Age range in dating....

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Warped9, Nov 22, 2009.

  1. Jonas Grumby

    Jonas Grumby Vice Admiral Admiral

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    My widest range was ten years older and seven years younger. The older woman was thirty at the time. The younger one was twenty-nine at the time. Apparently, no matter how old I am, I just have a thing for thirty-year-olds. :lol:

    Seriously, though, I don't really worry too much about numerical age. The only thing I insist on is compatibility...which tends to just naturally weed out overly-wide age discrepancies.
     
  2. Tom Riley

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    For me... Well it kinda depends on my age too. At the moment, I am 20, and I don't date younger than 18, IF I date younger at all(I consider myself to be more mature than most other guys my age). Younger than that just seems weird to me, and too much below that and I start finding guys who are just too immature for me. So that ends up being only 2 years younger than me. However, when I'm 30, I really don't think I will find it that weird for someone to be more than two years younger than me. I figure that the older I get, the larger my low end of my range will get up to a point. As for dating older, which I tend to do, so far the oldest I've dated was 7 years older than me, he was 24 when I was 17. I don't think I have a specific range of how old at least that I am aware of, as I've been interested in guys ranging up into their late 30s so far, but don't see any problems with older as long as I am emotionally and physicall attracted to them.
     
  3. Kirk-Fu

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    I'm 34 so a guy between 18 and 45. Though 18 would probably feel too young unless they were mature. Maybe 25-45 would be better.
     
  4. Mr Awe

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    I'm 40 and I would date as young as about 25. Women that age seem to be mature enough. I live in a college town so most women that age tend to be graduate students . . . so perhaps the ones I'm refering to are more mature than average for that age. At least more educated. Despite being 40, I've had 25 year olds hit on me. Once I was travelling internationally and this young lady was really hitting on me. I thought she was in the lower 20s. I was totally shocked when she said she was 18! Too young!

    I would go older than 25 but not really interested in anyone older than myself. I wouldn't rule them out but it would take someone exceptional. I've had a couple of 50 year old women hit on me but it didn't really do anything for me even though they were nice.

    I've found that as I've grown older, that bottom age of around 25 really hasn't increased. At least not yet. Perhaps down the road, but that still seems like a might fine age!

    Mr Awe
     
  5. Alpinemaps

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    I've been with Mrs. Alpinemaps about how my life. And we're only 14 months apart (I'm older, which she never stops to remind me).

    If I were single, though - age is just a number. It's all about chemistry. I know women in their 20s that are far more mature than some women I know in their 40s. It's all in what you're looking for. (For the record, in this case, the person in their 20s that would hold my interest)
     
  6. Captain Craig

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    I try to keep it within 5yrs +/- my age, which is 33 at present.
    I just got out of a relationship that broke those rules. She was 21 and it lasted for 6 months. It was a true case of maturity and life experience issues. I think that if I were 42 and the woman 30 then the 12yrs would've been mimimized due to the woman having more maturity and life experience. Her being 21 was way bigger than either of us wanted to admit early on.

    Likewise an ex of mine is 32 and for the past 3 weeks been dating a 24yr old. Some similar issues are arising. He's basically a just out of college bachelor with a lifestyle to match. She is more put together and mature. She isn't sure if it'll last but is giving it a try. If it lasts much past the New Year I'll be surprised.
     
  7. QCzar

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    I find that I don't actually use age, in and of itself, as a significant factor at all. It's just too arbitrary.

    All the things people are saying in here, about maturity, values and life experiences, are all things that matter to me a great deal more. Add to that what each person wants out of the relationship and, of course, physical attraction, and little else enters the equation. So my "range" isn't a range of age, but rather a range of characteristics and looks. Is it unlikely that I'll find all those things in someone of a very different age? Probably.

    When I consider the environment I socialize in and the people I associate with, it does act as a filter of sorts. Thus, if a 21 year old (I'm 31) finds herself in my social sphere, then chances are that we share at least a few things in common. But I won't, say, go looking for love in places where I know 21 y.o.'s hang out.

    Does that make any sense?
     
  8. TrekNut87

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    I don't really have a range when it comes to dating, though I tend to be attracted to older men. If I had to put a number on it, I'd say 7 years either way.
     
  9. TorontoTrekker

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    I'm 42, and my boyfriend is 24. I find that we have very challenging conversations about a variety of topics, usually ranging around political and philosophical subjects, so there's no maturity issues there. We both work with computers, too (he's a network technician, I'm a developer), and we're both science fiction fans (we met at Dragon*Con last year and have attended three other cons together over the past year).

