64. Been in hospital for two months. Kidney's were screwed. He developed an infection that took this from a bad compilation to serious territory a few days ago. I've shared all sorts here over the years and here I am, having lost my Dad 3 hours ago. I'm really not in touch with my emotions; my brother is distraught yet I'm extremely calm. Hey I've shared shit here for nearly 20 years-- it occurred to me to post this. Messed up, hmm?
My condolences for your loss. We all process this kind of thing differently. The emotions may hit you a couple days from now, a month from now, or possibly never. We're all individuals; there's no "right" or "wrong" in your reaction to loss. Best wishes to you and your family. Take care.
My sympathies. I lost my dad in June of this year and I am right there with you. It's only recently begun to hit me that he's gone. Once, in particular, I was mowing my parents' lawn and I thought of a question about their mower and thought to myself that I could just ask dad..oh, wait. Sobbing for the rest of the hour I was mowing.
So sorry for your loss. My Mom went back in May at 81. Infection from a hip replacement, but she'd been in poor health for years before that.
I am sorry. There are no rules to grief and loss and if posting on here gives you a moment of comfort, then you post here.
Condolences for your loss. I lost my father suddenly aged 75 on November 3rd last year (so I'm fast approaching the first anniversary), the guy was one of the fittest people I knew, and just had a stroke in his sleep, never woke up and that was that. The subsequent grief has been one of the most life changing things I've ever experienced. One one hand I sobbed for the first few weeks, and was going through all sorts of emotions - looking at bottles of whisky to take down to him on the day I found out he'd died on the way to his house, going through all sorts of madness thinking 'has he realised he just went to bed and not woken up' - like the film Ghost that kind of thing. Seeing his body in the chapel of rest thinking he could hear us talking about him, all sorts of stuff - it really made me think about why religion exists etc despite being totally not religious in any way shape or form, it just utterly twisted my head for a while. It's massively affected my relationship with my mother too, and we're barely on speaking terms at the moment. Then on the other hand I felt like I pulled myself together within 3 months or so - which prompted feelings of guilt, but really looking back it was acceptance that it had happened and was the beginning of getting over the initial shock. I feel like I have accepted it now, but just occasionally I get feelings of 'I can't believe he's gone etc' but I think I'm getting used to it now, which I guess is a common thing I've read that you never get over it, just used to it. I really thought I would go to pieces having a history of depression but I didn't. It's really made me think about my own mortality a lot more too. I guess November the 3rd is the next milestone in all of this, then Christmas and so on...
{{{{{{{Star Man}}}}}}} I'm very sorry for your loss And no, posting here and feeling not much yet is not messedup at all. You're simply under shock. It may take months till you'll feel the whole impact of what just happened. I can't put feelings in proper words in this language but I wanted you to know that if you need a friend, you can contact me any time. I think you've known me long enough to know that this is no empty phrase but an honest offer.