I Am Writing A Book And Nobody Cares:

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by In_Correct, Mar 25, 2016.


Are People Just Rude?

  1. Always.

    2 vote(s)
  2. Sometimes.

    18 vote(s)
  3. Never.

    0 vote(s)
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  1. In_Correct

    In_Correct Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

    Jan 15, 2016
    I asked two "friends" if they would like to read the draft to it. There is no hurry. But I never even got a reply from either of them. Nobody bothered to take ten seconds out of their "busy" day. I not going to ask anybody else. Also I was thinking about adding photographs which would work as illustrations. I could do the illustrations / photography all by myself, but it would take much more time and it would be much less fun. I thought my "friends" would enjoy it. It is a comedy book. And I was looking forward to seeing them explode with laughter while reading it. I would have welcomed criticism before publishing it, risk making a fool of my self. I do not want to tell the details of the book. I also trusted my "friends" be cause I worry that what if other people infringe it? Sadly, I will not make any more friends. I am through. Has society become so "social" that all they want to do is play video games, "share", and watch useless entertainment? Is direct one on one simple communication something people do not do ... or I am unlikeable?

    Sorry but I never figured out the "We Work Jobs We Hate. To Buy Things We Don't Need. To Impress People We Don't Like". Lifestyle that seems to be the only thing to do if you want "friends" and "relationships".

    I have many different books (and films) that I would love to write / make. But based on this new level of optimism, I will probably make every effort to ruin my own projects be cause I assume that nobody wants to read / watch.
  2. sojourner

    sojourner Admiral In Memoriam

    Sep 4, 2008
    Just around the bend.
    Sounds lke you really just need to find better friends. Or give them more time to respond.
  3. RandyS

    RandyS Vice Admiral Admiral

    Nov 9, 2007
    I know how you feel. 27 years ago, I was working on a book, and asked a friend if he wanted to read the first daft. When I heard nothing after four months, I asked him for the draft back, he returned it without discussing it. After letting some more time pass, I finally asked him what he thought of it, and he replied "I'm not qualified to give an opinion".

    To this day, that remark still confuses me.
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  4. Tora Ziyal

    Tora Ziyal Vice Admiral Admiral

    Feb 27, 2010
    Maybe join a writing group -- you'll get feedback on your writing, and you might make some new friends.
  5. Mr. Laser Beam

    Mr. Laser Beam Fleet Admiral Admiral

    May 10, 2005
    The visitor's bullpen
    Probably because there is no such lifestyle.

    It's certainly not necessary for having relationships, I know that much. Anyone who doesn't like you unless you buy shit, IS NOT YOUR FRIEND, and never was.
  6. DeepSouthTrekFan

    DeepSouthTrekFan Ensign Red Shirt

    Mar 20, 2016
    It takes a lot of effort to read someone's work, especially if it's not your genre, for example. Even in writer's groups. No answer might be better than some negative review given out of a sense of duty. Just sayin...
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  7. DonIago

    DonIago Vice Admiral Admiral

    Mar 22, 2001
    Burlington, VT, USA
    I've had trouble getting people who knew me to read a -single-page- excerpt, even after I'd read novel-length material of theirs and offered critique. "Oh, I'm too busy" and "If I read your thing I'd have to read everyone else's" were two of the lines I got. And I engaged in discussions about the situation that took longer than it would have taken for the people to read the darned thing.

    Appreciate the people willing to make the effort to read your stuff, and remember who you can count on, but consider them the exception rather than the rule.
  8. RJDiogenes

    RJDiogenes Idealistic Cynic and Canon Champion Premium Member

    Jun 11, 2003
    RJDiogenes of Boston
    You should cultivate friends who also have an interest in writing, so that you can read each other's stuff; or join a forum devoted to writing. I beta-read books for several of my friends and have friends who read my stuff. In fact, some of the best books I've read in the past few years have been unpublished or self-published works.
    Jim Gamma and Jedi_Master like this.
  9. teacake

    teacake Fleet Admiral Admiral

    Jan 20, 2007
    inside teacake
    I have a friend whose written an (unpublished) book and I've never read it.
  10. Guy Gardener

    Guy Gardener Fleet Admiral Admiral

    Apr 15, 2000
    In the lap of squalor I assure you.
    You're an awful friend if you didn't offer to pay them, and they're awful friends if they take your money.
  11. Tom Hendricks

    Tom Hendricks Truth is a Three Edged Sword Premium Member

    Jun 7, 2004
    Tom Hendricks
  12. Jedi_Master

    Jedi_Master Admiral Admiral

    May 25, 2011
    Hurricane Alley
    Good advice. There are numerous sites devoted to this sort of thing.
  13. Spot's Meow

    Spot's Meow Vice Admiral Premium Member

    Jul 1, 2004
    Hotel California
    I've learned to do my hobbies for own personal benefit and satisfaction only. Other people have their own hobbies and aren't likely to care about yours in the way you want them to. I love creating crochet and cross-stitch projects, but when I show most people what I'm working on their eyes gloss over and I can tell they are 0% interested. But that's okay. Because I don't give a shit about their basketball picks or the car they're working on. Everyone has their things. Find other people who are into the same things, or accept that your friends may not always care about your things. I know that I feel just as much accomplishment and satisfaction from completing a crochet project whether others like it or not.
  14. Joel_Kirk

    Joel_Kirk Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Aug 16, 2009
    In the Joel Zone, identifying as Sexually Fluid.
    If you want feedback for your writing, I recommend the following sites:

    *Critters Workshop (for SF/F/H)
    *Zoetrope (all genres, be careful for those who may take feedback too seriously)
    *Critique Circle (all genres)
  15. RJDiogenes

    RJDiogenes Idealistic Cynic and Canon Champion Premium Member

    Jun 11, 2003
    RJDiogenes of Boston
    We do it for love, not money. :adore:
  16. Ascension1214

    Ascension1214 Ensign Red Shirt

    Jun 7, 2009
    @In_Correct : I'd be glad to give it a read and give you notes. I love Star Trek and am a writer as well. For what it's worth...
  17. Finn

    Finn Bad Batch of TrekBBS Premium Member

    Mar 30, 2006
    In the 32nd Century
    Actually, i've observed that the friends may find it intimidating and worried that they won't react the way they think they should for their author friend. If it was me, I wouldn't ask friends or relatives to go over a draft...not even my wife.

    I would find someone who has experience in reviewing drafts for someone who wants to publish. Yes, you may have to pay a fee. But if you really want to publish it, it should be worth a shot.

    You didn't really describe the book clearly. "comedy" can mean anything, and it is relative.

    My advice is to stop using this as an excuse to stop making friends, and find someone who reviews draft professionally or at least frequently for a variety of people.
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  18. Kor

    Kor Fleet Admiral Admiral

    Jul 31, 2001
    My mansion on Qo'noS
    If this is a book that you plan to have published, I think it may be better to connect with a group of people with substantial writing experience, instead of just getting random friends to review it.

  19. rhubarbodendron

    rhubarbodendron Vice Admiral Admiral

    May 1, 2011
    milky way, outer spiral arm, Sol 3
    Sometimes, people really don't have the time or energy to read thoroughly. I'm myself guilty of that.
    Still, there are many professional and semi-professional writers here and on other SciFi boards. They might indeed be able to give you far better advice than your friends.
  20. In_Correct

    In_Correct Lieutenant Commander Red Shirt

    Jan 15, 2016
    I thought I would update what happened. Last month one of the people texted me saying that they were thinking of me and decided to say Hi. Etc. And one of the things she asked was how my book was going.

    Which I actually have not finished because I have thought of new things to include in it. But currently I am watching the entire series of Star Trek Voyager for the first time and that might mean I am going to be on this website commenting about everything lol.

    Thank you for the kind messages. I will let you know when I have completed the revision of it.