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Old October 15 2012, 05:31 PM   #31
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Re: What is it like getting older?

I'm 30 myself, don't feel much different than when I was in my 20's, other than some more aches and pains. That and it takes me longer to wake up now . As for energy and stamina, never really had much of it, even when I was younger. Heck, I kind of envied those who did . So I wasn't much for gym class .

Trying to work with what I do have though -- and appreciate each day that goes by . That's pretty much all that any of us can do in the end. Along with having a good sense of humor about life in general.
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Old October 15 2012, 05:33 PM   #32
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I'm 27, and for the first time ever I finally feel like I'm coming into my own. I have a feeling the future is going to be awesome.
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Old October 15 2012, 05:46 PM   #33
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I'm 32 years old. I remember what it felt like to be 25, 18, 16, 13, and so on. When I was in my teens and early 20's, I had energy, drive, stamina, and the willingness to work very hard to attain a goal. My 30's feel different. I feel 'older'. I feel more run down. I feel exhausted, to be honest, like I'm burned out. Granted, I do have chronic health problems and that adds to the general 'feel' of being older, but at the same time, I know getting older doesn't have to be a negative thing.

People twice my age, and older, are living full lives. Yet somewhere in my head, there's this idea that once I get older, life won't be as pleasant, or as sweet, but I don't believe that (or I should say, I choose not to believe that).

So talk to me about your experiences. If you're older than me, and wish to share what it feels like, please do. If you're younger than me, feel free to share how you feel. There is no ageism here. Every age is valid, and everyone is free to participate.

I have a poll above just to get an idea of the board's demographic.
J, so much of it is about attitude. Getting older makes most things harder, and some things impossible. But if you have the attitude that it's all hard work and dull moments ahead, you're not going to have energy and stamina. It's not just about hoping that your future will pick up, it's working to make that a reality.

A lot of people here have mentioned health. We see that there are limitations, but it's something that you can still work on. I'm going through a really difficult phase of life right now and I'm making it a priority to do cardio every day. It gives me a boost in ways that nothing else would, and that's just for an hour of mindless running.

I'm going to be 30 next year and part of me feels like I've wasted my life thus far and I want to wallow in my wasted youth. But the other part of me is like fuck it, I'm young, and I have a lot of good moments in front of me. I've just got to put in more effort to make them a reality.
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Old October 15 2012, 06:00 PM   #34
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Good or bad, it's never going to turn out the way you think it will.

I'm glad that some of the things I've wished for didn't happen and some things that have happened were completely unlooked for. I'm 45 and have always been a late bloomer - I feel like I'm just hitting my stride. I would rather chew off one of my own limbs than be 20 again!
I wouldn't mind having a twenty year old body (drum snare) but I certainly wouldn't want a twenty year old's life or friends. It's good to leave some of that stuff behind.
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Old October 15 2012, 06:09 PM   #35
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I'm making it a priority to do cardio every day. It gives me a boost in ways that nothing else would, and that's just for an hour of mindless running.
The importance of exercise really can't be stressed enough. It's incredible how just a small amount of exercise daily will increase your overall energy and stamina. It's hard to get started when you're not used to doing it, but after a week or two you will definitely start to notice a difference.
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Old October 15 2012, 06:12 PM   #36
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^^Agreed!

I never bothered to take care of myself then and didn't appreciate sleep, sunscreen and exercise when I was 20. All in all I don't mind trading youth and skill for old age and treachery - or at least a better honed sense of self preservation!
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Old October 15 2012, 06:19 PM   #37
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You realise you're never going to drive through Paris in a sports car with the warm wind in your hair.

It's overrated anyway.

I'm 33, it's great. The only problem is that I feel sometimes very disconnected from the other people of the same generation. It's a question of ambition : they want to settle down, I feel too young to do that
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Old October 15 2012, 06:28 PM   #38
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I'm going to be 30 next year and part of me feels like I've wasted my life thus far and I want to wallow in my wasted youth.
Wasted youth is the best youth.
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Old October 15 2012, 07:26 PM   #39
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I'm 26. Things are both better and worse than previous ages, mostly worse. I feel like this is a really terrible age, at least for me. I had some dark times as a teenager and wouldn't want to go back to that age (unless I could go back with the knowledge I have now), but I would want to relive my early twenties. Ages 19-23 were really the best, I had a lot of happiness and hope. From age 24 to now things really haven't been so great. Some things have improved, like I was unemployed for a year in a city that I don't like and I developed very bad anxiety issues about leaving the house, and now I have those issues under control and have been working full time in a job that I like. But other things in my life are still up in the air, or I don't like the direction they're going but I don't seem to have much control over the outcome. I'm very confused about what my future will be in just a few years, I have no idea what I even want it to be. I feel like I am two separate people wanting separate things inside one body. I go back and forth every day, hour, even minute on which future I want for myself.

