How to make friends after postsecondary school?

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  1. krsplat

    krsplat Lieutenant Red Shirt

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    How to make friends after postsecondary school?

    What are some examples of an appropriate social setting for someone who's too old to
    go on an average college campus and interact with their peer group?

    It seems like there's no significant or meaningful program for people after college/university,
    employers in my area usually aren't willing to spend enough time on a conversation that might
    lead to an interview or an employment opportunity. The employers that are so reluctant to
    consider speaking with prospective employees, to the point they decide they don't have time for a
    conversation or an interview, they basically become labeled as being antisocial zones or
    having discriminatory employment practice, and it seems like a circular logic since the employers
    won't spend any time on a conversation with anyone, therefore the employees already there have to
    complete a higher percentage of the tasks, and that just becomes their excuse for not wanting
    to communicate with prospective employees. It's like a syndrome where they don't have time for
    employment interviews, because they already have too much other work to do, and the result being
    they never find other employees to help share the workload.

    The average response "you have to apply on the internet" makes it look like those employers
    don't have sufficient communication skills that they can't have a conversation with someone
    who's already there, and they expect someone who's already there to have a conversation on the
    internet, because they don't have time or they don't want to have a direct conversation through
    verbal communication. And that also makes it look even worse since people who don't have the
    conversational skills of being able to use verbal communication should be in school learning
    how to communicate with the other people around them, not at a workplace telling people who
    ask for an employment interview that they would prefer a more indirect form of communication. And
    then it just makes me wonder if all the employees in this locale somehow get through school
    without passing english language, or are the employers so determined to employ underage labourers
    that in this case it's not even worth doing business with those employers, they could be marked
    as relying too heavily on child labor and get shunned from doing business.

    So this has just been a description of my dilemma, seems to be a lack of employment opportunity
    in the locale, and also lack of academic opportunities for people younger than my peer group.
     
  2. Avro Arrow

    Avro Arrow Giving USA All My Many Oil Moderator

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    I'm a little unclear on the topic you want for this thread. You start by asking about making friends, but everything under the spoiler tag (not sure why that's a spoiler?) is all about looking for employment. Which one are you actually looking for opinions on?

    FWIW, I don't really find it unexpected that employers would ask you to submit applications online; that is fairly standard. It probably doesn't really have much to do with being antisocial, it's probably just that they have specific hiring procedures, and conducting an ad hoc interview with someone who walks in off the street is not part of them.
     
  3. krsplat

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    I was just hoping for a way to function as a contributing member of society,
    w/o being disruptive to other parts of the community for no real reason.
    My educational background doesn't qualify me to submit app- on the internet.

    For the same reason I put those "run-on paragraphs" in a spoiler bloc,
    is why I don't like sending internet app- since whomever reviews the app-,
    might have to deal w/ a "wall of text" making it difficult to read the info; therewithin.

    The trad. employment app- medium,
    (e.g.; paper forms, fone interviews, being M.J.; etc.),
    seems to have become a lost art.
    & I think that most employment schemes aren't designed to be social in nature, i.e.

    I was just posting here to ask for advice, since this forum seems to have a lot of
    respectable community members where I might be able to learn something.
    Anyway, I acknowledge, this thread doesn't address any distinct topic.
    I should've probably asked about this on an advice column instead.
     
  4. Asbo Zaprudder

    Asbo Zaprudder Admiral Admiral

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    You don't need to be highly educated to apply for employment online. You do need Internet access, of course. Depending on the job for which you are applying, attention to spelling, grammar, syntax, and punctuation can cause some applicants to be discounted automatically for consideration. I know because I was involved in recruiting staff for roles in the companies for which I worked. In addition, lying or exaggerating on application forms will probably be discovered sooner or later - often while being interviewed.

    In addition, I wouldn't look at a job as a means of making close friends or meeting life partners, or even seeking sexual hook-ups (these last two might or might not be the subtext here). It can happen but it can also become a major problem if you have a falling out.
     
  5. JirinPanthosa

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    Meetup.com for social interaction.
     
  6. krsplat

    krsplat Lieutenant Red Shirt

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    I guess just joining the PTA, or the SGA, might possibly be good ideas, also.
    For the uninitiated, or the uninformed,
    the PTA is "parent-teacher-association,"
    the SGA is "student-government-association."
     
  7. RandyS

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    What the hell is post secondary school? Is it anything like middle school, which I also don't know what that is?
     
  8. auntiehill

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    It's a ridiculously obscure way to describe any schooling after high school--college, trade school, vocational training classes, etc.
     
  9. Avro Arrow

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    Might be just a regional difference? It's a common term around here. But although we use the term "high school" colloquially, all of our high schools are officially "Secondary Schools", abbreviated S.S. So "post-secondary" follows fairly naturally from that.

    Middle school, I'm not sure of, since we don't have them here. But from what I've picked up from from American TV, it's just a separate school between elementary and secondary. One presumes probably for grades 6 to 8? (In regions with both "middle" and "high" schools, are elementary schools referred to as "low"?)

    I'm only talking about my own city here, as presumably things are different in other jurisdictions. (For example, I know that in some of the rural areas around my city, the secondary schools are called "Collegiate Institutes" instead.)

    Sorry for the tangent, I just love learning about these tiny little differences between regions that are otherwise overall quite similar! :)
     
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