Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Emher, Oct 13, 2009.

  1. Emher

    Emher Admiral Admiral

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    The reasoning for starting this thread is simple: I'm lonely. And I'm ironically pretty sure that I'm not alone with that around here.

    I thought it could be a fun idea to have a thread to come together in our loneliness of sorts. It doesn't have to be lonely in the same way I am, there are different kinds of loneliness. No what kind, here's a place to vent.


    My loneliness is mainly of a romantic nature. I have for a while now felt ready for a new relationship, but have put it off since I've wanted to have some kind of job I'm happy with first, seeing as I'd be happier with myself then. Well as it is, I have a job now, but it's one I'm only doing out neccesity to pay the bills, and I'd walk in a heartbeat if I had anything else.

    Right now it seems I'll be stuck at it for a while, and since that's the case I just can't be unhappy both in my work life and home life. One of the few good friends I have is head over heels for a guy she met a few months ago, and is now most likely moving away. So partly I'm losing a friend, but partly it kinda hurts me to see her so happy, as pathetic and twisted that sounds. Add to that the onstorming winter and 25th birthday and I just don't know if I can handle another year of no satisfaction in neither work or love life.


    There's my loneliness, how about yours?
     
  2. Zulu Romeo

    Zulu Romeo World Famous Starship Captain Admiral

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    I'm isolated from my family, who live 340 miles away.

    I'm mostly away from my neighbours, as my work is 45 miles away and I'm in an accommodation on my own.

    I've moved geographical location four significant times in my lifetime (and 4-5 other times in a lesser fashion), having to meet new people along the way, and often forcing myself to leave my old friends behind, and very often having to start my social networks again from the ground up - in every possible sense.

    OK, not the loneliest place in the world, but I am alone, yes. :bolian:




    By the way, these guys also had a lonely hearts club... band... thing. :D
     
  3. RoJoHen

    RoJoHen Awesome Premium Member

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    I just moved away from all my friends to start a new job. Yes, I'm single, and have been for a really long time, but that doesn't bother me that much. My friends always more than made up for my lack of a partner. They're not too far away, but it's weird knowing that if I want to see them we'll actually need to schedule time to do it instead of just being able to say, "Hey, what are you doing right now?"
     
  4. Capn Flukie

    Capn Flukie Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
     
  5. backstept

    backstept Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    that doesn't count! :devil:



    I'm a lonely dude.
    I'm convinced that no female has ever been interested in me. This may simply be a result of my absolute inability to read signals, but I still can't help feeling that I'll be single forever.
     
  6. RJDiogenes

    RJDiogenes Idealistic Cynic and Canon Champion Premium Member

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    I think loneliness is too essential a part of my nature to remove. :rommie:

    I was an Arts-and-Sciences kid born into a Church-and-Football family, so my creative and intellectual interests were always either ignored or mocked. Very lonely at home. I had some friends over the years who shared the occasional interest, but only in minor ways so my friendships were always superficial (at least from my perspective). It was worse with women, because the stereotypes are a barrier to them being interested in what I am interested in. Over the last few years, my Romantic escapades have dwindled because of a woman I knew who radically changed the way I view relationships; in the last 15 years, I've only known one woman who I considered myself compatible with, and there were some insurmountable barriers.

    So I guess I'm lonely, but at peace with it; I wonder if I'd still really be me if I wasn't lonely. :rommie:
     
  7. OdoWanKenobi

    OdoWanKenobi Admiral Admiral

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    Damn, you made that joke that I came in to make.:lol:
     
  8. Zulu Romeo

    Zulu Romeo World Famous Starship Captain Admiral

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    Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time. ;)
     
  9. Cakes488

    Cakes488 Commodore Commodore

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    Fuck signals...time to take the bitch/bull by the horns and just be bold with it. I can't believe that no woman has EVER has been interested in you....surely you can't be that repulsive.
     
  10. Joshua Howard

    Joshua Howard Captain Captain

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    Well... My life is a lonely one, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that I am lonely. It all comes down to dollars and cents; with lots of money, there are many things a person can do; with little money, or when desiring to save it, there is little if anything to do.

    Right now I'm salaried with the Dept. of Social and Health Services, paid basically to babysit my mentally disabled mother who lives with me. This means that I don't have any workplace social interaction. The side job I had a while ago (working at Macy's) laid me off earlier this year, and nothing has come up since. Since I nolonger work there, money is tighter than it used to be as well, which means that the most logical thing for me to do is to just sit at home. (But then again, how can I complain about not having to go to work in the morning?)

