anyone on the same wave length with the opposite sex?

[Tialeoni]

i and my male mate are
we like loads of the same films, music, superhero's ect ect and deffo humour!
totally awesome to have someone of the opposite sex to be in sync with as in likes and thoughts.

if you have it hold onto it it's gold dust to find that in life

but he always wins at tic tac toe

 

[Deranged Nasat]

There are plenty of times for me. I mentioned once before that in my world growing up there were three groups into which young people slotted - very "boyish" boys, very "girlish" girls and a mixed-sex group who didn't really conform to any gender roles. So, you'd get the obvious minor differences between sexes but never in any particularly meaningful way. For me, someone's sex had - and has - little impact on my ability (or inability) to be "on the same wave length" with them. That's both in the sense that I have close friendships with both men and women, and in the sense that very "mannish" men are every bit as alien to me as very "womanish" women.

Differences between the sexes are always going to present to some extent, that's just natural, but I've always found that they only ever become an impediment to effective communication when people are conforming to cultural expectations. That is, gendered culture blows them out of perspective and artificially creates a gulf. Being in the "third group" and drawing from that group for friendship, I've never really had to deal with that.

 

[TerokNor]

Yes I experienced this, all through my childhood and teenage years with a cousin of mine. We were on the same wave lengh and we were like open books to each other. It felt like we belonged to each other in a way.
Then it changed however. We developed into different direction and it feels we are now very far apart. I miss what we once had and sometimes when we catch a seldom second alone I think I feel the essence of what we had is still there, but overpowered by what we both have become. Or maybe it is just a dream of mine, a hope, that it is still there...and in truth it is just an echo of the past and nothing more. I am not quite sure. But I agree with you, that it is a good thing, to have someone like that.

TerokNor

 

[kes7]

I have had many more close male friends than close female friends in my lifetime. In fact, my very best friend since I was 15 is a male. We're sort of two of a kind, with VERY similar personalities and ways of thinking.

Honestly, I feel like I don't understand women very well, even though I'm one of them. There's this whole social code thing that I really don't understand, and I usually end up feeling like an outsider. I'm constantly afraid to say or do the wrong thing.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I've had a good mix of male and female friends although I'd say I get along with girls better in general. Not that that bothers me at all.

 

[ALF]

Not on the same wavelength... on the same channel sometimes but my natural urge is to change the channel.

 

[SmoothieX]

I like when being on the same wavelength means finishing at the same time.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

I like when being on the same wavelength means finishing at the same time.

Win!

 

[An Officer]

I seem to get on better with males, yes.