Living Arrangements

Gryffindorian · November 15 2012, 08:52 PM

As I mentioned before, I share a house with some relatives here in the SF Bay Area. Since none of us could really afford to buy a house on our own, we decided to pool our resources instead of renting and possibly spending more. I must say home ownership is priceless, but it does have some disadvantages, like noise and privacy issues among other things.

One issue that has come up recently is the bathroom use. I really hate it when my older brother cuts into my bathroom time.

Although we have two and a half baths, one is detached from our house, and hardly anyone ever uses it because it's "outside." Every day I get up at a certain time to take a shower, and that timeframe could be anywhere between 6:50 a.m. and 7:15 a.m. Barring any traffic jams, I usually get to work on time at 8 a.m.

Lately, however, my brother has had an odd work schedule in which he gets up early to arrive at work at 8 a.m. This means I would get up at 6:50 or 6:55 a.m. and he would still be showering. As a result, I was very late for work two or three times this past month because of his lack of coordination. He and I had already made arrangements and let each other know who's going to shower at what time. I've even tried getting up at 6:30 a.m. to shower before he does, but this morning, guess what? He was already in the freaking bathroom!!!

I had to wait an extra seven minutes, which made me late for work, though not by much, but still late.

I feel like I'm doing my best to be accommodating, but this douchebag brother is just plain inconsiderate. So I figured I'm going to do an OCCUPY BATHROOM demonstration tomorrow morning, just cut in front of him when he's about to enter the bathroom, and stay in there for a whole freakin' hour.

What say you? What's your living arrangement like--single, living with a roommate/spouse/partner/family member? Do you run into problems living with them?

Robert Maxwell · November 15 2012, 08:55 PM

If you have 2.5 baths, is there a reason you can't just use the other one when he's in the one you normally use? I don't see why this is so hard to deal with.

Me, I try not to room with anyone unless I'm a) sleeping with them or b) I fathered them. (No, not both.)

sojourner · November 15 2012, 08:57 PM

Um, one of you shower before bed?

auntiehill · November 15 2012, 09:01 PM

Yeah, one of you shower before bedtime and then use the half-bath to brush your teeth, wash face, etc. in the morning. Then no one would be late.

Captrek · November 15 2012, 09:01 PM

I have four cats, so I often have to wait in line to use the litter box.

Deranged Nasat · November 15 2012, 09:13 PM

My house (or, my mother's council house, where I live

) has two toilets, and it's always amusing when I visit my uncle's because their house has only one, despite there being twice as many people living there. Never having to wait for a toilet at home means that I'm in the habit of holding it off until I really need to go, and when I'm at my uncle's I forget that it isn't wise to do that when the possibility exists that the toilet will be occupied. Waiting for a toilet - what madness is this?!

Kestra · November 15 2012, 09:16 PM

Stop being immature about it and talk to him. Either get up early (5:30, 6, whatever) or shower at night like people have mentioned. Yes, it's inconvenient. That's part of living with someone.

teacake · November 15 2012, 09:38 PM

Post work and shower schedules on the fridge and coordinate.

If you actually have a second shower though there is no reason for this just because one shower is nicer than the other.

Gryffindorian · November 15 2012, 11:06 PM

Robert Maxwell wrote:

If you have 2.5 baths, is there a reason you can't just use the other one when he's in the one you normally use? I don't see why this is so hard to deal with.

Me, I try not to room with anyone unless I'm a) sleeping with them or b) I fathered them. (No, not both.)

Everyone in the house is aware of my "bathroom schedule" in the morning. Having said that, I don't think it's right for my brother to cut in front of me when he already knows this. I'm the one who normally uses the bathroom from 6:50 - 7:15 a.m. I've already bent over backwards to accommodate him, and he should get his ass to shower at the other room.

sojourner wrote:

Um, one of you shower before bed?

auntiehill wrote:

Yeah, one of you shower before bedtime and then use the half-bath to brush your teeth, wash face, etc. in the morning. Then no one would be late.

I keep hearing this from people, but to me I'd like to start my day with a nice, hot shower. It helps me feeling clean and fresh when I go to work. Plus, I could get sweaty just sleeping in bed overnight.

