Dating Range?

[Gary7]

iguana_tonante wrote:

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And you'll lose.

Oh right... the MILF / Cougar phenomenon. How stupid of me.

[sidious618]

Gary7 wrote:

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Oh right... the MILF / Cougar phenomenon. How stupid of me.

Why is this "phenomenon" a bad thing? Why would it be weird for a man to be into an older woman?

[Gary7]

sidious618 wrote:

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Why is this "phenomenon" a bad thing? Why would it be weird for a man to be into an older woman?

Whoever said it was bad or weird? I was just talking about the tendency...

[Starkers]

tighr wrote:

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Ugh, that is the worst. I also like dating older women, but there is nothing like the immaturity of not being able to handle a boyfriend who is younger than you. And it seems to happen every time. They always seem to get hung up on that fact, instead of just ignoring it and having a good time.

Well like I said I've been guilty of that in reverse so I was ok with it

[Chaos Descending]

I'm 39 right now. My ex-wife will be 31 in March, and my girlfriend just turned 26.

I guess I am a cradle robber!

[Vendikarr]

I am currently 52, and my average range is a + or - 5 years.

[Rhubarbodendron]

nice! You don't happen to live in my area?

I think women tend to choose older men because at least in their first 3-4 decades men tend to be less mature than women of the same age. I prefer to have a partner who is at my level, emotionally and intellectually. Some young men are, but they are the exception, not the rule.

Also, contrary to young men, older men are more relaxed as far as sex is concerned. Young men tend to see it as a kind of athletic discipline (and oh the catastrophy when it doesn't work - there's the risk of a whole world shattering for the guy ) while older men see it as fun and if it doesn't work it doesn't matter as long as both enjoy it. After all, nobody is perfect all the time.

[teacake]

Athletic discipline?! SIGN ME UP!!

Seriously, never across that.

[Kirby]

I voted -5 years. I've been married now for almost 19 years, but interestingly in all three serious relationships I've had, she has always been two years younger than me. Weird.

[TorontoTrekker]

I'm 45, and my last two boyfriends were both 18 years younger than me. The oldest person I've dated was something like 2 or 3 years older than me (it didn't last long, and although we're still friendly when we see each other, it's been at least a year, maybe two, since I last saw him). As has been noted above, I was the one who was the more concerned about the age difference in each case with my younger boyfriends (though my last bf did ask me not to volunteer my age when I was meeting his parents for the first time - I think he thought they would find it weird).

The thing for me is that I don't think of myself as 45. I'm not immature - I've held a series of jobs (both paid and volunteer) with a fair amount of responsibility, I've been married (my ex-husband is two years younger than me), and I own my home. (Well, the bank still owns about half of it. ) I don't know if it's because I've always been told that I look younger than my age, or because I have a number of friends who are between 10 and 25 years younger than me, or what. (In fact, my last bf told me that he had no idea how old I was when we first met.) But mentally, I feel like I'm around 30. As a result, I'm not much interested in most guys around my age, and I'm certainly not interested in men who are older than me. I find them dull, for the most part, though there are a few exceptions - mostly people I know through fandom, which is probably because they also tend to be mentally younger than their years (yet not immature).

Does that make sense? I'm not even certain that I'm not just trying to justify liking younger men.

Of course, it's all kind of irrelevant because I haven't even had a date since my last bf and I broke up, three years ago.

[Rhubarbodendron]

It does make sense. I'm 48 and still feel like 23. When I look into a mirror I am always surprised at my real age (but fortunately I look a decade younger than I am which means at 90 I'll look like just 80 )

[RJDiogenes]

I think most of us in Fandom have that spark of imagination and wonder that keeps us young at heart (although there are certainly exceptions), which no doubt helps to slow the physical aging process.

[Rhubarbodendron]

Or it is because of the cold: deep frozen meat stays fresh so much longer

[Jimi_James]

I chose, None of the Above/I like to be difficult.

Actually I think it depends on the person you're dating. I could see myself dating someone younger or older by a wide variety of age. It depends on the person and the level of attraction. Just to be clear, when I say attraction I don't mean purely physical attraction but rather the whole package.