Bobby Petrino

[Knight Templar]

That might be true if your spouse cheated once or had a one night stand, but Petrino made a prolonged habit out of it. How humilated is Becky going to be once the nude photos leak out on the internet? Plus, she has to navigate the landmines of her children's shattered emotions as well. Bobby's cheated with two women that we know of--Jessica and the Republican committee bikini chick. I'm sure there's been more. You can't trust and love again when someone is constantly betraying your trust....with women half your age, to boot. It's the worst emotional pain imaginable. The fact that everyone in the community would know about it would only make it worse. With me, it was his knocking her up that broke the camel's back. Even without that, I couldn't have gotten over the anger. I didn't want someone I had to keep on a ball and chain or check up on whenever he was out of my sight. That's no kind of marriage.

Actually, according to a book I read about adultery, serial adultery is far less threatening to a marriage than an affair where the straying spouse "falls in love" with their paramour.

Serial adulterers generally have no emotional committment whatsoever to the person they're cheating with and will consistently return to their spouses. Some say that Bill Clinton was a perfect example of this and that Hillary Clinton actually told a confidant that "He always comes back to me"

 

[Dorian Thompson]

Oh, I believe you totally about that. Just because I couldn't put up with something like that doesn't mean every woman is like me, though I can only form opinions with my own point of view. Bobby P may be one of those "always return to his spouse" kind of men. How comforting is that in the long run, though? What does it do to your self esteem? What does it do to your daughters to see you put up with that kind of treatment? Hillary had so much political ambition and so many goals in common with Bill that divorcing him didn't make sense to her. Her choice. Me, I couldn't live with the pregnant mistress and we certainly didn't have millions in savings so it was goodbye, even when he eventually wanted to come back. I'm mean. If he'd had millions, I was in a bad enough mood at the time to try and take them from him in a nice settlement.

Becky Petrino is probably a nicer person than me. Still, all the texts with Jessica and now Allison Melder going public can't be soothing her mood. What man would put up with texts from his wife to 2 young hunks she was fucking becoming public? They'd be divorced in a heartbeat. But women are different. Don't ask me why. Bobby is perfecting his groveling technique these days, I'm sure.

 

[Knight Templar]

Hillary had so much political ambition and so many goals in common with Bill that divorcing him didn't make sense to her. .

That kind of thing in cases like Hillary or women who wish to stay married because of money or social position are very easy to denigrate.

But aren't having shared goals, dreams, and common beliefs an important part of marriage as well as sexual fidelity.

For some reason, in the United States we elevate sexual fidelity as being the absolute ultimate part of marriage. But can't you argue that by doing that you are elevating sex to a level far above where it should be? I have not traveled that much, but I've read about a whole range of other cultures and it seems that countries as varied as Japan and various European nations don't view sexual fidelity that way.

 

[Dorian Thompson]

But aren't having shared goals, dreams, and common beliefs an important part of marriage as well as sexual fidelity.

Of course they are, but that begs the question--if you're out banging someone else, perhaps your goals and what you want in life and in a partner has changed. Sexual fidelity is also a sign of respect. That you've made a full commitment to someone. If you're out screwing others, you're eventually going to become emotionally involved at least to some degree. Or you're going to knock someone up. It risks the marriage.

 

[Knight Templar]

But aren't having shared goals, dreams, and common beliefs an important part of marriage as well as sexual fidelity.

Of course they are, but that begs the question--if you're out banging someone else, perhaps your goals and what you want in life and in a partner has changed. Sexual fidelity is also a sign of respect. That you've made a full commitment to someone. If you're out screwing others, you're eventually going to become emotionally involved at least to some degree..

Not necessarily for a man. Something that I've heard women have some trouble understanding is just how men can have sex and have no emotional attachment whatsoever to the woman.

also why men can actually have (and enjoy) sex with a woman they do not even like.