The stigma of being a virgin loner (must end)

[CaptainPipcard]

You know what? I get tired of being told that people are losers unless they have gotten laid/ gotten pussy/ felt the touch of a woman.

Also, I also get tired of the idea that people are "sad" or "pathetic" if they are loners without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I don't need a companion to be happy in life.

I am celibate, and I just want to let out my opinions.

I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex, but at least I disagree respectfully.

[J. Allen]

CaptainPipcard wrote:

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You know what? I get tired of being told that people are losers unless they have gotten laid/ gotten pussy/ felt the touch of a woman.

Also, I also get tired of the idea that people are "sad" or "pathetic" if they are loners without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I don't need a companion to be happy in life.

I am celibate, and I just want to let out my opinions.

I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex, but at least I disagree respectfully.

If you are celibate by choice, more power to you. I would be the last person in the world to ever remark poorly upon someone for being a virgin.

[Data Holmes]

J. Allen wrote:

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If you are celibate by choice, more power to you. I would be the last person in the world to ever remark poorly upon someone for being a virgin.

What he said.

[teacake]

People bring the stigma upon themselves by..

Petulantly whining about not having a girlfriend and how it isn't fair because they are really a good guy but girls only like jerks.

Not being happy for people who are in relationships, instead making it all about how they are all alone.

Being high and mighty about the morals of sex when they've never had sex ("I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex").

Posting advice in relationship threads when they've never been in a relationship. Inevitably this advice is quite pious and full of earnest commentary about the importance of communication. Sometimes it's so shiny with naivety it's painful.

[Lumi]

People place far too much importance on things like this nowadays. It is nobody's business but your own. Screw them all.

[teacake]

Lumi wrote:

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People place far too much importance on things like this nowadays. It is nobody's business but your own. Screw them all.

But that would be too much sex!

[CaptainPipcard]

teacake wrote:

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People bring the stigma upon themselves by..

Petulantly whining about not having a girlfriend and how it isn't fair because they are really a good guy but girls only like jerks.

Not being happy for people who are in relationships, instead making it all about how they are all alone.

Being high and mighty about the morals of sex when they've never had sex ("I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex").

Posting advice in relationship threads when they've never been in a relationship. Inevitably this advice is quite pious and full of earnest commentary about the importance of communication. Sometimes it's so shiny with naivety it's painful.

I wouldn't want a girlfriend anyway.

I am happy for those who are in relationships.

You don't need to have sex to make decisions about it. Besides, people can disagree with my celibacy, as long as they do it in a respectful way (i.e. no "You need to get laid you freak!")

[Mr. B]

Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

[Data Holmes]

teacake wrote:

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But that would be too much sex!

Ok, that made me chuckle.

[Methos]

Anyone taking the piss out of men or calling them 'losers' for being celibate needs their head examining....

I know quite a few, about 20 or so just in the local scene for work, men that are celibate by choice... now they work in the BDSM / Fetish porn industry, as do i, so let me tell you there is absolutely no stigma in the BDSM / Fetish scene about being a virgin...

Actually, the opposite is true, there are dozens, if not more, of fetishes actually based around virginity / celibacy / chastity... not kidding here... if you want to double check this, just google 'chastity fetish' and check for yourself...

I have no problem with the idea of a man being a virgin, saving himself for marriage or anything else along that line... it's your choice, your body, do what the hell you want with it, anyone who tries to say otherwise or says anything because you haven't had sex yet... fuck 'em... just not in that way lol

M

[CaptainPipcard]

Mr. B wrote:

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Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

You don't need sex to be "human" or "healthy". This is also an attitude that I am getting tired of.

[scotpens]

CaptainPipcard wrote:

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You don't need to have sex to make decisions about it.

That’s what this guy said.

[MANT!]

Mr. B wrote:
Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

CaptainPicard wrote:
You don't need sex to be "human" or "healthy". This is also an attitude that I am getting tired of.

Don't knock it if you haven't tried it!

[ManOnTheWave]

Personally, I'd rather be getting sex than not, but your virginity or lack thereof only matters if it matters to you.

[sonak]

Mr. B wrote:

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Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

I don't get this attitude. As long as you are not hurting others and you are happy, I don't think that there's a "right" way to be living your life.


Who makes those decisions anyway?