Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
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Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall!
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Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
When it comes to dating, Lindley, just do whatever feels right. If you listen to advice you'll probably end up with a thousand different suggestions that leave you confused.
When it comes to dating, Lindley, just do whatever feels right. If you listen to advice you'll probably end up with a thousand different suggestions that leave you confused.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Maybe i'm old fashioned or very conservative but what business does a married woman have taking a walk with a stranger who's single and basically asked her out on a date?
@jayson:
Hang in there.. it'll happen sooner or later. Clean up a bit and take care of your look and try again.
And if it's only about getting laid then go to a hooker.. where's the problem?
Maybe i'm old fashioned or very conservative but what business does a married woman have taking a walk with a stranger who's single and basically asked her out on a date?
@jayson:
Hang in there.. it'll happen sooner or later. Clean up a bit and take care of your look and try again.
And if it's only about getting laid then go to a hooker.. where's the problem?
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
It may have not even occurred to her that it was meant to be a date.
It may have not even occurred to her that it was meant to be a date.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
You know, I had a riposte all ready to follow Mallory's straight line as I was scrolling down the thread, and then you just blow it totally out of the water with that brilliant gag.
You know, I had a riposte all ready to follow Mallory's straight line as I was scrolling down the thread, and then you just blow it totally out of the water with that brilliant gag.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
That's what I am worried about. I mean if a guy asks you out then, shouldn't you think that it might be because your intrested in them. Then she says yes, despite being married which means she might think I am gay or retarded. What if she said yes to be nice to the special person, like Holly did to Kevin on "The Office." I sometimes wonder if people think I am gay. Sure I like most guys wouldn't mind being tied up and serviced by a guy wearing a cheerleader outfit but I mostly prefer girls. I want to have sex all the time when I look at girls. Plus I don't think I come off as retarded. I am just shy and sure sometimes might seem wierd if you notice me at time when I am not trying to look normal, but when could she have ever noticed me doing some of my more wierd behavior?
Jason
That's what I am worried about. I mean if a guy asks you out then, shouldn't you think that it might be because your intrested in them. Then she says yes, despite being married which means she might think I am gay or retarded. What if she said yes to be nice to the special person, like Holly did to Kevin on "The Office." I sometimes wonder if people think I am gay. Sure I like most guys wouldn't mind being tied up and serviced by a guy wearing a cheerleader outfit but I mostly prefer girls. I want to have sex all the time when I look at girls. Plus I don't think I come off as retarded. I am just shy and sure sometimes might seem wierd if you notice me at time when I am not trying to look normal, but when could she have ever noticed me doing some of my more wierd behavior?
Jason
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
I don't want to pay for sex. I want to have sex like everyone else. Pretend like I am cool and normal, just long enough to get laid then I can be myself and hope the sex was good enough that she will be willing to put up with all the issue's you REALLY have.
Jason
I don't want to pay for sex. I want to have sex like everyone else. Pretend like I am cool and normal, just long enough to get laid then I can be myself and hope the sex was good enough that she will be willing to put up with all the issue's you REALLY have.
Jason
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
I'm trying. It's the sort of thing I won't be entirely convinced about until I get there, though. It's deeper than thinking----it's embedded into my worldview. I've figured out it's not helpful in any sense, but changing something like that takes time.
That part I don't think, really. I've never been one for "the chase," either. Like I said, catch-22.
I'm trying. It's the sort of thing I won't be entirely convinced about until I get there, though. It's deeper than thinking----it's embedded into my worldview. I've figured out it's not helpful in any sense, but changing something like that takes time.
That part I don't think, really. I've never been one for "the chase," either. Like I said, catch-22.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
You're not the first one to suggest that.
And that timetable may be a bit of an exaggeration. I run into girls I think are cute now and then. Some even interest me in some small way. But those who affect me to the point where I'm randomly thinking about them at all hours, unable to concentrate when they get too central on the brain.....that sort is rare for me.
I knew it! You're a Vulcan!
You're not the first one to suggest that.
