Fear

[Mr Cool Dude]

1. How does your fear stop you from doing the things you want to do?

2. How do you cope with having fear? For example, do you avoid unfamiliar situations, do you purposely try to overcome your fear, can you use your fear in a constructive way, or do you do something else entirely.

3. What do you fear?

 

[Adm_Hawthorne]

I don't skydive. I don't meddle in the supernatural. I don't wear spandex in public.

Fear is a natural base emotion that ought to prevent us from doing something stupid. "I've learned to trust fear." ...That's the line, isn't it? So, fear keeps me from doing things like driving my car through a ditch just to see what happens.

 

[Rek]

1.It stops me from going outside. I'm a loner. I keep my window covered over by a blanket. I just don't mix well with the outside world.

2. How I cope? Play games, read books, watch TV shows, go to none pg13 websites. Anything to get my mind off the outside world. I go out only for doctor appointment or family houses/out for meals with family members.

3.People(in real life). Not that I hate people, clearly I do fine on this forum. In real life I fear not being accepted into any group because I'm a small guy. Thin, hairless(rather then my head hair) 5'10, pale white and got nothing in common with anyone cept' nerds. I don't drink, smoke, party or talk much. I'm easily scared off or discouraged and often never say the right thing in face to face conversations so I'm scared to talk because I know I'll regret saying anything I say later on. Its hard to fully explain but real life =/= internet life. Real life you can't say something dumb then press "delete", change your name never go back certain local places again or press the ignore button and not have to face someone.

Internet FTW.

 

[mari]

I was talking about this with my sister last night. I have the tendency to say stupid things when put on the spot. So before I go anywhere, I try to imagine all the possible things someone could ask me, and come up with witty answers. (Or just non-stupid answers.) It works most of the time. I will also look at maps if I'm going somewhere unfamiliar, give myself a lot of extra time to get where I'm going (even within a building), that sort of thing. Research and imagination are my friends. My sister is like, How can you do that much thinking about something? I told her I have to, or I'd never do anything.

I guess what I fear most is to look stupid. I'm not, I'm just kinda slow on the uptake, a bit deaf, and have short-term memory problems. Given a few minutes and everything in writing, I'm a genius. Luckily MENSA tests are written... and the Internet is a godsend.

Rek, I hope you take Vitamin D supplements or you're going to end up with rickets. Ten minutes of sun a day, dude. Won't kill you, unless you're one of those people that's allergic to sun.

 

[JonathonWally]

Fear exists so you know when it's time to crank it up to 11.

 

[Lindley]

It depends on the type of fear.

If I'm just trying to talk myself out of doing something, I recognize that as unproductive and it actually helps me decide to do it.

If I know there are real risks in doing something, it simply makes me more cautious.

If it might potentially lead to romance, I run the other way.

 

[FrontLine]

Fear may stop me from doing something. It may keep me from putting my hand on a hot stove or wearing plaid. On the other hand it just make me be more cautious or prepared or proactive.

As for coping, again it depends on the level of fear. If the thing that I fear is something that can be managed then I just talk my self through it.

As for what do I fear? drowning, sharks, and the fuller brush man.

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

As for what do I fear? ...the fuller brush man.

It's all the attachments, isn't it?

 

[Kestra]

Fear keeps me from really wanting things, the kind of things you put your whole heart into. Day-to-day I do okay for myself, though.

 

[FrontLine]

As for what do I fear? ...the fuller brush man.

It's all the attachments, isn't it?

Kinda. My wife is a repeat customer though.

 

[Sakrysta]

Fear keeps me from really wanting things, the kind of things you put your whole heart into.

Wow. You figured out how to say it so succinctly. I've just been realizing lately, having given up my job, that I don't really want anything. And I think it's because I'm afraid the things I want are unobtainable, so why bother wanting them if I'm just going to be disappointed.

 

[scotpens]

. . . As for what do I fear? drowning, sharks, and the fuller brush man.

Do they even have Fuller Brush men anymore? For that matter, does ANY business still sell door-to-door in the internet age?

As for my personal fears: I'm afraid of everything. I cocoon myself like Howard Hughes in his dotage. In fact, right now I'm sitting at my computer naked.

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

As for what do I fear? ...the fuller brush man.

It's all the attachments, isn't it?

Kinda. My wife is a repeat customer though.

It was the one that rotated and vibrated, for those "hard to clean areas" that kept her coming back, wasn't it?

 

[Broccoli]

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[Kestra]

Fear keeps me from really wanting things, the kind of things you put your whole heart into.

Wow. You figured out how to say it so succinctly. I've just been realizing lately, having given up my job, that I don't really want anything. And I think it's because I'm afraid the things I want are unobtainable, so why bother wanting them if I'm just going to be disappointed.

It's probably not a good way to live, but yeah, I've found myself disappointed a lot and it makes me terrified to want things.

For example, I'm working on a BA right now and then I'd like to go to grad school, and I'm just fucking terrified that I'm not even going to make it out with an undergrad degree. I'm so scared to really want it because I'm worried if I do, I'll find a way to fuck it up and disappoint myself and everyone around me.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Fear is advice, not a command.

 

[RandyS]

I fear no man.

Women on the other hand scare the hell out of me.

 

[Angela 0077]

I fear hieghts.

One time l did rhis course in trying to not be like that.

I seen people in my group go up high and when it was my turn l opted out.

I was told l had to do it but l said l wouldnt.

I also have a fear of spiders big ones.

I lived in the country for two years and came across this huge spider and l wondered how l would get rid of it l decided to boil water and splash the thing what hapeened was that it got stunned then got quite nasty.

I ended up getting rid of this fear by killing it.

I corned it in the bathroom shower and hammered it with a broom until it was not moving.

But the problem then was picking it up in a dustpan l stretched my arms out as l picked it up and carried the bugger outside.

I was up until 2am trying to kill it and when l did my fear went away and l was able to sleep the rest of the night

 

[MetalPants]

1. How does your fear stop you from doing the things you want to do?
Fear of rejection and humiliation stop me from putting myself out there. On one level I realize no risk/no reward, but on a base gut level, no risk=no pain.


2. How do you cope with having fear? For example, do you avoid unfamiliar situations, do you purposely try to overcome your fear, can you use your fear in a constructive way, or do you do something else entirely.
Beer. Lots of beer.


3. What do you fear?
Lonliness.

 

[Lindley]

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.​

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