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View Poll Results: What's your typical dating range?
- less than 5 years 13 20.31%
- 5 years 22 34.38%
- 10 years 19 29.69%
- 15 years 2 3.13%
- 20 years 1 1.56%
+ less than 5 years 9 14.06%
+ 5 years 16 25.00%
+ 10 years 16 25.00%
+ 15 years 7 10.94%
+ 20 years 2 3.13%
None of the above/I like to be difficult. 9 14.06%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 64. You may not vote on this poll

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Old February 1 2013, 10:05 PM   #1
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Dating Range?

Was having a conversation about this and wondering what people typically consider for their dating range, in terms of age. Do you have mental limits or are you pretty open? I'm making separate categories for under your age (-) and over your age (+) since these can often be different numbers, so make sure to choose an option for each.
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Old February 1 2013, 10:09 PM   #2
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Re: Dating Range?

I'm in my 40's, so I probably should not be dating anyone younger than 20.

Over? I dunno, maybe early 60's. (I do find older women attractive.)
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Old February 1 2013, 10:10 PM   #3
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Re: Dating Range?

I prefer someone close to my age but could go slightly younger or somewhat older. I chose "+10 years", though maybe +5 would be more accurate. I've tended to date men within only a year or two of my age.
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Old February 1 2013, 10:10 PM   #4
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Re: Dating Range?

While I chose "-10 to +10", I'm actually fine with any age from 18 and up, though I do want a family, and children. Since I'm 32, anything beyond "+10" would be a little bit risky in that regard.
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Old February 1 2013, 10:18 PM   #5
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Re: Dating Range?

I chose less than five and then ten years older, but really I think I'd like an older guy at this point. There are of course exceptions for this range, such as my second and third husbands, Patrick Stewart and Bruce Willis.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:12 PM   #6
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Re: Dating Range?

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I chose less than five and then ten years older, but really I think I'd like an older guy at this point. There are of course exceptions for this range, such as my second and third husbands, Patrick Stewart and Bruce Willis.


Isn't Patrick Stewart everyone's exception?

The older you get the more fluid your range becomes and the less difference the age makes. If you have a big gap though at some point the older person's aging issues, whether in looks or life choices or health can potentially cause relationship issues. Yes I know people will say it shouldn't matter, but issues arise just like the do for other differences between people such as religion or culture.

I picked - 10 years even though it makes me bad because my biggest issue with men older than me or even my age has always been that every one of them appears to be a luddite. They listen to the same music they did when they were 20, they eschew any new trends or genres, they really are convinced that all new things life has to offer are inferior to whatever their golden era of life was (usually college).

My test would be..

Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.

I can't have these luddite conversations. I don't know why but women seem to be more open to embracing a changing world, in my personal experience* anyway.

* yes this is a generalization based on my personal experience
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Old February 1 2013, 11:19 PM   #7
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I am 27, and I voted that I'd date someone less than 5 years younger than me, and not more than 5 years older than me. Basically, anyone age 24-32 would be alright. Though, it does depend on what stage the 24 year old is at, because I've been through the starving student phase of my life and have no desire to relive it with someone else. I've firmly moved out of the student lifestyle and into the full time working woman category, so I'd like to be with someone that can match that or is even further along in their career.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:24 PM   #8
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I'm one of those people who believes this sort of thing can't really be measured by a number.

There are so many different criteria that are so much more important to compatibility.

I know from personal experience. The one person I've ever really felt a strong connection to was about six years older than me. It was clear to both me and others that she felt the same way but had this ridiculous rule about dating guys several years younger than her. And no matter how much I pushed she refused to break it.

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Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.
That rules me out.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:24 PM   #9
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Re: Dating Range?

I married someone 5 years older, so I put +5. But, to be honest, as long as they are somewhere AROUND my age, I don't care. I think having common interests and attitude is more important.

Hubby and I are both atheists, both Democrats, both sci geeks, movie buffs, mystery lovers and like board games. Neither of us drink, smoke or gamble.

Where we differ is that he is an IT guy and eats, sleeps and breathes computers, gadgets and all sorts of machines. I just surf the net. I like board games, he LIVES for board games. I LOVE animals, he tolerates them. He loves Babylon 5 and I love Blake's 7.

Being able to enjoy the same types of things is very important. I'm a fairly unattractive person, so I know he didn't fall in love with me for my looks. We have common interests and approaches. He's a little older than I am, but are experiences have been similar.

I'm not sure that someone 20 years younger than I would really have the same attitudes or frame of reference that I have; I think it would harder to find common ground. However, it's not impossible, not by any means. I just don't think it's as likely.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:25 PM   #10
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I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:26 PM   #11
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I was +/-5. Much more than that and I simply didn't connect with anyone.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:26 PM   #12
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I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.

^If they aren't "willing" adults, that would be kidnapping, not dating.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:31 PM   #13
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Re: Dating Range?

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I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.

^If they aren't "willing" adults, that would be kidnapping, not dating.
I would be a little concerned about the ages between the age of consent and adulthood, the 16 or 17 year olds. It would depend on the individual relationship in those cases.
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Old February 1 2013, 11:37 PM   #14
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Re: Dating Range?

teacake wrote: View Post
My test would be..

Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.


(actually I have never heard any of her songs. I just know I find her not at all attractive.)
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Old February 1 2013, 11:44 PM   #15
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Re: Dating Range?

I didn't notice that it was a multiple choice poll, so I picked "-10," because that's my top preference, but in reality it would be "+/-10."

I'm not picky, though. If I can relate to you and we hit it off, I'll go outside the ten-year range, though skewing younger since I'm getting up there myself.

I think if Jurassic Park was made before you were born, or you lived through the Jurassic period, you're too young and old for me, respectively.
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