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Old July 26 2013, 06:26 PM   #16
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Re: Dating Tips

Unless she takes her top off. Then it should be okay.

Ask before touching, though.
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Old July 26 2013, 09:19 PM   #17
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Be yourself, and don't stare at her chest.
Or, if all else fails, stare at her chest and pretend to be someone else !
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Old July 27 2013, 02:52 AM   #18
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If you've been texting for months, you should know at least something about her interests. Hopefully you share at least a few of them. After the pleasantries of finally seeing each other in person, start the conversation by asking about those interests, or having something to say about them. It's common ground, something you can feel comfortable and confident discussing - and be yourself about - then be open to having the conversation evolve from there.
That would be excellent advice if it wasn't for the fact we've talked about eachothers interestes, all of them, in great depth and detail. This is why I'm starting to think that for any relationship to actually work you're better off meeting face to face immediately rather than putting it off cos when you do finally meet face to face all avenues of conversation are exhausted and it makes meeting extremely awkward.

Oh well.
I'm not sure what you're playing at. A topic discussed via text is very different than a topic discussed in person. The fact that you've been texting, that you've gotten to know her so well, puts you at an advantage in your first personal meeting. You already know what she likes. What she's interested in. Start with what you know, be yourself, and let things evolve naturally.

As far as I can tell, the issue isn't that you've been texting, it's a defeatist attitude. Stop for a moment and realize you have a HUGE advantage over most people on a first date - you *know* her - or, at least, you know quite a bit about her. Start from what you know. Even if it's familiar ground, the fact that it's in person makes it new, fresh, and meaningful.

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Old July 27 2013, 05:18 AM   #19
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My advice would be: don't overthink it. Let conversation flow naturally - from the sounds of it, you've hit it off quite well. I doubt that you'll be at a loss for topics to discuss.
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Old July 27 2013, 06:35 AM   #20
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oh god i'm gonna die lol
That's something you have in common with her!!!

Talk about that!

Comes natural, if it doesn't end the date.
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Old July 28 2013, 08:03 PM   #21
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When it comes to making out, always put on side 1 of Led Zeppelin IV.
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Old July 29 2013, 01:45 PM   #22
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My advice would be: don't overthink it. Let conversation flow naturally - from the sounds of it, you've hit it off quite well. I doubt that you'll be at a loss for topics to discuss.
I agree with this.

And, for fun, here's some dating advice from literature that just happened to show up on my Facebook feed at just the right time.
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Old July 29 2013, 02:18 PM   #23
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Just be yourself. If you think you're nervous, there's a good chance she is as well. That could work as a starting point, explaining about being nervous and hoping the conversation takes off from there.
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Old July 29 2013, 02:57 PM   #24
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When it comes to making out, always put on side 1 of Led Zeppelin IV.
+1


Oh, and if she says something funny, laugh, don't say "LOL."
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Old July 29 2013, 03:20 PM   #25
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Be yourself, and don't stare at her chest.
What if stariing is part of his essence?
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Old July 29 2013, 10:43 PM   #26
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So... how'd it go?
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Old July 29 2013, 10:53 PM   #27
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So... how'd it go?
Well the date was tonight and all I can say is it could have been better and it could have been worse, she is wanting to see me again so it can't have been all that bad.
Thanks everyone for your help.
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Old July 30 2013, 03:04 AM   #28
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One important thing. NEVER EVER tell her you asked for dating advice on a BBS.
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Old July 30 2013, 03:36 AM   #29
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^especially a Star Trek one...
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Old July 30 2013, 10:27 AM   #30
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Id never tell her that a quadzillion years.
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