Compliments on Appearance

[MetalPants]

When someone gives you a compliment on your appearance/dress, does it mean more to you when the compliment comes from someone of your own gender or the other? Or does it matter?

I was just curious if there was any validity in the old statement that women dress to impress other women, and if if any such idea was also applicable to males.

 

[1001001]

When someone gives you a compliment on your appearance/dress, does it mean more to you when the compliment comes from someone of your own gender or the other? Or does it matter?

If it ever happens, I'll let you know.

 

[TheBrew]

Opposite gender because that's who I dress for.

 

[FordSVT]

When someone gives you a compliment on your appearance/dress, does it mean more to you when the compliment comes from someone of your own gender or the other? Or does it matter?

If it ever happens, I'll let you know.

The antennae and silver medallion are turn-offs I guess.

 

[ManOnTheWave]

How much a compliment matters is in direct proportion to how much the compliment-er matter to me (for whatever reason).

 

[Kestra]

I hate compliments on my appearance and avoid them at all costs. It just reminds me that people are looking at me.

 

[Jenee]

Opposite gender because that's who I dress for.

ditto

 

[Marie1]

Oddly- the same gender- because they know how things "should" look and the amount of work it took to get there.

I do have a hard time accepting compliments, but I'm getting slightly more gracious... I hope.

Not that I don't appreciate it from the opposite sex, but they're also more likely to give me seriously creepy comments too; like in a store recently a staff member was helping me, then continued to lurk, saying "stuff". I found my friends after a little while, and the staff member popped up again and said "the beautiful lady has friends...". Maybe you had to be there but... it was disturbing the way he said it... stalkerish.

 

[Nerys Ghemor]

I hate compliments on my appearance and avoid them at all costs. It just reminds me that people are looking at me.

Same here. I hate the attention. Either it's somebody leering (usually guys) or delivering a backhanded compliment (usually women, as though one's appearance this time is a one-off)...there's not much sincerity in between.

(For the record, I think I'm decent looking. Still, I HATE the attention.)

 

[Kestra]

or delivering a backhanded compliment (usually women, as though one's appearance this time is a one-off)...there's not much sincerity in between.

Haha, like the lady at the makeup counter the other day. I went in there without any makeup on, which means I look quite awful because of all my scars. She starts putting foundation on me and takes a step back and exclaims, "Oh, you're pretty!" in surprise. Thanks.

I do have to say I believe many people are sincere in complimenting others, so I have to disagree with you there.

 

[Rii]

It's never happened*; although I'm reasonably comfortable with my appearance these days.

* Unless 'how do you get calf muscles like that?' (from another guy) qualifies as a compliment.

 

[Hermiod]

On the rare occasions it happened, I've had the same uncomfortable reaction to the compliment.

A compliment is a compliment, however.

 

[Smiley]

Guys don't tend to compliment other guys on appearance very much, and I don't dress to impress them on anything more than a professional level. Guys are much more comfortable complimenting another man's handiwork or cool stuff. I usually only get comments from other guys if I've made a drastic change to my hair or wardrobe because that's what it takes to break through the fog.

Compliments definitely mean more to me coming from women. Those kind mean I'm doing something right.

 

[sidious618]

Most of you wouldn't want to meet me because I always hand out compliments.

 

[auntiehill]

Well, before I was married, I dressed simply not to be seen. When I was engaged, I dressed to impress him, but now I dress for ME. I do also wonder what other women think of me.

I don't get compliments very often--never did. But when I do, it's usually about something I'm wearing. I LOVE those. If a female friend says "I like that shirt," you can guarantee that I will wear the HELL out that shirt from then on.

 

[Kestra]

Well, before I was married, I dressed simply not to be seen. When I was engaged, I dressed to impress him, but now I dress for ME. I do also wonder what other women think of me.

I don't get compliments very often--never did. But when I do, it's usually about something I'm wearing. I LOVE those. If a female friend says "I like that shirt," you can guarantee that I will wear the HELL out that shirt from then on.

I think you look quite nice in pictures, on the rare occasion that you post them! Your smile just puts you across as happy and genuine.

 

[auntiehill]

Thank you! I'm very goofy looking and have always been overweight, but I am a pretty mellow person--about most things anyway. But it took me years to realize that life was more fun when you calm the hell down.

 

[Kestra]

I think you've gained more self-confidence even from the time I've been on the board. You do seem pretty at ease with things, which is something I hope to attain someday!

 

[sidious618]

Auntiehill does have a great smile, that's true. I rarely make compliments over the internet (I do it in person all the time, mind you) because it comes across as slightly creepy if you don't word it right.

 

[Kestra]

You have a low creepiness factor so I wouldn't worry about that too much.