not being emotionless, but controlling them and living my life based on logic and reason. There has been no books written on this that I can turn to, which frankly surprised me. Any advice?
I would advise studying Dialetical Behavioral Therapy self-help books that discuss the balance of emotion mind and logic/reason mind.
I wouldn't recommend it. It's impossible to get through the day in the modern world controlling your emotions, and devoting yourself to logic only serves to emphasize how truly illogical the world we live in is.
Well, for some people that would in fact mean a lot more sex than we're currently getting. They're currently getting. I meant to say than they're currently getting.
Start by asking if you could talk to a woman as beautiful as Droxine in "The Cloud Minders", observe that she is attracted to you, note that she is single, and then just go away without asking her out on a date.
LIke the rest of us weren't thinking that. Seriously, it's perhaps worth noting that the Vulcans are not meant to be role models. They represent one extreme, not an ideal. Heck, the whole point of the Spock-Kirk-McCoy trinity is that Spock represents logic, McCoy represents emotion, and Kirk acts to balance the two. Superego, Id, and Ego, basically Go back and watch the STAR TREK: THE MOTION PICTURE again. Spock's whole arc in that movie is about him realizing that a life of pure logic is not enough. He rejects Kolinahr (the total purging of emotions) in favor of finally coming to terms with his human emotions. Humans are not Vulcans. That's not how we work.
Having attempted the same in my childhood and teen years, I can confidently offer the following advice: Don't.
You might want to look into Stoicism, it's a workable real world philosophy, that has some key parallels. There's been several recent well reviewed books on the subject. Note: I haven't read any of them. While I'm a bit of a natural stoic, I haven't felt compelled to further study the subject.
It’s hard to separate emotion out from decision making when our basic moral principles derive from emotion. Attempts to behave like Vulcans, for humans, would be exercises in righteous self denial. For most of us, it’d likely result in contributing more to the collective for a little while but being so exhausted and miserable on the first really bad day the dam would break.
Clearly am missing something. Short of the Kolhinaru, Vulcans are not emotionless they master their passions.