How do I approach a temp co-work about going out?

[bigdaddy]

We are both temp guys, both our last night is tonight, so I'm kind of going against the clock.

I'm pretty sure he is gay, he loves Beauty and the Beast, was screwing around with lip balm, and I think he even said to some girl "All my friends in college are gay, which is fitting". I really hate approaching guys in general because when I do they turn out to be "straight".

However I'm never really alone with him to talk to him, or even just come out and ask him. It wouldn't be for dating dating, he goes to school in Vermont, but more as a friendly date to build a friendship, even through I think he's hot. I'm still completely clueless on this topic.

 

[MetalPants]

Ask him if he'd like to go to (insert place name) for a (insert beverage or food item) around (insert time).

Easy enough.

 

[Starbreaker]

Applicable to everyone : don't be creepy.

 

[SeerSGB]

We are both temp guys, both our last night is tonight, so I'm kind of going against the clock.

I'm pretty sure he is gay, he loves Beauty and the Beast, was screwing around with lip balm, and I think he even said to some girl "All my friends in college are gay, which is fitting". I really hate approaching guys in general because when I do they turn out to be "straight".

However I'm never really alone with him to talk to him, or even just come out and ask him. It wouldn't be for dating dating, he goes to school in Vermont, but more as a friendly date to build a friendship, even through I think he's hot. I'm still completely clueless on this topic.

Simple: Just tell him you want to take him out to get a farewell beer. And then just talk to him and let things find their natural course.

Ask him if he'd like to go to (insert place name) for a (insert beverage or food item) around (insert time).

Easy enough.

You do not want to know how horrifically I misread that

Applicable to everyone : don't be creepy.

Oh....it's DON'T be creepy.... I think I have some apology letters to write.

 

[J.T.B.]

Ask him if he'd like to go to (insert place name) for a (insert beverage or food item) around (insert time).

Thanks for stopping there with the "inserting!"

 

[Too Much Fun]

I'm pretty sure he is gay, he [...] was screwing around with lip balm

Using chapstick is a telltale sign that someone is gay? I love chapstick! If I use it in public are people going to get the wrong idea about my orientation?

 

[bigdaddy]

We aren't going to get a beer at 6am. We are having a party and will be having breakfest.

Using chapstick is not gay, having a few minute long talk about how you like some fruity flavor of sone fancy brand is gay.

However if you use it in public, yes people will think you are gay. Do you use your finger to apply it? If not then you are gay in the eyes of women.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

We aren't going to get a beer at 6am. We are having a party and will be having breakfest.

Then maybe a cup of coffee or breakfast one day next week, at the time you're used to getting off work.

Using chapstick is not gay, having a few minute long talk about how you like some fruity flavor of sone fancy brand is gay.

 

[MetalPants]

Ask him if he'd like to go to (insert place name) for a (insert beverage or food item) around (insert time).

Thanks for stopping there with the "inserting!"

I must be slipping. I had no idea how bad my comment could be interpreted.

 

[Saga]

just ask, 'so, what do you allow?' you would be surprised how many interesting conversations have began with just that question.

 

[clint g]

I find that alcohol works well in these situations

 

[Saga]

I find that alcohol works well in these situations

 

[Guitarded]

One of my best friends, that I met at work, is gay. I had suspected it for quite a while, but, as mentioned in the OP, it's hard to find an appropriate way to ask if someone putts from the rough.

Eventually, it just came up in the course of natural conversation. I know your time-frame doesn't allow for that, so maybe you could make comments like "[name] is attractive" and see how he responds.

Or ask him who he thinks the hottest celebrity is.

 

[DonIago]

"It's been great working with you, and why have you not taken me to your home, bent me over your living room couch and pounded my ass?"

Yeah, I'm smooth...

 

[bigdaddy]

just ask, 'so, what do you allow?' you would be surprised how many interesting conversations have began with just that question.

Need to remember this....

"It's been great working with you, and why have you not taken me to your home, bent me over your living room couch and pounded my ass?"

Yeah, I'm smooth...

That would be very nice, but I go both ways.

I went up to him right before leaving while he was holding stuffed animals and simply went...

"Hi, I have an odd question... are you gay?"

He laughed and said "No, these are for my girlfriend... blah blah blah" and I left to say bye to my manager.

He's a closet case like another co-worker. I'm not wrong.

 

[Shazam!]

Ask him if he wants to see your elephant impression.

 

[DonIago]

^(snicker)

I approached a possibly-gay co-worker a few weeks back myself, just asked whether he'd be interested in going out to lunch. On the minus side he's not in my department so it may have seemed a bit odd that I'd ask him...OTOH most of the people in my dept are women in their 50s, so it would make sense I'd want to go out with someone in my peer group. On the plus side, since he isn't in my dept if things went poorly I wouldn't have to see him on a regular basis.

At the time he said he'd be up for it sometime but he gets fairly short lunch-breaks (he's in IT, so for all I know that's the utter truth). Never did hear back from him on it, but for all I know he forgot I even brought it up. I did however end up in an elevator with him and one of his co-workers in which they asked him what he and his wife were doing for the holidays, which answered a few points and lowered my interest in grabbing lunch with him to begin with.

Would still be nice to have a friend at work, but I don't think I could ask him out again without seeming like a bit of a dork.

 

[RandyS]

Do this, go up to him and ask him out. If he says yes, great, if he says no, drop it.

Not much you can do beyond that. No without coming off as a stalker.

Or crazy.

 

[bigdaddy]

Would still be nice to have a friend at work, but I don't think I could ask him out again without seeming like a bit of a dork.

Not a dork, but crazy.

Applicable to everyone : don't be creepy.

Don't be crazy.

People act like you can just go up to someone and ask them out. He was a co-worker, so if I asked him out and he said no, that he is straight then it would be even worse than just asking him out and getting a no.

 

[Lookingglassman]

HEY!!!! I also love Beauty and the Beast and can't live without my lip balm, but I like chicks!