I've lost intrest in sex.

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Jayson, Sep 30, 2011.

  1. Sean Aaron

    Sean Aaron Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    I haven't had a really strong libido since my 20s, but it seems with a "stimulating" partner my passions come to the fore. It's quite exhilarating and I find sex more enjoyable than at any other time of my life (I turned 41 early this year). As the saying goes: "life is wasted on the young."
     
  2. SmoothieX

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    Neither do genitals apparently.
     
  3. TheBrew

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    Wash, rinse, and repeat?
     
  4. marillion

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    I can relate to this, and there are many factors involved...

    About 6 years ago, my wife lost all interest in sex... It would happen maaaybe once or twice a month and ONLY when she was in the mood, my mood be damned... I would take what I could get, when I could get it, even if I wasn't in the mood..

    Eventually, I gave up asking and trying in general..

    About a year and a half ago we went through a REALLY rough patch, with the lack of sex only being a small part of it.. Well, suddenly, realizing she may lose me, she woke up and started over compensating... Offering it up all the time and going overboard on the physical affection... The problem? Since I had pretty much given up on ever having a "normal" sex life, my desire took a nose dive.. It's evened out a bit since then and we go at it usually a couple times a week at this point.. But the problem still remains.. I have no drive, no desire, for her, porn or otherwise...

    I have to really work myself up to it, and if something distracts me at all (random thoughts, dogs moving around, etc) I lose it, leaving both of us disappointed..

    Other factors like age (41) and weight (heavy but not outrageously so) really make a difference, I've found. I've tried medication and it works a little, but not near as well as I'd like.. It does nothing for the lack of actual desire...
     
  5. Paradon

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    Why the heck does anybody want to talk about their sex life on a ST forum...especially sexual disorder?

    Oh, boy! Kids these days...I guess!
     
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  6. JoeZhang

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    I found getting into shape was the big change for me - without being too crude - it's like a rod of iron when it needs to be.
     
  7. Sean Aaron

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    Do you still love each other though? I know some people feel if there's no sex the marriage is dead, but I don't necessarily subscribe to that theory. It is a lot less fun though and a lack of it was definitely a symptom of underlying issues and a major contributor to the end of my marriage.

    It's a good question. I certainly wouldn't go into a lot of detail about mine because it doesn't seem appropriate, but I guess it can be therapeutic like a group session.
     
  8. Paradon

    Paradon Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    You know...most guys don't like to share their feelings...especially if their is something wrong with them. But maybe that's just me.
     
  9. Sean Aaron

    Sean Aaron Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    Well, Jayson did say he's been in a mental institution in another thread (or two).

    Can I ask how you can have a "location" of Huckleberry Hound? Are you into animals or something?
     
  10. SmoothieX

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    One of my dogs occasionally sniffs the ass of one of the participants as we are getting it on. I think we're just used to it.
     
  11. Paradon

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    Geez! I was just curious.
     
  12. Sean Aaron

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    Definitely too much information. And a reason not to have dogs.

    So am I - do you have a thing for Huckleberry Hound or what? Share with the group!
     
  13. Roshi

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    I'm 37 and I'm constantly horny. Just sayin'.
     
  14. Mark_Nguyen

    Mark_Nguyen Commodore Commodore

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    This link is appropriate and never gets old. Thanks, TISM:

    http://youtu.be/ENnAa7rqtBM

    My sex life got way better when I got into a relationship with the person I ultimately married. Love helps. Also, I started losing weight and getting into shape. It does wonders.

    Having my daughter has put a damper on the sex drive somewhat, but you know what? I'm a now a family man, and my life is being fulfilled in other ways. Believe it!

    Mark (just turned 35)
     
  15. Paradon

    Paradon Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    NO! But I think you do!

    Talk to the hand!
     
  16. SmoothieX

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    There's no reason not to have dogs, they're the best.

    And you sound like a closet dog lover!!!

    Thanks Paradon!
     
  17. marillion

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    HAHAHA! Been there!! One of our dogs just moves into the place vacated by one of us, lounges, and watches.. Such a weird dog..

    And @ Sean... Yes, I think we still do.. Some issues with our marriage continue and we've been doing the counselling thing.. But there's still love there.
     
  18. the 4th hanson bro

    the 4th hanson bro No one can resist my Schweddy balls! Moderator

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    Do you people not have doors? :lol:
     
  19. Admiral Buzzkill

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    Uh... granted my memories of those long-ago days are dim, but I don't recall any noticeably (as in, disappointing) diminished interest in sex in my thirties, and I don't think guys under forty represent the primary market for stuff like Viagra.

    Generally I'd say that my sexuality and sexual experiences were far more satisfactory in my thirties and forties than at earlier periods of my life, but granted that has to do with a lot of factors other than basic physical drives (like, say, who you're with, frequency of opportunity etc).

    Being less interested in sex at any point in life can be laid (heh) to many different causes I suppose - but if Jayson's experiencing actual physical, functional decrease in capability at that young an age it might not hurt to see a doctor (and not just for a prescription).

    Your poor mother. :(
     
  20. LitmusDragon

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    Is anyone else extremely angry and bitter about the lack of sex in their life?
     

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