A "lady of the night" asked me out

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by hxclespaulplayer, Aug 15, 2014.

  1. hxclespaulplayer

    hxclespaulplayer Commander Red Shirt

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    I really need some opinions on this because I'm really overwhelmed.

    I've been staying in a big city for about a month now, and there are kind of a few places near where I'm staying where you bump into working girls, and since they're still people, I've talked to them. I've even talked to the madams a lot without them even asking me to use the services.

    In any case, I kind of wanted to have a girlfriend experience/escort, without the thing that most guys go to them for. I was introduced to a girl and as soon as I told her that I don't like porn (they have it playing in the waiting area) her entire personality changed, even moreso when I showed concern for how the clients treat her and her personal life in general.

    Anyway she came to my place, we kissed and hugged a bit, and started talking about how I'm single, and I think she dropped a couple of hints. Shortly after the following exchange took place:

    "Would you like to go out on a date?"
    "Sorry, I don't think I can afford that"
    "You don't need to, I mean outside of work, I want to see you outside of work"
    "Are you serious? But I'm 10 years older than you! What's the catch?"
    "I don't care about your age, you seem really nice and you said you wish you had a girlfriend, haven't you ever been asked out?"
    "Yeah but not for a long time... Okay then, sure."

    I think I asked myself how she was going to benefit financially from this and what the catch was. She even talked me out of spending more time with her because she wanted me to save my money, stating that I'd be seeing her outside of work the next day anyway. We went back to her room (no exchange of money) and we snuggled, which made her fall asleep. When she woke up she said that was a very special moment for her and I told her it was for me too. We couldn't actually talk about the dating stuff because I think they bug the rooms or something (the negotiating rooms at least).

    So what do you guys think? This is the first time I feel like my treating women with respect has paid off, and I was very flattered as she's not only genuine and a realistic person (I doubt many girls would talk to their son on the phone in front of a client) and also very attractive, not a model but very attractive. What can go wrong? I accept that's she's a person and all women deserve to date whoever they want, regardless of what they do for work. Her work isn't an issue to me.
     
  2. Asbo Zaprudder

    Asbo Zaprudder Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    [old cynic]There's two kinds of sex -- the sort you pay for and the sort you get for free. Trouble is, the sort you get for free costs way, way more.[/old cynic]

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  3. 2takesfrakes

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    Women make life very interesting and exciting. They can really make you feel good. They also know that everybody plays the fool, sometime. And Call Girls, especially, are very skilled at judging people - they have to be in their profession.
     
  4. hxclespaulplayer

    hxclespaulplayer Commander Red Shirt

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    I made it pretty clear that I have next to nothing, that's what I thought the catch was, a separate stream of income. She saw from my room that I'm not wealthy, she even offered to clean it up.
     
  5. YJAGG

    YJAGG Commander Red Shirt

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    just be careful, this might be a Romeo and Juliet moment, but remember how that story ended. Yeah she might be playing you, but I say what the hell, play safe and when if she starts asking for things stop and see if there is a pattern that you are excusing. She might be looking for an out of her current life and you showed her some long overdue respect .
    What "big city" are you in? and if you do not mind my asking what do you for a living?
     
  6. hxclespaulplayer

    hxclespaulplayer Commander Red Shirt

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    I have been played in the past so I'm not exactly going into this too naively, I just want to see where this ends up going. I wished her a good sleep and thanked her for the hugs in a text but haven't heard back from her, but hey, anything could have came up in her life. She's meant to be coming into the agency later, I think that paying her for the extra she did (kissing) would be a good pretense for getting the selfie she promised (that would also mean she has my number in her phone) or would that be creepy?

    I'm happy to inbox you about those two questions.
     
  7. Dennis

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    If she's actually willimg to date you, given what you've said here, be grateful and consider yourself fortunate.

    My only suggestion is Don't Fuck It Up.
     
  8. The Stig

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    Funny, that's the advice my father gave me when I started dating my future wife.

    Probably the only advice he ever gave me on the topic of women.

    As for the OP: She said that she's interested in you outside of her business. Provided that you're ok with her continuing to do her job while you date, go for it.
     
  9. Melakon

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    I've been in similar situations, and depending on the relationship, it can be emotionally rewarding for both parties. You sound old enough to know to keep your eyes open. Based on how you say she approached you and how it's developed, it's possible you're getting something she only shares with people who aren't clients, like the truth and kisses. Enjoy it while it lasts, don't push any personal agenda, and let her lead.

    You might be one of the few people she feels comfortable enough to be with where she can be herself.
     
  10. thestrangequark

    thestrangequark Admiral Admiral

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    By "Lady of the Night" you mean vampire, right?
     
  11. Dennis

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    Sex worker.
     
  12. thestrangequark

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    My version's more believable.
     
  13. Gov Kodos

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    Vampirella, a fine lady who made my life a better place.
     
  14. Dennis

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    At least it would be clearer what she sees in him.
     
  15. Locutus of Bored

    Locutus of Bored Co-Founder of ISIS Moderator

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    I know how this story ends.

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  16. Chemahkuu

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    Even vampires have standards.
     
  17. CorporalCaptain

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    Hmm. I was thinking that, after a twist or two, it might go a bit more like this.

    [yt]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xcX11TRTETU[/yt]
     
  18. MacLeod

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    I don't see a problem, it seems as if she is the one that asked you out. She is still a person at the end of the day regardless of what she does for a living. What do you have to lose?
     
  19. Locutus of Bored

    Locutus of Bored Co-Founder of ISIS Moderator

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    Madame of the Opera

    Slowly, gently she unfurls her splendor
    Grasp it, sense it, tremulous and tender
    Turn yourself away from the red light district where you spend your day
    Turn your thoughts away from cold unfeeling guys
    And listen to me my lady of the night
     
  20. Trekker4747

    Trekker4747 Boldly going... Premium Member

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    An intact immune system? Not having sores develop on his body occasionally every few weeks? Possibly a kidney?