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Old January 27 2013, 10:57 AM   #286
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Re: Confessions: You do it and you know it is bad

"Sploogey".. thanks lurok. You may have in one post freed me from years of chowder nostalgia
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Old January 27 2013, 11:30 AM   #287
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I have on many occasions allowed people to think I'm tech retarded so that I don't have to explain why I didn't accept their gmail chat request, facebook friend request etc..

"What? Oh I didn't see anything like that, where is it?"
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Old January 27 2013, 02:22 PM   #288
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Re: Confessions: You do it and you know it is bad

I have, on occasions, lied to get out of a social function or dinner party.

Was it Peter Cook who had that line about 'I find I'm watching TV tonight?'. Or washing my hair?
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Old January 27 2013, 03:42 PM   #289
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Finn wrote: View Post
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Manhattan style never gets any respect.
Yep. I'd never allow it in my house
Blasphemy! I prefer the Manhattan style. For starters, I prefer a tomato base to a cream/potato base. And while I like the NE style, I find it really rich and heavy.

I can we can all agree though that Rhode Island clam chowder can get bent.
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Old January 28 2013, 08:43 PM   #290
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I like NE clam chowder, but Manhattan is a waste of clams. If you want to use a tomato base, make vegetable soup or Maryland crab soup.

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Did you live in South Jersey? Never heard it called that.
Nope, Bergen County. Maybe it's more a generational thing.
Where in Bergen County? I grew up in Hawthorne and graduated High School from Saddle Brook.
Oradell.
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Old January 28 2013, 11:14 PM   #291
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Manhattan style never gets any respect.
Oppa Manhattan Style ...
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Old January 29 2013, 05:04 PM   #292
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I have, on rare occasion, used my disabled child as an excuse to get out of social functions I seriously didn't want to attend. "Ooh, I'd love to, but it would be too overwhelming for my son" and all that. I feel guilty as hell doing it, because it cheapens his condition, but it also gives me a sense of evil pleasure. When he was younger and still non-verbal I could even get away with leaving boring functions early by claiming that I could see Son was close to a meltdown when he was, in fact, doing just fine. As his meltdowns at the time were, shall we say, quite epic, people were more than happy for me to leave with Son, even if he seemed content.
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Old January 29 2013, 05:12 PM   #293
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^I have totally used my disabled mother in the same way (she's autistic as well). I got three extensions on papers in college!
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Old January 29 2013, 05:51 PM   #294
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^ and ^^ Wouldn't that help spread ignorance?
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Old January 29 2013, 06:03 PM   #295
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^How? In my cases I used true events but lied about when they happened in order to get extensions on college papers.
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Old January 29 2013, 06:09 PM   #296
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^Okay, your case is a bit different. But your post made it sound like you did it the same way Macloudt did to get out of sticky spots. The way I read her story, those who wasn't familiar with her son and/or his disability might get a wrong idea of what it is like to have that disability (worse than it really is). Most times, it probably won't do any harm though.

I know she said she did it rarely like yourself. Doing once is enough to reinforce misconceptions. I sometimes have to remind myself that playing the Deaf card may help reinforce misconceptions about the Deaf I sometimes complain about.
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Old January 29 2013, 06:18 PM   #297
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I understand what you're saying, Finn, which is why I hardly ever did it, and felt guilty afterwards. This happened just a few times when my son was much younger, and the majority of these functions involved people who knew my son, so they knew that, once he had a meltdown, there would be no calming him down for anywhere from half an hour to an hour (he was tiny for his age, but Christ almighty, that child could scream). Mostly these were people who pretty much didn't believe my son had a neurological condition and just thought I was a shitty-ass parent, which is why I didn't want to be around these people in the first place.

Did I mention these were mostly people I'm related to through marriage?
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Old January 29 2013, 06:24 PM   #298
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Yeah, I felt guilty using my mom that way too, and did it only a few times. I sometimes use diabetes to get out of things I don't want to do. I know it's not right, but I also feel like, diabetes sucks, autism can suck, maybe it's not so horrible that I've used these things to my own advantage a few times.
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Old January 29 2013, 06:40 PM   #299
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There were days where my son was okay but I was stressed as all hell, because he'd had a run of bad days. By that time my edit function was completely inoperable. Whatever popped into my head came out of my mouth, so it was best to stay away from people I didn't like much.
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Old January 30 2013, 01:34 AM   #300
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I don't think either of you should feel guilt for that. Sometimes you just reach your limit. The circumstances of your health and that of your family's; particularly as caregivers, sometimes just do not allow you to say "yes" to everything that is asked of you. When you are overextended and tired your own health can suffer and then who takes care of your family? Think of it as self-defense for your family.
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