Ladies, what do you look for in a man?

[Deranged Nasat]

^ That sounds like a challenge I could get behind. I've never cooked with anyone before. I've barely cooked by myself. Ever since I tried to make pudding from scratch and somehow ended up with scrambled eggs in the mix I've kind of lost interest in cooking.

I'm a hopeless cook. If a woman is looking for a good cook, there's no point in me even showing up for audition, so to speak...

 

[Shaytan]

Tolerable defects (defects are the spices of the personality) and a lot of curiosity especially in culture.

 

[Timby]

^ That sounds like a challenge I could get behind. I've never cooked with anyone before. I've barely cooked by myself. Ever since I tried to make pudding from scratch and somehow ended up with scrambled eggs in the mix I've kind of lost interest in cooking.

That reminds me of the time I learned the hard way that despite the bottles looking identical, and no matter how hard you wish it to be true, vanilla extract will never, ever be the same as liquid smoke.

Barbecue-flavored cookies. Yum.

 

[Captain Ice]

^

I think even the best of cooks has made a mistake like that in their past. Like me trying to bake a cake and forgetting the baking soda.

 

[JonathonWally]

Barbecue-flavored cookies. Yum.

Any good?

 

[Timby]

It was a culinary abortion. I cried myself to sleep that night.

 

[thestrangequark]

My dream man?

Thoughtful, intellectual, funny, and just a little cynical. Someone who is Atheist but Humanist, whose politics and beliefs are in sync enough with mine to allow mutual respect and understanding, even if we don't agree on everything. Someone who is physical, who likes to get out but is also happy to stay in and play Scrabble, watch TV, or read together in bed. A man who takes care of himself and delights, just a little, in fashion. Someone who loves me, but who will give me plenty of space. Ideally a man who needs a lot of alone time, because I need a lot of alone time.
I would love a man who can sing and maybe play the piano; who'd write little melodies and sing them to me. And he'd have a delicious accent. But that's me getting all girly and giddy.

As for appearance, I will not say it is unimportant, because that's ridiculous. However, I find that an attractive personality will greatly change my perception of a man physically, so that men whom I might not initially be attracted to become very physically attractive to me. As general rules I tend to be attracted to tall, thin to fit men who are quirky in appearance in some way. But, as I said, personality can add enough sexy points to overcome a physical trait I usually find unattractive. For example, though I usually like them taaaaalllll, I dated a guy once who was only a couple inches taller than me (and I'm 5'2") -- he was one of the sexiest men I've ever been with.
There is a Sexy Points System, you know. I posted all about it a year or two ago, in a thread that (if I recall correctly) was about man boobs.

 

[melancholymecha]

Another thing I look for is patience. The man I would marry is someone who would be able to let the relationship grow naturally out of a friendship, someone who wouldn't badger me. If there is one thing I HATE, it's a man who puts on the moves too quickly--I find that offputting if not frightening in some situations. A man that I would be comfortable marrying would be one willing to restrain himself and get to know the PERSON, not just the body. I want to be confident and comfortable in mutual respect before there's any discussion of love.

yep yep!

Honestly, men being too forward scare me. I HATE being hit on by customers at work and other people I don't know...it honestly scares me because all I see is their wanting. And it makes me feel unsafe.

yeah this, I hate this! it scares the crap out of me!

as far as me making a list, haha oookay....
they would have to be someone who could deal with someone who's been affected by social anxiety and Aspergers Syndrome for almost 2 decades now(will need lots of patience & keeping themsleves busy while I spend 3 days totally immersed in a doll customization project or rearranging my collections) quiet, not obnoxious or loud, not into kids, homebody, not a slob, not clingy or pushy or macho, no dancing or clubbing, can fix stuff(cuz I cant) doesnt mind my complete lack of being able to work, ambition and the fact that everything scares the crap out of me. Thats just for staters. I really cant be involed in realtionships, Im too messed up. I dont think Id be happy in one & neither would it be fair to the guy. I just wish other people wouldnt think that its weird to want(need) to be alone.