Kestra wrote:

Stop being immature about it and talk to him. Either get up early (5:30, 6, whatever) or shower at night like people have mentioned. Yes, it's inconvenient. That's part of living with someone.

Being immature can be fun, especially if I do it out of spite to someone I care about.

Kirby · November 15 2012, 11:07 PM

Why the hell do you have a detached bathroom? Did someone remodel an outhouse? Growing up I had to share a bathroom with my two brothers and we had a shower schedule of sorts. I would typically take my showers at night, and just stick my head under the shower for a few seconds in the morning to get rid of the bed head, and then my brothers would each take their showers. We rarely had problems.

Gryffindorian · November 15 2012, 11:09 PM

^ Beginning tomorrow, I'll post my schedule on the bathroom door.

Kestra · November 15 2012, 11:14 PM

Gryffindorian wrote:

Kestra wrote:

Stop being immature about it and talk to him. Either get up early (5:30, 6, whatever) or shower at night like people have mentioned. Yes, it's inconvenient. That's part of living with someone.

Being immature can be fun, especially if I do it out of spite to someone I care about.

That just looks bad, honestly. My sister and I are a year apart and even in high school we weren't this juvenile about bathroom schedules.

MacLeod · November 16 2012, 12:48 AM

Gryffindorian wrote:

Robert Maxwell wrote:

If you have 2.5 baths, is there a reason you can't just use the other one when he's in the one you normally use? I don't see why this is so hard to deal with.

Me, I try not to room with anyone unless I'm a) sleeping with them or b) I fathered them. (No, not both.)

Everyone in the house is aware of my "bathroom schedule" in the morning. Having said that, I don't think it's right for my brother to cut in front of me when he already knows this. I'm the one who normally uses the bathroom from 6:50 - 7:15 a.m. I've already bent over backwards to accommodate him, and he should get his ass to shower at the other room.

sojourner wrote:

Um, one of you shower before bed?

auntiehill wrote:

Yeah, one of you shower before bedtime and then use the half-bath to brush your teeth, wash face, etc. in the morning. Then no one would be late.

I keep hearing this from people, but to me I'd like to start my day with a nice, hot shower. It helps me feeling clean and fresh when I go to work. Plus, I could get sweaty just sleeping in bed overnight.

Kestra wrote:

Stop being immature about it and talk to him. Either get up early (5:30, 6, whatever) or shower at night like people have mentioned. Yes, it's inconvenient. That's part of living with someone.

Being immature can be fun, especially if I do it out of spite to someone I care about.

If you are getting sweaty in bed overnight, it could be that you have two many layers (Sleepwear, covers etc..) . In really hot weather (not that we get it much in the UK) I've slept more or less with a single sheet and junked the uvet due to the weather even though I use a summer one all year round.

Tora Ziyal · November 16 2012, 01:06 AM

captrek wrote:

I have four cats, so I often have to wait in line to use the litter box.

Darn, beat me to it!

T'Girl · November 16 2012, 01:32 AM

Perhaps you and your brother could just shower together? I understand it saves water.

November 15 2012, 08:52 PM	#1
Gryffindorian Vice Admiral Location: Hogwarts	Living Arrangements As I mentioned before, I share a house with some relatives here in the SF Bay Area. Since none of us could really afford to buy a house on our own, we decided to pool our resources instead of renting and possibly spending more. I must say home ownership is priceless, but it does have some disadvantages, like noise and privacy issues among other things. One issue that has come up recently is the bathroom use. I really hate it when my older brother cuts into my bathroom time. Although we have two and a half baths, one is detached from our house, and hardly anyone ever uses it because it's "outside." Every day I get up at a certain time to take a shower, and that timeframe could be anywhere between 6:50 a.m. and 7:15 a.m. Barring any traffic jams, I usually get to work on time at 8 a.m. Lately, however, my brother has had an odd work schedule in which he gets up early to arrive at work at 8 a.m. This means I would get up at 6:50 or 6:55 a.m. and he would still be showering. As a result, I was very late for work two or three times this past month because of his lack of coordination. He and I had already made arrangements and let each other know who's going to shower at what time. I've even tried getting up at 6:30 a.m. to shower before he does, but this morning, guess what? He was already in the freaking bathroom!!! I had to wait an extra seven minutes, which made me late for work, though not by much, but still late. I feel like I'm doing my best to be accommodating, but this douchebag brother is just plain inconsiderate. So I figured I'm going to do an OCCUPY BATHROOM demonstration tomorrow morning, just cut in front of him when he's about to enter the bathroom, and stay in there for a whole freakin' hour. What say you? What's your living arrangement like--single, living with a roommate/spouse/partner/family member? Do you run into problems living with them? __________________ "I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve." --Bilbo Baggins, LOTR: Fellowship of the Ring

