Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Mary Ann, Aug 10, 2012.
Wow, that's crazy. Has she been to see a doctor about it?
Thanks , ladies and gentlemen.
That just convinced me that I should indeed ask the admins to delete my account here. Not worth posting anymore
It was fun ..for a while..
I know the friends I've made here will remain friends outside the forum
Bye - for those that care
Really guys, that was uncalled for. Regardless of whether she leaves the board or not, I think some apologies are in order!
For what? It was a funny play on words for a cute picture.
A funny play on words to you, but obviously it wasn't kind.. I'm sure you can see that
I see no unkindness. No mockery, nothing.
You might not see it but it's there. That's the whole point.
Okay whatever.. I'll leave it to Ruaidhri to explain his invisible meanness, assuming he wants to do so.
I think it has more to do with the history of people giving boco a hard time here in the picture thread simply for posting pictures.
Please don't go, Boco. I am sure this was a misunderstanding.
Occasionally, it happens to everyone, that they accidentially say something that has a double meaning. Inevitably someone else will take the opportunity to make fun of it (I do that a lot myself). And exactly that happened here.
However, I am sure it was meant as a harmless joke and certainly not intended as an insult to any member of your family.
I think this is once again one of the cases where cultural differences cause huge misunderstandings:
Please take into account that not in every culture family is so highly valued as in Italy. For most of us, making fun of someone's relatives would not count as an offense. For an Italian with their very tight family bonds and touchy sense of honour a joke about someone's family would naturally be taken far more serious.
Running away is no good solution. It would be better if you'd explain exactly why you find the remark insulting. Then we would understand and could avoid similar misunderstandings in the future.
You make such pretty photos, it would be a huge loss if you'd leave. Please do stay.
And since it was mentioned that you were attacked previousely: if anyone flames or harasses you, we'll defend you and the Mods will step in as well. It's their job and our duty as your friends.
I love the chicken pic! It reminds me of my own granny who when I was a child often took me to the farm where she used to buy eggs. They always had little chickens in spring In Bavaria, we call them 'Singerl' because the sounds they make resemble singing.
What do you feed them in Italy? In Bavaria we give them a mixture of hard boiled egg, quark (a ricotta-like cheese) and nettles. Lots of minerals and proteins that make them grow quickly.
Awesome storm clouds, RyanKCR! The first pic looks quite frightening
Some people are here to throw barbs at others and receive them in kind. Some have a penchant for mocking others, even if under the guise of sarcasm. But then we have some people who don't care for that, who are simply here to share good things and aren't into verbal jabbing.
Ruaidhri's comment did have a winky face following it, but it's still an insult to someone who has made it clear that she doesn't play that way. A grandparent is a revered family member and strangers making jokes like that can't help but be seen as making a callous attempt at stirring up trouble for a brief thrill. It was out of place, especially given the history involved.
I don't know Ruaidhri at all, but perhaps it wasn't his intention to be callous. In any event an apology would be the right thing to do.
Finished another Avengers cross stitch (again, I didn't design it! ):
I'm going to get a wide, plain frame for it, and decoupage Avengers pics around it.
Love it, KM. The sparkly aida makes a great background.
Big sidious in duh house!
Yeah, I had a ton of the stuff left over from Christmas ornaments, so I thought it would be great for The Avengers!
Holy cow, that's so not how I meant that, boco, and I most wholeheartedly apologize for the offense.
I'll echo someone else's plea: please don't go. I greatly enjoy your photos and love that you post them, and wouldn't want you to stop. My comment was meant as a joke, not with any mean spirit, and I hope you'll recognize that this is a sincere apology. It never occurred to me that my joke might be misconstrued.
Wow, talk about an overreaction. Ruaidhri was clearly joking around.
Maybe there's a language barrier at play here or the difficulty of communicating the subtleties of humor through text; maybe it's because of your past history participating in or being the brunt of criticism and that's influencing how you're reacting, but Ruaidhri's comment is one of the most harmless, playful, and obvious jokes I've ever seen and you are completely overreacting to it, and others aren't helping. As if the joke itself wasn't obvious enough, he added a :wink: smiley to further clarify his intent. Since you've never had an issue with Ruaidhri before (that I've seen) and he's one of the nicest, most laid back posters on this forum, why jump to the conclusion that this was an attack?
Plus, no one has asked you to leave or implied having any such desire, but if you want to, then you can just leave. The "asking the admin to delete my account" thing is a tired cliché. They don't delete accounts, it's not necessary to do so for you to go (if you think you'll be tempted to come back and lack resolve, just scramble your password), and it's usually just a means to grab attention and well-wishes by people who don't actually intend to leave. Not saying that's what you're doing here, but that's how it's often used, and it gets old.
You stop stirring up trouble. You know full well that was a joke.
But that didn't happen here, and Ruaidhri has never participated in any of those arguments, so it shouldn't really apply.
She has not made it clear in the past that she does not want to participate in back and forth joking banter. In fact, she has participated in much of it herself. How is Ruaidhri supposed to know this harmless comment of all things was going to provoke that reaction?
How can a joke about a grandmother having baby chicks every spring possibly be interpreted as a callous attack on a revered family member? It's not even an insult, and it's so absurd and whimsical I don't know how anyone could possibly take it seriously.
Ruaidhri is one of the nicest, most polite and respectful posters in these parts, so being that type of person he might apologize anyway just to smooth things over. But rest assured, no apology is owed for what was an obvious and friendly joke.
This is such a ridiculous tempest in a teapot.
Edited to add: See, he already apologized while I was typing this up. He ninja'd me with niceness.
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