And that timetable may be a bit of an exaggeration. I run into girls I think are cute now and then. Some even interest me in some small way. But those who affect me to the point where I'm randomly thinking about them at all hours, unable to concentrate when they get too central on the brain.....that sort is rare for me.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Help, I'm having a Madbaggins' thread flashback!
(Sorry, couldn't resist).
Help, I'm having a Madbaggins' thread flashback!
(Sorry, couldn't resist).
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Does it not? And if it doesn't, what is its purpose?
Don't worry about it; really. When you start to worry, just remember that every person is just a person, and that no agenda is best (i.e. kein agenda, to borrow from German; we don't seem to have a word for "not any"). Consider, too, that the most interesting persons you meet are often the ones you'd never have thought to approach.
Of the persons I've dated, all but one I met when she invited herself into a conversation I was having with someone else. I originally talked to each of them just to be nice. And the one person whom I didn't meet this way, I didn't think to approach when I first saw her, but was introduced to her by one of her friends, who'd sought me out, much to her embarrassment - and to mine - because she thought I was cute, and had been talking about me all afternoon. I only went to talk with the anonymous girl to be nice. I was very surprised to find that she was the person *I'd* been thinking about all afternoon. That made for a beautiful first impression, but it was her grammar I marveled over for days.
I wouldn't have met her - wouldn't have met anyone I've dated - if left to my own devices. And I don't know that we'd have ever gotten anywhere if I'd been concerned anything other than trying to be nice, and finding a way for us both to find something we liked to talk about - every time. I don't usually find myself tied in the knots you describe, but it's easy to let your thoughts run away with you sometimes. When that happens, remember that it's no big deal. Just be nice and enjoy yourself. It's really a lot simpler than it seems.
Does it not? And if it doesn't, what is its purpose?
Don't worry about it; really. When you start to worry, just remember that every person is just a person, and that no agenda is best (i.e. kein agenda, to borrow from German; we don't seem to have a word for "not any"). Consider, too, that the most interesting persons you meet are often the ones you'd never have thought to approach.
Of the persons I've dated, all but one I met when she invited herself into a conversation I was having with someone else. I originally talked to each of them just to be nice. And the one person whom I didn't meet this way, I didn't think to approach when I first saw her, but was introduced to her by one of her friends, who'd sought me out, much to her embarrassment - and to mine - because she thought I was cute, and had been talking about me all afternoon. I only went to talk with the anonymous girl to be nice. I was very surprised to find that she was the person *I'd* been thinking about all afternoon. That made for a beautiful first impression, but it was her grammar I marveled over for days.
I wouldn't have met her - wouldn't have met anyone I've dated - if left to my own devices. And I don't know that we'd have ever gotten anywhere if I'd been concerned anything other than trying to be nice, and finding a way for us both to find something we liked to talk about - every time. I don't usually find myself tied in the knots you describe, but it's easy to let your thoughts run away with you sometimes. When that happens, remember that it's no big deal. Just be nice and enjoy yourself. It's really a lot simpler than it seems.
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Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Fun? Exercise? And occasionally, also where babies come from.
Doesn't have to be some big earth-shattering big deal. People attach WAY too much drama and pressure to the whole thing. Once you actually do it, you look around, say "oh, that's all there is to it?", and then shrug and go do it again.
Fun? Exercise? And occasionally, also where babies come from.
Doesn't have to be some big earth-shattering big deal. People attach WAY too much drama and pressure to the whole thing. Once you actually do it, you look around, say "oh, that's all there is to it?", and then shrug and go do it again.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Stalk her. She'll succumb eventually.
Stalk her. She'll succumb eventually.
Re: Breaking News: Girl doesn't want to get in Jayson's pants afterall
Yes; the Ask Jayson forum, where nervous, alienated virginal geeks could ask the urbane yet approachable man of the world how to turn their lives around. It would have been a huge crowd puller. I too am bitterly disappointed.
Yes; the Ask Jayson forum, where nervous, alienated virginal geeks could ask the urbane yet approachable man of the world how to turn their lives around. It would have been a huge crowd puller. I too am bitterly disappointed.
