Good point. I don't particularly like men holding doors for me, but if one does, I certainly don't complain about it! I just say "thank you" and walk on through. Wow! That was uncalled for! Yes, consistency. To me, leaving the seat or even just the lid up all the time looks messy, but there's nothing wrong with a couple agreeing that they want them up when not being used. Of course, being inconsistent with that could be a problem, too, if a sleepy guy didn't notice that the seat and lid were down.