So really I feel this is a time of confusion, unhappiness, less time and energy, and lack of hope for my future. I can't even begin to imagine what my life will be like in 20 years. I imagine something amazing in my mind, but in reality I very much doubt I'll be any better off than I am now.

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I just turned 22, and getting older feels like crap. I went from college life which consisted of night classes, staying up until 6AM, sleeping until 3PM, screwing around all day and doing a little homework now and then, to the horrible reality of having to get a FULL TIME job, move out, pay bills, do laundry, feed myself, being a boring adult with adult responsibilities.
Really? I found that part awesome. I love being a boring adult with adult responsibilities way more than a carefree student. Life may be more difficult, but it's also way more rewarding. Besides, a bit of challenge makes the rewarding bits that much more pleasant.
I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you, I'm just wondering, how is it way more rewarding? What are the rewarding parts? The only thing I can think of is being able to afford more things, but that feels empty. I feel like life is more difficult and has more responsibilities, but without any reward. I felt much more fulfilled, energetic, and happy before I had to work full time. I feel like I spend so much time and energy making a paycheck just to do it all again the next day. It is depressing to think this is what life is. And I don't even dislike my job, I enjoy the people and work, but it's still just that - work. It sucks up the time I'd like to use for personal growth and enjoyment.

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I just turned 22, and getting older feels like crap. I went from college life which consisted of night classes, staying up until 6AM, sleeping until 3PM, screwing around all day and doing a little homework now and then, to the horrible reality of having to get a FULL TIME job, move out, pay bills, do laundry, feed myself, being a boring adult with adult responsibilities.
It's not that bad. You get used to 8-hour days pretty fast, especially if you happen to like your job. The best part is---NO HOMEWORK. No 10-page papers that have to get done tomorrow. There may occasionally be deadlines at work that require working late, but for the most part, you can leave work behind at 5pm. That's pretty nice, really.
But homework was the best part. I miss being able to CHOOSE when I want to work on a project, instead of being told when my work hours are. Even though school was a lot of work, especially my graduate degree, it was nice to be the one in control of my time. I feel like there is such a lack of personal choice now; if I feel like I would be more productive in the evening today instead of at 8 AM, too bad, you come in at 8 AM regardless. On one hand I love structure (it appeals to my OCD tendencies), but on the other hand I feel like it leaves no time for myself.
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Old October 15 2012, 08:22 PM   #40
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I've just turned 42 but I still have a hard time reconciling that number with who I am, I certainly don't feel that mature. In many ways I prefer the age I am now, I'm certainly more comfortable with who I am than I was ten years ago, but damn I have lots more aches and pains than I used to so I guess aging is swings and roundabouts.

I wish I'd had the drive I have now back when I was younger, I really did waste my twenties and a fair amount of my thirties!
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Old October 15 2012, 09:17 PM   #41
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People twice my age, and older, are living full lives.
I'm 35. Some people half my age have lived more of a life than I have.

I've always been short. When I was young I was always told 'oh you'll shoot up' - I never did. So I think mentally I've never grown up either. I (literally!) look up to taller people even if younger.

I tend to think of this as my gap life. I'm content with that.
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Old October 15 2012, 11:21 PM   #42
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I'm 51. Getting older is interesting. There are two aspects to it, the internal and the external.

Internally, I really don't feel any different than I ever have. I still love to read and write, I still love art and photography, and TV and movies. I still get excited over new discoveries in astronomy and physics and paleontology. I still love women. Of course, there are differences in perception, because of greater knowledge and experience. Writing, in particular, is a much different experience now than it was thirty years ago. The body, granted, has undergone a few changes. I've gone a bit gray since crossing over into my 50s and I do have a few character lines. But everything still functions-- I can still hike through the woods and clamber up rocks and do the other important physical things that young folks do, even if I do get winded a bit easier. I still feel like me, though, and I still feel immortal.

