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Old April 9 2013, 12:27 PM   #46
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Re: We won't be playing games anymore.

^agreed, the shy, quiet, more social awkward types tend to better in small groups, in larger groups they can find themselves talked over. In most meetings you'll find the more outgoing personality types try and take control, drowning out the quieter types. Same with parties and social events, quieter types generally need to be brought in to the conversation, they rarely initiate things. Not every outgoing person can understand how uncomfortable these ice-breakers can be for less out-going people.

Ice-breakers are in part supposed to relax people, shy personality types can feel they are being put on the spot, the exact opposite of relaxing.

It's all about getting the right ice-breaker.
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Old April 9 2013, 01:15 PM   #47
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Re: We won't be playing games anymore.

I was in this ice breaker group once where the leader had the brilliant idea that, "now we are all going to turn to the person on our right and give them a shoulder massage!"

I was like, EXCUSE ME?! FUCK OFF!!
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Old April 9 2013, 04:25 PM   #48
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I was in this ice breaker group once where the leader had the brilliant idea that, "now we are all going to turn to the person on our right and give them a shoulder massage!"

I was like, EXCUSE ME?! FUCK OFF!!
OMG I would flip out. I don't even like significant others giving me massages! A handshake is the most physical contact I'm willing to provide at work, and even that is something I really wish we didn't have to do.
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Old April 9 2013, 05:57 PM   #49
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Re: We won't be playing games anymore.

Some of the replies in this thread... almost busted a gut! This is really what makes TBBS so worth reading.


I agree, this game playing bit definitely sounds like something straight out of The Office or even from a Dilbert strip. To think that it happened in the real world, well it's just nuts. I understand what the boss was trying to do, but she should have said "something interesting you did or experienced" and "don't make it too personal". And she should have stepped right in after the first sign of a very personal confession.

I think the best way to ice-break is to just put people in a fun and relaxing situation. Take them out for a picnic lunch or some activity they can all do together.
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Old April 9 2013, 06:26 PM   #50
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^ I hear you, but if you can't BS something light, interesting and appropriate, you just aren't trying, and that's rudeness.
Rudeness not to produce personal information on demand?
Methinks you missed my use of the term "BS" there...
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Old April 9 2013, 11:32 PM   #51
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Re: We won't be playing games anymore.

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I was in this ice breaker group once where the leader had the brilliant idea that, "now we are all going to turn to the person on our right and give them a shoulder massage!"

I was like, EXCUSE ME?! FUCK OFF!!
OMG I would flip out.
You and me both!

The only icebreaker I ever remember enjoying was one where we told the group three things about ourselves, two true and one not, and then answered questions about them. The rest of the group had to decide which one was the lie. Fun. And no pressure, because no one was forced to be the center of attention. The leader just asked for a few volunteers. I think the lack of pressure made it more effective as an icebreaker, because we really did relax and have fun.
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Old April 10 2013, 03:27 AM   #52
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Re: We won't be playing games anymore.

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I was in this ice breaker group once where the leader had the brilliant idea that, "now we are all going to turn to the person on our right and give them a shoulder massage!"

I was like, EXCUSE ME?! FUCK OFF!!
Getting all touchy-feely with people you barely know? Eew. I thought that sort of thing was for 1970s "encounter groups."

Now, this party game from Darling (1965) I'd definitely not recommend.

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Old April 10 2013, 04:41 PM   #53
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My mother in law was in one last week where all groups of people took off their shoes, blindfolded each other and had to get on the floor and indentify each other's shoes.

What the fuck happened to America?
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Old April 11 2013, 12:06 PM   #54
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^Is it to late to enact a qurrantine to prevent such nonsnes spreading?
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