    Social contacts can be a big liability, not to mention irritation, so in a certain sense I'm quite happy not to have them; but that isn't to say that I am not looking forward to the day when I have more money and fewer inhibitions. There are times when life isn't bad as in needing to be changed, but isn't exactly what you'd call "good" either. That's me. :)

    ^ You probably are just suffering from a Nerd-Complex (This is, after all, a Star Trek forum...) and probably have decent odds. I've never really been a hugely outgoing type around women. Actually, in the past there always has seemed to be a reason not to actually take the plunge for me; it either seems unprofessional to try to spark romance (i.e. workplace or stranger) or just plain not the right time for fiscal reasons (face it - serious dating will cost thousands of dollars; it isn't a small investment.) That said, there have been plenty of positive "signals" cast my way... just not the right time. Remember, it isn't ever too late. As a matter of fact, statistics prove that people that get married in their late twenties or early thirties are usually less likely to divorce.

    The key to avoiding loneliness is to learn just to cruise along and be cool. Don't take life too seriously. I think that feelings of loneliness usually are born in fear that whatever you are doing is somehow not sufficient.
     
  11. Capn Flukie

    Capn Flukie Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    Well, I am pretty repulsive, but I occasionally 'have encounters', so there's hope. :lol:
     
  12. ShamelessMcBundy

    ShamelessMcBundy Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    Gotta admit, it's getting better. Getting better all time. ;)

    But yeah, i am also very lonely. I'm almost 25 and i am single with no chance so far for that to change any time soon.
     
  13. Trekker4747

    Trekker4747 Boldly going... Premium Member

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    I'm lonely, been lonely for years, and I'm tired of it and, well, I've no idea how to correct it or where to meat somehone. With a shrug, all I can say is "Not sure."

    All I can do is hope that something will happen, fate will take its course, or something to take away by lonliness.
     
  14. AstroSmurf

    AstroSmurf Vice Admiral Admiral

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    You are NOT repulsive so stop that. :vulcan:


    I am a bit lonely these days myself. My family is 370 miles away. I work two jobs so I just don't have time to date right now. So it is just me... and my fish... and my McCoy doll. Both are trapped behind glass/plastic so they are not much company.:(
     
  15. Goji

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    I'm not especially lonely, no. I have my friends and family around. There's just one person who I am far away from, and that kind of overshadows the rest. Plus I'm not entirely surely how or when I'll be able to be back with her, though I am currently trying my hardest to find a way. She's also very busy, and has never been one to email me all that often, so I miss her more than I might were she to contact me regularly. But I can handle it okay, and I have enough going on in my life now to keep me occupied. I have faith in her, and it feels good to finally have someone I can put my faith in and not fear that it will come back to haunt me. I'm happy for it.
     
  16. freak

    freak Commodore Commodore

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    Yes, I'm lonely as well..been lonely for years. There was this one guy who I thought would be with me forever, but then he moved away suddenly and I have never heard from him since then. When we were together, he was always such a pain in the neck sometimes, acting like a big child when we went out, making a scene sometimes(which was quite embarrasing). Yet, when I was with him, he made me laugh and I loved being around him. Then I moved away suddenly and when I did, he was really upset. Once in 1998 or so, he came to visit me in my new house, and all those feelings came back to haunt me. When he left, I didn't think I'd ever see him again. Then one time he called me and said something like he was moving in with a nurse that he met and for all I know they could be married now with five kids.
    Right now I feel as if I'm in a black hole, trying to get out without a tractor beam. I'm also jobless at the moment so it really sucks..and I'll be 30 in two years and I ask myself everyday the same question: "what do I have to show for it?" So yes, I can definitely understand everyone else's lonliness.
    And don't ask about friends..I talk to a few online occasionally(which has been brief but good) but the "real ones" have deserted me and left, living out their own lives. One lives in FL with her wonderful husband and another in NY doing god knows what there. I haven't heard from the one in NY since 2003 when she left! And she promised me that she'd send me some pics of her wedding! Well all I can say to her is good riddance!(can't yall see I'm a bit bitter?)
     
  17. The Grim Ghost

    The Grim Ghost Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

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    I'm lonely in a different kind of way.

    I'm just isolated, sometimes I go for weeks without talking to anyone in real life, other than at work.

    I have a couple of friends that I talk to on the phone occasionally and some close internet friends, that is it.

    I really miss being able to hang out with people in real life.

    Lucky for me, I am fairly good looking and play music so I don't have to suffer in the sex department. Thanks to internet dating I can have sex whenever I want to. But I seem unable to form a real romantic relationship anymore. Afterwards I have no wish to see or talk to any of them again. And it seems rather meaningless.

    I don't know how to change and I don't know how to make real life friends anymore.

    Actually my life is pretty awesome mostly and I'm usually okay with being alone. But the times that I'm NOT okay with it...very hard to deal with.
     
  18. Joshua Howard

    Joshua Howard Captain Captain

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    ^ I can see where you're coming from, destro. Have you ever considered a total reboot? Move, set down new roots, escape old loot that ties you to the past, etc.? I know that is something that I think about from time to time.
     
  19. The Grim Ghost

    The Grim Ghost Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

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    ^I'm kind of in a similar situation to yours. I also help care for a sick relative. So at least for the short term, moving isn't really an option.
     
  20. Kestra

    Kestra Admiral Premium Member

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    I'm completely surrounded by people but I feel utterly alone. It won't always be so, I hope.