Externally, people start to treat you differently when you get to a certain age. When I'm the oldest in the group, the others defer to me as the one who should be leading, who should know the answers and know what to do-- which elicits a moment of panic before I realize that, miraculously, I do have the answers and know what to do. The worst thing about getting older, though, is that other people are getting older, too. And they're dying. The older you get, the more people you know die. That's the part I really hate about getting older.
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Old October 15 2012, 11:26 PM   #43
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I'm 42 years old. I actually feel better about myself and my life than I did when I was younger. I figure if I have my health, which I do, then what the hell right do I have to complain? I'm enjoying life better than I did when I was half this age.
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Old October 16 2012, 12:23 AM   #44
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49. After years of grad school for both me and Hubby, we're finally trying to enjoy life--in this economy.

What we've noticed as we've gotten older:

We wake up in the middle of the night to pee. Sometimes more than once. **sigh** You know you better drag your butt outta bed and into the bathroom when you start dreaming that you're peeing.

We have less energy than we used to. I've never been all that active, and Hubby's activity is mostly standing while he works.

We can't do justice to a good all-you-can-eat buffet, which really sucks. That doesn't seem to be everyone as they age. I'm amazed at seeing people my age and older coming back with plate after plate--and emptying them!

While the economy does seem to be slowly turning around, I don't think it's going to be easy for those in their 20s who don't have at least relatively wealthy parents. It was harder on us than our parents, especially since we're basically the group AFTER the Boomers--they filled the schools, the jobs, the houses, and we got sloppy seconds at higher prices and less income. I really feel for the young.

Despite Hubby going back to school in his 30s and owing $60K as a 40yo new graduate, and then me going to a local law school, we've been careful with money and paid our student loans off. Our only real debt is our house, since we pay all bills off every month. Now, we can actually try to enjoy life. We're traveling a bit, and hope to do more. No 3-month or even 1-month stay anywhere, but we're hoping for actual recurring 10-day vacations.

I don't know what's coming up, but we're actually doing okay.
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Old October 16 2012, 12:39 AM   #45
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Re: What is it like getting older?

Great, great responses to my question. I've read every single post, and while I'd love to answer all of them, there are so many! So I'm going to answer the posts where I was addressed directly.

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J, so much of it is about attitude. Getting older makes most things harder, and some things impossible. But if you have the attitude that it's all hard work and dull moments ahead, you're not going to have energy and stamina. It's not just about hoping that your future will pick up, it's working to make that a reality.

A lot of people here have mentioned health. We see that there are limitations, but it's something that you can still work on. I'm going through a really difficult phase of life right now and I'm making it a priority to do cardio every day. It gives me a boost in ways that nothing else would, and that's just for an hour of mindless running.

I'm going to be 30 next year and part of me feels like I've wasted my life thus far and I want to wallow in my wasted youth. But the other part of me is like fuck it, I'm young, and I have a lot of good moments in front of me. I've just got to put in more effort to make them a reality.
You sound a lot like me! Like you, I have the moments where I'm despondent over the fact that life is just zipping by and so much of that seems wasted. I mean, my 20s might as well have never happened, and yet, on the flipside, I tell myself that it I am 32 not 92, and that I can still make a difference, and create a life worth living.

Also, I'm trying to exercise better. I've started aerobic exercises, along with stretches, and do them 20 minutes a day. It doesn't sound like much, but I'm so out of shape. I realized this fully the other day, when I did a short 30 second dance for a video, and by the time I was done, I was winded as hell. That bothered me. I love to dance. While I know some slow dances, I can't fast dance work a lick, so it always looks like I'm fighting off bees or something.

I guess the chronic pain I have makes things seem worse than they really are. That's why I start threads like these, to see if things can be better. It keeps the optimist in me alive and kicking.

Also, my best to you reaching your goals!

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I'm 35. Some people half my age have lived more of a life than I have.

I've always been short. When I was young I was always told 'oh you'll shoot up' - I never did. So I think mentally I've never grown up either. I (literally!) look up to taller people even if younger.

I tend to think of this as my gap life. I'm content with that.
Yes! While I can be an adult, I much prefer to have fun, and while adults can have fun, it's not quite the same as being silly and wild, and letting your heart decide what you want to do. I know, that's corny, but it's still true.
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