Do you believe there is someone for every person? - Page 11

Admiral Buzzkill · February 24 2013, 03:37 AM

No, there's not. There are so many nonsensical assumptions contained in the OP's question that no affirmative answer can be justified.

J. Allen · February 24 2013, 03:42 AM

My Name Is Legion wrote:

No, there's not. There are so many nonsensical assumptions contained in the OP's question that no affirmative answer can be justified.

Really? That many? So many assumptions that you just can't create an affirmative answer that's justified?

J. Allen wrote:

Still, I think that statistically speaking, someone on this planet will share your interests and appreciate you for who you are.

That's beyond your ken? What's happened to you, Dennis? You were better at this once.

mos6507 · February 24 2013, 03:58 AM

J. Allen wrote:

My Name Is Legion wrote:

No, there's not. There are so many nonsensical assumptions contained in the OP's question that no affirmative answer can be justified.

Really? That many? So many assumptions that you just can't create an affirmative answer that's justified?

You know, a thread like this reflects someone sticking their neck out emotionally around a sensitive holiday when people feel lonely and are asking tough question. I don't think they deserve to have it cut-off. There's a way to make a point without being rude.

Kestra · February 24 2013, 08:19 AM

mos6507 wrote:

J. Allen wrote:

My Name Is Legion wrote:

No, there's not. There are so many nonsensical assumptions contained in the OP's question that no affirmative answer can be justified.

Really? That many? So many assumptions that you just can't create an affirmative answer that's justified?

You know, a thread like this reflects someone sticking their neck out emotionally around a sensitive holiday when people feel lonely and are asking tough question. I don't think they deserve to have it cut-off. There's a way to make a point without being rude.

I agree wholeheartedly.

Ulva · February 24 2013, 09:46 AM

^+1

RJDiogenes · February 24 2013, 11:26 AM

^ * 1,000,000.

Gary7 · February 25 2013, 04:06 AM

Mr. Laser Beam wrote:

Sephiroth wrote:

what happens when your someone...dies?

Then, after a proper period of mourning...you go and find a new someone. No one should be expected to be alone for the rest of their lives.

Some people choose not to... holding on the memory of their lost one living solitary to the end, perhaps as an act of faithfulness? I have no idea what it must be like, when you love somebody more than life itself and lose them. If that happened to me later in life, maybe in my 70's or later, I'd probably not go looking for another romantic companion but I wouldn't turn away from someone who I could fall in love with who happens to collide with my life path.

Sector 7 · February 25 2013, 06:16 AM

^If God should choose to place someone else in my life, I hope I could give them as much love as they deserve. Honestly, I just don't know that I would ever love someone as much as I loved Tony. Am I missing out? Maybe, but that is my honest answer at this point.

It has been 7+ years and I still don't think I could ever have that complete of a love again. It would be someone very special, kind and P.A.T.I.E.N.T. to put up with my hang ups about losing my true love. I am in my 50s, am I just too old to try again?

Ulva · February 25 2013, 09:25 AM

I don't think it's too late at 50. However, I have noticed that as I grow older, the thought of starting over, if this relationship I'm in now fails or he dies, isn't all that attractive. I think that when you're younger you actively seek relationships at least partly because you are expected to, but now, I'd be fine not being in one. I can stand on my own two legs, manage my own life just fine. It would be a bit lonely at times (I know it is because I've been a single parent before, and that's not always easy), but there are many positive aspects of single life too. If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships.

mos6507 · February 25 2013, 09:27 AM

"If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships."

And they better like Star Trek

Ulva · February 25 2013, 09:57 AM

Of course.

Sephiroth · February 25 2013, 10:29 AM

We were 16, knew each other from infancy, our parents were good friends. Her not being there was like the sun not coming out anymore, like gravity stopped working.

RJDiogenes · February 25 2013, 10:56 AM

Sector 7 wrote:

I am in my 50s, am I just too old to try again?

Definitely not.

Sector 7 · February 26 2013, 07:56 AM

Ulva wrote:

I don't think it's too late at 50. However, I have noticed that as I grow older, the thought of starting over, if this relationship I'm in now fails or he dies, isn't all that attractive. I think that when you're younger you actively seek relationships at least partly because you are expected to, but now, I'd be fine not being in one. I can stand on my own two legs, manage my own life just fine. It would be a bit lonely at times (I know it is because I've been a single parent before, and that's not always easy), but there are many positive aspects of single life too. If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships.

I think this is how I also feel.

mos6507 wrote:

"If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships."

And they better like Star Trek

Absolutely!

RJDiogenes wrote:

Sector 7 wrote:

I am in my 50s, am I just too old to try again?

Definitely not.

Thanks, RJ!

Side note: I recently discovered my godson has always had a crush on me. He's 21, gay, and decided to tell me a few months ago. I've been letting him know that I think our love for each other is deeper than that... like families love each other! I really am too old for that.

Kelso · February 27 2013, 07:28 AM

A few years ago I was depressed, overweight, ugly, boring, stressed out and sad. I was in a horrible marriage that I couldn't walk away from, I had no relationship whatsoever with my two year old daughter, I was working two shitty jobs to pay for a house I couldn't afford, I literally did not have a single friend, and I had long-since given up on the notion that any of my dreams would ever come true. It was so bad that once became so angry that I started crying because I heard some strangers in a parking lot laughing. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that they had something I would never again process- joy.

