This is dare I say fasinating, but I don't know if you'll receive much useful insight; mine included. However, the orgins to some of this we should look back to the test audiance and their view of #1 from the Cage; GR said the female
audiance members didn't care for her at all(i.e. "who does she think she is";etc). So gender aside reaction can vary greatly. To my eyes the sort of injoke appeal to Janeway / 7 relationship was the chemestry and true connection they clearly had as actors and characters. They respected and cared for each other. People read into that what they will.