the worst was trying to start a Spock/Bones dynamic between her and Data. But it came off so much meaner because she was way more condescending and Data by nature didn’t punch back. Spock would at least throw a barb back at Bones.
gimme Crusher and the will they/won’t they with Picard.
When I was a kid watching TNG first run, I hated Pulaski because she was mean to Data from the season premiere. As the season went on, my opinion softened because of her staunch support for Data in "Pen Pals". As I have gotten older and rewatched the show, I have come to really appreciate not just her character, but her growth. She got, arguably, more growth in a single season than half the cast of TNG in 7 years.
I agree completely it seemed more mean spirited than Spock/Bones, for the reasons you stated. As I've gotten older, it feels more natural, ironically, that Pulaski would be that way initially toward an android.