November 15 2012, 08:55 PM	#2
Robert Maxwell Cherry Chassis Location: The Track	Re: Living Arrangements If you have 2.5 baths, is there a reason you can't just use the other one when he's in the one you normally use? I don't see why this is so hard to deal with. Me, I try not to room with anyone unless I'm a) sleeping with them or b) I fathered them. (No, not both.) __________________ Your crash was, like, spectacular! My world simulation project! Also: Women and Men: Self-Image and Rape Culture

November 15 2012, 08:57 PM	#3
sojourner Vice Admiral Location: I'm at WKRP	Re: Living Arrangements Um, one of you shower before bed? __________________ Baby, you and me were never meant to be, just maybe think of me once in a while...

November 15 2012, 09:01 PM	#4
auntiehill Fleet Admiral Location: av by Chemahkuu	Re: Living Arrangements Yeah, one of you shower before bedtime and then use the half-bath to brush your teeth, wash face, etc. in the morning. Then no one would be late. __________________ “Throughout history, every mystery ever solved has turned out to be NOT. MAGIC.” --Tim Minchin

November 15 2012, 09:01 PM	#5
Captrek Rear Admiral Location: Second star to the right and 'round back to last night	Re: Living Arrangements I have four cats, so I often have to wait in line to use the litter box. __________________ Khan, I'm laughing at the superior dental occlusion.

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November 15 2012, 09:13 PM	#6
Deranged Nasat Vice Admiral Location: Warped off into the sunset. With fond memories of most of you, and not a little sorrow at leaving.	Re: Living Arrangements My house (or, my mother's council house, where I live ) has two toilets, and it's always amusing when I visit my uncle's because their house has only one, despite there being twice as many people living there. Never having to wait for a toilet at home means that I'm in the habit of holding it off until I really need to go, and when I'm at my uncle's I forget that it isn't wise to do that when the possibility exists that the toilet will be occupied. Waiting for a toilet - what madness is this?! __________________ We are all the sum of our tears. Too little and the ground is not fertile and nothing can grow there; too much, the best of us is washed away.

November 15 2012, 09:16 PM	#7
Kestra Vice Admiral Location: somewhere beautiful	Re: Living Arrangements Stop being immature about it and talk to him. Either get up early (5:30, 6, whatever) or shower at night like people have mentioned. Yes, it's inconvenient. That's part of living with someone. __________________ "But in the end, it's only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer."

November 15 2012, 09:38 PM	#8
teacake Admiral Location: Militant Janeway True Path Devotees Compound. With Sehlats.	Re: Living Arrangements Post work and shower schedules on the fridge and coordinate. If you actually have a second shower though there is no reason for this just because one shower is nicer than the other. __________________ Rider: I can't believe you'd kill me for a field of empty holes. J'onn: It's all I have. ■ ■ ■ Janeway does Melbourne

November 15 2012, 11:07 PM	#10
Kirby Rear Admiral Location: Alt: 5280	Re: Living Arrangements Why the hell do you have a detached bathroom? Did someone remodel an outhouse? Growing up I had to share a bathroom with my two brothers and we had a shower schedule of sorts. I would typically take my showers at night, and just stick my head under the shower for a few seconds in the morning to get rid of the bed head, and then my brothers would each take their showers. We rarely had problems. __________________ Henderson!!!!

November 15 2012, 11:09 PM	#11
Gryffindorian Vice Admiral Location: Hogwarts	Re: Living Arrangements ^ Beginning tomorrow, I'll post my schedule on the bathroom door. __________________ "I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve." --Bilbo Baggins, LOTR: Fellowship of the Ring

November 16 2012, 01:32 AM	#15
T'Girl Vice Admiral	Re: Living Arrangements Perhaps you and your brother could just shower together? I understand it saves water.