Neelix may be overly possessive and paranoid, but that doesn't change the fact that Kes was not a child (by any definition of the term) at the time. There is no connection between the two.
When they met, Kes was 2 years old, which by Ocampa standards IS ADULTHOOD.
How do we define adulthood in an alien species? Even on Earth, eighteen is an arbitrary age set by legislatures. The age of majority differs between countries, for example. At 18, I can drink a beer in Ireland, but not in the United States. Age of consent is equally variable.
More than that, do we know that she was actually two years old when they met? She is three years old half-way through the third season. The maths seems questionable.
Anyway, Kes' child-like qualities are what make the relationship between her and Neelix so incredibly toxic.
Kes is very young, has never been off her planet, whereas he is a veteran space explorer with his own ship. When we first meet Kes in Caretaker, she has clearly been physically abused. Neelix positions himself as "rescuer." It's not too hard to infer - particularly given the events of Warlord - that Kes simply doesn't have the life experience to realise that Neelix's behaviour towards her is abusive and that she does have the option of leaving him.
The third season is quite clear on this - stressing the point that Kes is maturing into an adult making her own life choices. The obvious inference is that she was not an adult before.
Darkling said:Doctor, I know that you care about me and that you have my best interests at heart, but everyone seems to be treating me like I'm still a child. I'm three years old now. If I'm attracted to someone it's my business, not the whole ship's.
The fact that the show worked so hard in the third season to make it clear that Kes was no longer a child - coupled with breaking off the relationship between Neelix and Kes - makes it quite clear that the show considered her to be a child beforehand.
(And this is an idea reinforced by more than just the scripts and the dialogue of the episodes. Look at the changing wardrobe and hairstyles that the production team afford Jennifer Lien. There is a conscious effort to move towards a young woman. Which demonstrates that they were transitioning away from the elfin child-like character.)
Well, if two break up and stay broken up, then, yeah, that's pretty much the definition of a non-functional relationship.![]()
Yes, but healthy mature people do not need genocidal alien warlords to handle their break-ups for them, is the point that I'm making. But, I'm willing to concede I might be generalising here. If you need Saddam Hussein to break up with your boyfriend for you, it probably says something about the relationship.
Calling their relationship "creepy" doesn't carry any weight. Neelix never abused Kes, she never abused him (at least when she wasn't being possessed), Neelix never bullied Kes to remain with him.
You do realise that abuse does not have to be physical to be abuse? Emotional manipulation and controlling behaviour are pretty stock cards in the abuser deck, right? "You know where other men live on the ship? Why would you need to know that?" (see: Twisted) "Oh, don't worry about little old me, dying here on this table shortly after I whisked you away and saved you from the Kazon... you go on and live your life, never mind that I am in constant agony" (see: Phage) Coupled with the issue of Kes' age, it's a pretty damning indictment.
Anyway, that's all I have to say about this. It just gets rather tiresome whenever it comes up, and it does so repeatedly, that's all.
Cool. We agree to disagree, then?