This year for my birthday I decidet to do friends and family on different days and to not have just a party.... because I do not like parties....at least not the ones I know. Never feel comfortable with all the drinking for example.
So with my best friends I decidet to do a relaxing day on my bithday in a termal bath...hot water, swimming, bubbles, different kind of sauna and that sort of thing.
My family I want to invite 2 days later to an english cream tea (because I rather liked that in England). I also already tested out baking scones and fed them to some friends who enjoyed them.
I will not only have scones, jam, cream and butter, but also an english apple pie (tried this one already out with friends as well and they liked it) and different kind of cookies...however the main thing should be the freshly baken scones.
To this I want to serve tea (of course), but also coffee, water and a collection of juices.
I do NOT want to serve all this artifical sugar bombs (coke etc.) and alcohol, nor do I want to serve the cakes and cookies I know they know and always eat.
Now thats were the problem starts... I will invite for cream tea at my parents house, as they live in the city, where all my family lives (while I live somewhere else).
So my parents now say I cannot do it that way. Well, I am adult, so I decite, but they find as I want to do it at their house they decite as well and they want to be hospitable, therefore they want that I also serve what the people know AND that I do offer them alcohol (mainly beer, wine, champage, but they also love the more heavier things like whisky, liquor ...).
Otherwise they say it is inhostiable.
Now we speak here about a sunday AFTERNOON.
However here alcohol gets always served somehow... my family consists of a majority of heavy drinkers, a minority of light drinkers...and then a minor-minority (which is just me) of non-drinkers.
When someone celebrates and invites for breakfast it is a champagne-breakfast, if you invite for brunch or lunch you need to serve wine, champage and beer at the most, same goes for afternoon-tea and in the evening you of course need to have everything that the alcohol-god ever made. That is the norm.
Now my question: Do you find it inhospitable when I serve them no alcohol and mostly things to eat they do NOT know?
Is that too "radical"? Too imposing?
First I wanted to invite them for a vegetarian buffet...but the outrage was too big. (I am the only vegetarian in the family). What? You cannot have NOT meat! You know they all eat and love meat.
So then I decidet for the cream tea.... but here again...
TerokNor
So with my best friends I decidet to do a relaxing day on my bithday in a termal bath...hot water, swimming, bubbles, different kind of sauna and that sort of thing.
My family I want to invite 2 days later to an english cream tea (because I rather liked that in England). I also already tested out baking scones and fed them to some friends who enjoyed them.
I will not only have scones, jam, cream and butter, but also an english apple pie (tried this one already out with friends as well and they liked it) and different kind of cookies...however the main thing should be the freshly baken scones.
To this I want to serve tea (of course), but also coffee, water and a collection of juices.
I do NOT want to serve all this artifical sugar bombs (coke etc.) and alcohol, nor do I want to serve the cakes and cookies I know they know and always eat.
Now thats were the problem starts... I will invite for cream tea at my parents house, as they live in the city, where all my family lives (while I live somewhere else).
So my parents now say I cannot do it that way. Well, I am adult, so I decite, but they find as I want to do it at their house they decite as well and they want to be hospitable, therefore they want that I also serve what the people know AND that I do offer them alcohol (mainly beer, wine, champage, but they also love the more heavier things like whisky, liquor ...).
Otherwise they say it is inhostiable.
Now we speak here about a sunday AFTERNOON.
However here alcohol gets always served somehow... my family consists of a majority of heavy drinkers, a minority of light drinkers...and then a minor-minority (which is just me) of non-drinkers.
When someone celebrates and invites for breakfast it is a champagne-breakfast, if you invite for brunch or lunch you need to serve wine, champage and beer at the most, same goes for afternoon-tea and in the evening you of course need to have everything that the alcohol-god ever made. That is the norm.
Now my question: Do you find it inhospitable when I serve them no alcohol and mostly things to eat they do NOT know?
Is that too "radical"? Too imposing?
First I wanted to invite them for a vegetarian buffet...but the outrage was too big. (I am the only vegetarian in the family). What? You cannot have NOT meat! You know they all eat and love meat.
So then I decidet for the cream tea.... but here again...
TerokNor
) - if I was you, I'd stand firm on the no alcohol because it annoys you. It's a Sunday afternoon and you're specifically inviting people to "English Tea" - no alcohol is needed.
What does he think they're going to do, contaminate his oven?! People who are unwilling to try something new to eat are missing out on so much.