But you know what? My wife split, took the child, and left me with the house and three credit cards in my name that I didn't even know existed... and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Within a year I had lost the house to foreclosure and filed for bankruptcy and divorce. And I started at building a new life for myself- a real one this time. I lost 65 pounds, fought for time with my little girl and learned how to be a daddy, found an amazing woman via an online dating sight who happened to have loads of friends who are spectacular, nerdy people.

Today, I'm healthier, happier and more attractive than I've ever been in my life. I just got married (it was epic, Muppet themed affair and I wore a ridiculously tall top hat), I have an fantastic relationship with my little girl (who is the most hilarious person in the world), and as for those dreams I had given up on, I'm actually making real progress on those now. Life is actually fucking grand.

Back to the topic, I really don't know if there is someone for everyone. But I do know that life sometimes your life seems like it's over when it actually hasn't even started yet.

February 24 2013, 03:37 AM	#151
Admiral Buzzkill The Man Location: Defying Gravity	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? No, there's not. There are so many nonsensical assumptions contained in the OP's question that no affirmative answer can be justified. __________________ "I think [J.J. Abrams has] done a great thing for Star Trek. I’m very grateful to him. We all owe him a lot. When someone comes along like he has done and picks it up and elevates it, we should be grateful." - Leonard Nimoy

February 24 2013, 09:46 AM	#155
Ulva Vice Admiral Location: Way up north	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? ^+1 __________________ Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. - Janis Joplin

February 24 2013, 11:26 AM	#156
RJDiogenes Idealistic Cynic and Canon Champion Location: RJDiogenes of Boston	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? ^ * 1,000,000. __________________ Please stop by my Gallery and YouTube Page for a visit. And read Trunkards!

February 25 2013, 06:16 AM	#158
Sector 7 Rear Admiral Location: Obama's Achievements - http://obamaachievements.org/list	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? ^If God should choose to place someone else in my life, I hope I could give them as much love as they deserve. Honestly, I just don't know that I would ever love someone as much as I loved Tony. Am I missing out? Maybe, but that is my honest answer at this point. It has been 7+ years and I still don't think I could ever have that complete of a love again. It would be someone very special, kind and P.A.T.I.E.N.T. to put up with my hang ups about losing my true love. I am in my 50s, am I just too old to try again? __________________ “The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little.” -FDR God gives us what we can handle, even if we don't believe it ourselves.

February 25 2013, 09:25 AM	#159
Ulva Vice Admiral Location: Way up north	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? I don't think it's too late at 50. However, I have noticed that as I grow older, the thought of starting over, if this relationship I'm in now fails or he dies, isn't all that attractive. I think that when you're younger you actively seek relationships at least partly because you are expected to, but now, I'd be fine not being in one. I can stand on my own two legs, manage my own life just fine. It would be a bit lonely at times (I know it is because I've been a single parent before, and that's not always easy), but there are many positive aspects of single life too. If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships. __________________ Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. - Janis Joplin

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February 25 2013, 09:27 AM	#160
mos6507 Commander	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? "If I should start over it better be someone really damn special, because I'm over random relationships for the sake of relationships." And they better like Star Trek __________________ Fem Trekz on Facebook

February 25 2013, 09:57 AM	#161
Ulva Vice Admiral Location: Way up north	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? Of course. __________________ Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. - Janis Joplin

February 25 2013, 10:29 AM	#162
Sephiroth Vice Admiral Location: Sephiroth	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? We were 16, knew each other from infancy, our parents were good friends. Her not being there was like the sun not coming out anymore, like gravity stopped working. __________________ ~I Will Never Be A Memory~ (>'_')>---------->Kazap< Hunting Humanity and Pestering Cloud since 1997

February 27 2013, 07:28 AM	#165
Kelso Vice Admiral Location: On the destruct button until the last minute!	Re: Do you believe there is someone for every person? A few years ago I was depressed, overweight, ugly, boring, stressed out and sad. I was in a horrible marriage that I couldn't walk away from, I had no relationship whatsoever with my two year old daughter, I was working two shitty jobs to pay for a house I couldn't afford, I literally did not have a single friend, and I had long-since given up on the notion that any of my dreams would ever come true. It was so bad that once became so angry that I started crying because I heard some strangers in a parking lot laughing. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that they had something I would never again process- joy. But you know what? My wife split, took the child, and left me with the house and three credit cards in my name that I didn't even know existed... and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Within a year I had lost the house to foreclosure and filed for bankruptcy and divorce. And I started at building a new life for myself- a real one this time. I lost 65 pounds, fought for time with my little girl and learned how to be a daddy, found an amazing woman via an online dating sight who happened to have loads of friends who are spectacular, nerdy people. Today, I'm healthier, happier and more attractive than I've ever been in my life. I just got married (it was epic, Muppet themed affair and I wore a ridiculously tall top hat), I have an fantastic relationship with my little girl (who is the most hilarious person in the world), and as for those dreams I had given up on, I'm actually making real progress on those now. Life is actually fucking grand. Back to the topic, I really don't know if there is someone for everyone. But I do know that life sometimes your life seems like it's over when it actually hasn't even started yet. __________________ "Murder on Tuesday"! The all-new comic strip from Kail Tescar's startrekanimated.com My Puppet Building Blog! Last edited by Kelso; February 27 2013 at 07:38 AM.