I do NOT want sympathy from anyone.
The woman is and has always been pretty cold-hearted and downright mean. This is my mother’s mother. Who is 96 years old.
Example 1: Her father warned my father that she would give my father nothing but problems her entire life. She did.
Example 2: She would not let my mother call her any form of the word “Mom” in public, because she didn’t want people to know she had a kid.
Example 3: She told my parents that she had room in heart for only one grandchild. My mom, an only child, had three children. Dad told my grandmother that if she ever said anything like that again, she would never see any of us again.
Example 4: Less than one month after my father’s death, on Mother’s Day while sitting next to my mom, she stated that I was “just like [your] father.” When I said, “thank you,” she said, “That wasn’t a compliment.” I just replied, “Oh but it was. More than you will ever know."
Example 5: She compared me, numerous times and to my face, to “Halfpint” (Laura Ingalls) from “Little House on the Prairie.” She hated that character.
Example 6: When my 76 year old mother drives into LA twice a month to take my grandmother on errands, Mom is verbally and loudly abused and berated in banks, stores, and restaurants. Mom puts up with it because she believes she is supposed to “honor” her mother. Not love her, but honor her.
So, I really don’t care if the old woman dies. I don’t wish her pain, but frankly, Mom has put up with enough from her mother. As it is, my grandmother must go into a home (she can’t understand why my 76 year old mother doesn’t want to be her caretaker) as she no longer can be alone.
Does anyone else have a family member whose behavior goes beyond merely “annoying” or “bad," without being downright illegal?
The woman is and has always been pretty cold-hearted and downright mean. This is my mother’s mother. Who is 96 years old.
Example 1: Her father warned my father that she would give my father nothing but problems her entire life. She did.
Example 2: She would not let my mother call her any form of the word “Mom” in public, because she didn’t want people to know she had a kid.
Example 3: She told my parents that she had room in heart for only one grandchild. My mom, an only child, had three children. Dad told my grandmother that if she ever said anything like that again, she would never see any of us again.
Example 4: Less than one month after my father’s death, on Mother’s Day while sitting next to my mom, she stated that I was “just like [your] father.” When I said, “thank you,” she said, “That wasn’t a compliment.” I just replied, “Oh but it was. More than you will ever know."
Example 5: She compared me, numerous times and to my face, to “Halfpint” (Laura Ingalls) from “Little House on the Prairie.” She hated that character.
Example 6: When my 76 year old mother drives into LA twice a month to take my grandmother on errands, Mom is verbally and loudly abused and berated in banks, stores, and restaurants. Mom puts up with it because she believes she is supposed to “honor” her mother. Not love her, but honor her.
So, I really don’t care if the old woman dies. I don’t wish her pain, but frankly, Mom has put up with enough from her mother. As it is, my grandmother must go into a home (she can’t understand why my 76 year old mother doesn’t want to be her caretaker) as she no longer can be alone.
Does anyone else have a family member whose behavior goes beyond merely “annoying” or “bad," without being downright illegal?
), but just as an example, I was never allowed to go anywhere when I was growing up unless she or my father was taking me. My father thought it was ridiculous, but he went along with it. I remember one time, when I was up early and getting ready to go to New York City with my high school band. My father had signed the permission slip, but my mother was adamant that I wasn't going and tried to physically prevent me from leaving the house.
