and on. The service is supposed to be for victims of crime, but in the end the local government/authority said there were no signs of criminal activity. They were willing to pull the same schtick again with the second noisy neighbour instead of punishing him. He's got a long history of violent behaviour in bars.

    That's why I'm struggling with physical/emotional problems now. It was hard to recover physically from the sleep deprivation while I was being gaslit/isolated by those whose job it was to help.

    It sounds weird but there were times I had to crouch down in the street because I was in so much pain from walking. Not even long distance. Three years ago, I had a threshold on how much walking I could cope with. I could handle a few hours if I had time to recover afterwards. Now, I've got to plan my outings because the pain threshold doesn't exist. The local government/authority engineered chaos and drama in an already stressful situation. They took away the recovery time and that's impacted my long term health.

    Luckily, I'm getting the eczema under control and can last a week before the symptoms are unbearable. But it's not a consistent solution. It's still pretty much a daily chore to keep all of the symptoms in check.

    The auditory hallucinations have stopped which is good. Hope they don't come back.
     
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  5. Armus

    Armus Commodore Commodore

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    I had a really good day yesterday. I've been suffering from some kind of psychomatic headache for a year or so. It's caused me the worst depression I've ever experienced. There is nothing worse than chronic, undiagnosed pain that nags and troubles you day by day. It has truly made appreciate the years I was relatively carefree. Yesterday I seemed to have a good handle on it somehow and I had a great craniosacral massage. The therapist listened and he understood the mind-body connection. One good day is like a new morning for the soul.
     
  6. Nakita Akita

    Nakita Akita Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

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    I'm deaf as a stone, so
    Unless my neighbor came in my house and started shooting a large caliber rifle or hand gun, like in The bed room, I pretty much can't hear it.
    Be glad you have your hearing.
     
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  7. think

    think optical interface-red Premium Member

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    yeah it is just one horrible mishap after another ,,, reemphisizing that life really does suck in the worst way --- as usual ---
    my reaction two years ago is ..=== why me I should just off myself and get life over already.. but --- NOT TODAY
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    we know life sucks 000 It has always suck that is a basic given about life.. --- so what --- .. it is all that we have this sucky life.. and.. mmmmm so what === it is more meaningless then breaking a crumb in half to make two crumbs and some specks of nothing.. the value is always nil nothing no value.. that is life.. ------ yeah that is really all of our lives I have found.. --- so what!

    Knowing the glass is half empty is the problem ,,, believing the glass is half full is the solution this does work.. I know how and do look at the sun till my eyes burn out 0000 it actually heals my eyes I have found. :) and seeing the bright side of everything makes you go blind? no it will heal the negativity I know this and am an example of this... the meaning in life is finding meaning in life
    the goal for life is the journey to the goal --- it is a solid foundation a real reality --- I am not sad by the way people don't care about the work they do at their job and they continue to make more crap products to feed capitalism it is nonsense It does not even matter it is there karma that will make their life crap like the crap they make in their workplace.

    Open your mind.
    Be the naked orange.
     
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  8. rhubarbodendron

    rhubarbodendron Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    do you all, too, get a craving for a soft boiled egg when you're under stress /depressed /anxious?
    I asked my sister and she shares the craving but 2 is too few for a reliable statistics.

    In my experience, the body always demands what it needs at the moment. So maybe eggs contain something that helps us cope with stress. I suspect it might be the lecithine in the yolk. If that turned out to be so indeed, we might be able to counteract the problem at an early stage by modifying our diet.
     
  9. MrPicard

    MrPicard Jean-Luc's Loving Husband Premium Member

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    Hmm. I crave a cigarette when I'm under stress/depressed/anxious, and I rarely ever grab myself one. But when I'm in a really really bad shape emotionally? Cigarettes it is. Never any food. (I'm the "I stop eating when I'm upset" type.)
     
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  10. Miss Lemon

    Miss Lemon Commodore Commodore

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    I have a friend who is a vegetarian and he craves meat when he’s stressed. Myself, I crave alcohol and chocolate when I’m stressed.

    But if I’m honest, I also crave alcohol and chocolate when I’m not stressed. ;)
     
  11. T'Bonz

    T'Bonz Romulan Curmudgeon Administrator

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    I crave carbs when stressed.
     
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  12. Avro Arrow

    Avro Arrow Barely an Inconvenience Moderator

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    No, but I'm not really a fan of eggs, so I pretty much never crave them.

    I crave chocolate when stressed.
     
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  13. think

    think optical interface-red Premium Member

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    Stress Like when I am stressed in a situation .. I leave.. as fast as possible to remove myself from the 'discomfort' if I can't remove myself I detach and ground myself as best I can In a balanced type form of real and unreal associations with what is there and what might be going on.. of course that is all theory and never really happens to much.. I just don't find things stressful other than like moving where I live.. 000 that is when I might lose my mind and do things that don't make sense or are like unsensible and such.. I actually threw out my string theory maths springer books.. --- and stuff like that. (I have to think that is what I did .. as they did not make the move.)

    stress has effects on our body that can cause physical illness to manifest ,,, mostly like increased pain and such.. it is when relaxing doesn't help that these happen.. and like myself my blood pressure rises to insane levels .. 000 the last time it was bad my bp just kept rising till they gave me nitroglycerin--- that lowed the bp some... you know.

    stress is a motivational technique with job managers .. those evil beings give you more stress to make you work better ,, don't they know that it makes the work even harder..and failure even more possible. ?
     
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  14. rhubarbodendron

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    yes, someone should tell that to my boss. He always demends analyses and results in minutes and doesn't realize that accuracy reqires the time he doesn't give me.

    Thanks @ all for the egg-wise feedback. It seems that different people have different cravings, but unless we are so upset that we lose all appetite, we all seem to crave what each of us considers comfort food. Maybe I am so fond of the eggs because in my childhood it was an extremely rare treat. My mom makes soft boiled eggs about once per decade.
     
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  15. Nakita Akita

    Nakita Akita Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

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    But they have bosses yelling at them to do such and such, so they are under pressure too.:shrug:
     
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  16. Armus

    Armus Commodore Commodore

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    I heard Jordan Peterson say once that anxiety-prone people should start the day with simple proteins, like eggs. I usually have a small bowl of oatmeal, which my grandfather ate every morning for years and he lived to his 90s.
     
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  17. think

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  18. Peach Wookiee

    Peach Wookiee Cuddly Mod of Doom Moderator

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    Carbs are my stress food too, particularly plain potato chips and sweets. I think it's a good thing I just got a couple of snow days. I've still been anxious and having an unexpected mini vacation has helped me calm down.
     
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  20. Obsidian7

    Obsidian7 Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

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    Yeah.

    That happened last year for a little while. I just had the craving for a boiled egg out of nowhere. Sometimes threw in a bit of salad too.