 

[TheBrew]

My dream man?

Thoughtful, intellectual, funny, and just a little cynical. Someone who is Atheist but Humanist, whose politics and beliefs are in sync enough with mine to allow mutual respect and understanding, even if we don't agree on everything. Someone who is physical, who likes to get out but is also happy to stay in and play Scrabble, watch TV, or read together in bed. A man who takes care of himself and delights, just a little, in fashion. Someone who loves me, but who will give me plenty of space. Ideally a man who needs a lot of alone time, because I need a lot of alone time.
I would love a man who can sing and maybe play the piano; who'd write little melodies and sing them to me. And he'd have a delicious accent. But that's me getting all girly and giddy.

As for appearance, I will not say it is unimportant, because that's ridiculous. However, I find that an attractive personality will greatly change my perception of a man physically, so that men whom I might not initially be attracted to become very physically attractive to me. As general rules I tend to be attracted to tall, thin to fit men who are quirky in appearance in some way. But, as I said, personality can add enough sexy points to overcome a physical trait I usually find unattractive. For example, though I usually like them taaaaalllll, I dated a guy once who was only a couple inches taller than me (and I'm 5'2") -- he was one of the sexiest men I've ever been with.
There is a Sexy Points System, you know. I posted all about it a year or two ago, in a thread that (if I recall correctly) was about man boobs.

Well I play guitar (though I know some basic piano) and I can fake an accent. Close enough?

 

[CommanderRaytas]

Skinny white nerds that are intelligent and sweet.

Skinny, yes. White...well, I'd say yes but I have dated non-whites, so it's not a rule or something. Intelligent? Important.

Physically, I am mostly attracted to slim-to-skinny guys who are not much taller than I am, dark hair and green eyes. But that's just a general guideline, as I once fell in love with a blonde-blue-eyed boy when I was a teenager. Basically, the rocker type is what appeals to me.

Definitely not too pretty, I like a man with a face I can easily recognise, that's just his, maybe a little flawed even. I am absolutely not attracted to "perfect" stereotypical guys, botox men. *shudders*

Personality-wise, he needs to be patient, but not subservient. I hate it when they allow me to boss them around. I know I have a tendency to do that, but for God's sake, stand up for yourself!

Also, I like it when they share some of my most beloved interests, such as my love of scifi/fantasy and rock music. Football fans are okay, too, but that's not a requirement.

I hate people who always complain, those glass-half-empty kind of men. Being cheery and optimistic is important. Not always, but believing that life is worth living, and living it well is paramount. Whiny men are annoying.

Oh, and although I am not an atheist, I don't mind if the guy is. I've dated one for almost 4 years and that was never an issue.


Ah, I almost forgot: no beards. Whatever else, a beard is the ultimate no-go in my book. I'd even forgive long hair and dredds, but not a beard. Tattoos are fine, and piercings too, as I have those myself.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

To put it succinctly: It takes a real man to wear pink.

I've tried to wear pink, but I just can't pull it off without looking like a giant tool.

It's Salmon! *cries*

Mauve.

 

[MANT!]

My wife had me ordered....right down to the height, weight, and eye color...wanted a soft-spoken but honest gentleman. Ohh and she wanted an American, not Brazilian..kind of hard because when she wrote these things down on her list, it was the 70s and she lived in Brazil...

Took a long time, but she finally found me...

 

[CommanderRaytas]

I guess I can forgive a man for speaking with an American accent.....

Just kidding.

And why are we under apreensao? Eu nao fiz nada, mano!

 

[Emher]

There is a Sexy Points System, you know. I posted all about it a year or two ago, in a thread that (if I recall correctly) was about man boobs.

I remembered that when you mentioned the man boobs and realized I must have posted in it

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Ah, I almost forgot: no beards. Whatever else, a beard is the ultimate no-go in my book. I'd even forgive long hair and dredds, but not a beard. Tattoos are fine, and piercings too, as I have those myself.

