The core male characters are now altered to suit female ideals. See the aforementioned Batman, Wolverine and James Bond. A more masculine trio of characters, in their true forms, you will not find, but instead we get them sitting around moping, usually with no clothes on.
That just reflects a popularity for dark, serious, angsty stories. While it's true Craig has had his deliberate sex symbol moments (he's given a scene in
Casino Royale coming out of the water that is a deliberate inversion of
Dr. No); and the same is probably true of Wolverine, this is a tend towards, as
Lapis put it, male melodrama. You may not like it but that doesn't mean it doesn't appeal to a male audience - people had been demanding a darker, more tortured Batman for years. I'd think
Casino Royale is the most overtly masculine Bond we've got in years, perhaps ever - there's a brittle edge to Craig's performance that previous Bonds didn't have. It's Bond post-
Fight Club, if you want to see it that way.
Besides, Schwarzenegger and his counterpart Stallone were not unknown for prancing about in little-to-no-clothing. I wonder if the Rocky series enjoys any cross appeal for that?
Why ? You enjoy being beaten up by women half your size ? That's the only pandering you're going to get out of that.
I enjoy watching attractive women in revealing costumes beat people up, yes. It's not that they have ersatz male appeal, though they've often been accused of having ersatz feminism.
As for the realism -
Batman. Christian Bale has done many things in the past two films it's probably not possible for him to do, like gliding and moving swiftly while wearing so much goddamn armour. Comic book movies, even gritty Nolan ones, are about fantasy and escapism, no?
Further, this strikes me as a false dichotomy. Wolverine is compromised as a male hero because of his sex appeal; but that can't compromise Catwoman.
As to the Mary Sue point, I figure Nolan and crew could handle Catwoman well. Rachel Dawes never came off as a Mary Sue or any other cliched strong woman type, even if she also failed to register as a human being.
From my limited knowledge of his work I don't recall him saying paedophilia is okay, however, but feel free to correct me on that.
Being aroused by teenagers may be
wrong, but it's not pedophilia. Come now.
I would like to point out here that your average "ignored nerd" does not look like Tobey Maguire or Shia LaBeouf do after the many months they spent with their personal trainers in preparation for these films.
And Kirsten Stewart is a very attractive young woman. That doesn't make Twilight any less of a female fantasy. Besides, on TV we might have shows like King of Queens, where a fat, ugly man is married to a woman who isn't fat or ugly, but the reverse is seldom true.