the romance was done excellently well in the first film.I also agree with you. its like the writers did not bother to watch the old films or show, all they talk about is kirk and spock. They hardly mention Bones at all. To the writers, star trek is a duo. it is not a trio like most fans beleive it to be and in a way I do not blame them. The media and popular culture does rememeber TOS as Kirk and Spock, it is fans that remembers Kirk, Spock and Bones. This is why I have always preferred TNG. In TNG, the whole cast which was Picard, Worf, Ricker, Troi, Dr. Crusher, Data and Geordi were in a way all equal to each other and the story always had all of them contributing to it.None of the characters can be sidelined. In the long run, I beleive the alpha male seting of TOS has come back to hurt it because eveyone is complaining about their favorite characters been sidelined especially Bones and Uhura fans and even Sulu fans. the new films focuses on kirk and spock without caring about other characters and it should not be that way.