It was out on the skinny part already, but what's wrong with beards? There are those of us that keep them neat you know.

 

[RoJoHen]

A woman who doesn't appreciate a good beard is not a woman I am interested in meeting

 

[CommanderRaytas]

The skinny thing isn't a rule. Many guys do not look good skinny, or they do look great both skinny and with a little more meat on their bones. Depends on the man.

But hair in your face? It grosses me out, somehow, and makes snogging completely impossible. It can be as neat as you can keep it, but.... dunno, I love seeing a man's jaw, and cheeks.

Everything else is debatable, as sex appeal and looks do not always walk hand in hand.

Compare my reaction to a beard to a guy's reaction to a woman who doesn't shave her armpits.

 

[Emher]

A woman who doesn't appreciate a good beard is not a woman I am interested in meeting

Is this where we high five each other?

The skinny thing isn't a rule. Many guys do not look good skinny, or they do look great both skinny and with a little more meat on their bones. Depends on the man.

But hair in your face? It grosses me out, somehow, and makes snogging completely impossible. It can be as neat as you can keep it, but.... dunno, I love seeing a man's jaw, and cheeks.

Everything else is debatable, as sex appeal and looks do not always walk hand in hand.

Compare my reaction to a beard to a guy's reaction to a woman who doesn't shave her armpits.

I for one would probably look fucking scary skinny seeing as I'm pretty tall. I'd be like a skeleton or something.

Eh I guess it's different strokes. My ex never had a problem with my beard. She just had a problem with, well, the rest of me. My cheecks and jaw are under a layer of fat anyways so they're not extremely visible. That's why I have the beard, to hide the weight and add some shape to my face.

Incidentally on the armpit thing, there are degrees. As long as it's not at the inches long degree I'm cool with some hair.

 

[CommanderRaytas]

Wow, okay. Armpit hair isn't much to my liking, in any case. I'm not a great fan of hair, for that matter.

But tall guys really don't look that great skinny. I was thinking more in the lines on my height, 5'5, 5'6 perhaps.

 

[captcalhoun]

My dream man?

Thoughtful, intellectual, funny, and just a little cynical. Someone who is Atheist but Humanist, whose politics and beliefs are in sync enough with mine to allow mutual respect and understanding, even if we don't agree on everything. Someone who is physical, who likes to get out but is also happy to stay in and play Scrabble, watch TV, or read together in bed. A man who takes care of himself and delights, just a little, in fashion. Someone who loves me, but who will give me plenty of space. Ideally a man who needs a lot of alone time, because I need a lot of alone time.
I would love a man who can sing and maybe play the piano; who'd write little melodies and sing them to me. And he'd have a delicious accent. But that's me getting all girly and giddy.

As for appearance, I will not say it is unimportant, because that's ridiculous. However, I find that an attractive personality will greatly change my perception of a man physically, so that men whom I might not initially be attracted to become very physically attractive to me. As general rules I tend to be attracted to tall, thin to fit men who are quirky in appearance in some way. But, as I said, personality can add enough sexy points to overcome a physical trait I usually find unattractive. For example, though I usually like them taaaaalllll, I dated a guy once who was only a couple inches taller than me (and I'm 5'2") -- he was one of the sexiest men I've ever been with.
There is a Sexy Points System, you know. I posted all about it a year or two ago, in a thread that (if I recall correctly) was about man boobs.

great. i'm as fashionable as a dead rabbit and have the same musical ability.

British accent. 6'1. toughtful. intelligent. cynical. atheist. happy to stay in. willing to give space for alone time. all checked off and THEN she mentions fashion.

damn. damn. DAMN!

THEN she makes it worse with mentioning MUSIC!

oh well...

 

[RoJoHen]

A woman who doesn't appreciate a good beard is not a woman I am interested in meeting

Is this where we high five each other?

I think this is where we hug it out.