    The only drawback, really, is that we're 1000 miles away from each other and have to talk over webcams. I'll probably be visiting him for New Year's, though, and we have tentative plans to go to next year's Worldcon in Melbourne together, finances and vacation time permitting.

    When I was still single, most of the guys I dated were two years younger than me, by some odd coincidence. The two exceptions I can think of were someone I met back in 1998 and still keep in touch with (he was about five years older than me) and the one I mentioned in the anecdotes thread, who was 23 at the time (so I guess he would be 25 now). The younger one had some issues, I think, though - he stood me up for what would have been our last date, ignored my phone calls over the next week or two (I was trying to ascertain whether he was okay - for all I knew he might have been hit by a car on his way to meet me), and then broke up with me by defriending me on Facebook and sending me an email the next day. :rolleyes: Not exactly a paragon of maturity, there.
     
  10. Cakes488

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    ^^^^I usually stick to 10 years + or -....but I have to be honest...I'm not really going for men who are 48...I'd rather go younger a hubba hubba. No matter how delicious a 24yr old may sound..there is no way I would date one seriously...just too much of an age gap for many reasons.
     
  11. bigdaddy

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    I dated someone for 2 weeks in July and he never explained to me why we stopped dating, even when I asked, he's like "You stopped talking to me", only after he started to ignore me. He will be 21 in Janurary and I just turned 24. For someone like him who acts like he's 55 you think he have some guts. Honestly i don't mind being dumped, just explain yourself.

    I hope when I'm 42 I can get a young hot boyfriend. :lol: Good luck with that. I'm dating someone who will be 20 in January and he sometimes looks at me and has no clue what I'm talking about and then goes, in British "That's because you are old dear". Like Star Trek 2, he has never seen it! Saw the new Star Trek three times and never saw KKKHHhannnn!!! I wasn't born when the movie came out either and I have seen it! Then of course I will go "They have free ice cream!" (talking about the dining hall) and he will go "You are 5!", so it's all good. :lol:

    I doubt I will ever meet his parents but if I do I need to have a talk with them about not making him watch more TV as a child. No Star Trek?1 No ALF?! What type of childhood did he have! :lol:
     
  12. Rii

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    Given that this is a Star Trek board I'm surprised nobody has attempted to derive a formula for this. It should be obvious that any fixed interval system as most have described faces serious problems at both ends of the age spectrum.
     
  13. jamestyler

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    Brilliant :lol: I've had casual relationships with women around ten-fifteen years older before I hit twenty. In recent years I've dated younger women (18, 19) and didn't enjoy the maturity gap.

    In serious relationships I don't think I've gone outside of two years difference either way.
     
  14. The Castellan

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    I would :p

    Same here, for any relationship here, though. :bolian:
     
  15. Goji

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    I haven't ever been especially attracted to someone too far from my own age, like a year or two at most. I'm not sure if that's just because I have been in school a lot and therefore mostly around people my own age or not. But I didn't meet my girlfriend at school, and she is exactly two weeks younger than me, the closest to my own age yet.
     
  16. Scott Delaney

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    My ex-wife is 3 years older than me. My most recent girlfriend is 12 years my junior. I don't think I'd date anyone that much younger again, but she's a very unique individual - insightful, observant, mature beyond her years in most ways. I'm not sure age is a deal breaker, but I would agree that the difference in psychological/emotional age is inversely proportional to the likelihood that it will work.
     
  17. Arrqh

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    Minimum creepy dating age is (Age / 2) +7. The internet says so.

    I don't really have anything to add to this thread. The girl I'm dating now is exactly 3 days older then me (we're both 27) :p
     
  18. Jonas Grumby

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    That formula actually seems pretty reasonable...except that following it would mean I should forget all about Chiaki Kuriyama, so to hell with it! :lol:
     
  19. Brent

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    Women want older men, and Guys want younger girls, it kinda works out well for everyone.

    I'm 30, and using the divide age by 2 and add 7 thing that would put me at dating a 22 year old, which would be fine with me. In fact, I'd date a 20 or 21 year old. I don't see any problem with that. Though I'd date more on personality and likes rather than just flat out looks. I'm ugly anyway, so personality is the only thing I got.
     
  20. bigdaddy

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    Unless one is gay, then if you are over 30 no one of any age wants to talk to you. :lol: