Sayings that you hate now

[Rhubarbodendron]

yes, occasionally, but I don't hear it often enough to get annoyed.
It's similar to "and? What's new at school?" my mom used to ask every single day when I came back from school. For 13 years (14 actually - I repeated year #7)

[RandyS]

Rhubarbodendron wrote:

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yes, occasionally, but I don't hear it often enough to get annoyed.
It's similar to "and? What's new at school?" my mom used to ask every single day when I came back from school. For 13 years (14 actually - I repeated year #7)

You just reminded me of one that used to annoy the hell out of me. Every year at Christmas dinner, my cousin would ask me "So, what grade school you in now?". He's twelve years older and was in college back then.

To be fair, this particular cousin was somebody I only saw at that dinner (we lived in different cities, now in different states), but it still used to annoy me for some odd reason.

[SeerSGB]

My new one (thanks to the wife's coworker blabbing a lot of personal and embarrassing medical info that's in no way related to her job info to the DM): "Do you mind that I told him?" How about you ask first you stupid ****.

[scotpens]

Rhubarbodendron wrote:

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How about a compromise? Deep-frozen bacon?

Or bacon-flavored ice cream?

jinglebellrok wrote:

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. . . apropos of that, has anyone else heard: "Care to share?"

Ugggh. That sounds so touchy-feely 1970s.

Another thing that's not really a saying but a reflexive habit: People accepting a compliment that's not really directed at them.

"You have a lovely wife."

"Thank you!"

Oh, did you design her yourself?

[Kestra]

SeerSGB wrote:

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My new one (thanks to the wife's coworker blabbing a lot of personal and embarrassing medical info that's in no way related to her job info to the DM): "Do you mind that I told him?" How about you ask first you stupid ****.

You wife's coworker shared private information about your wife? The question/"saying" seems pretty straightforward here. You'd just say "Yes, I do mind," and then explain so it doesn't happen again.

[Rhubarbodendron]

Still, it's quite idiotic/rude to do it first and ask afterwards. I can understand how that'd be annoying and am grateful it hasn't happened to me (yet).

[Kestra]

Yeah, it's annoying, which is why you just answer them honestly and don't blow up about it later.

[trekkiedane]

scotpens wrote:

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Another thing that's not really a saying but a reflexive habit: People accepting a compliment that's not really directed at them.

"You have a lovely wife."

"Thank you!"

Oh, did you design her yourself?

But, "You have a lovely wife." (and that sort of comment) is actually an insult!

The one saying it to you is expressing their disbelief in the fact that such a "lovely" woman would ever have anything to do with you...

The "Thank you"-response only shows that you also find it quite unbelievable that such a person would have anything to do with you -AND implies that you have (had?) some kind of special mojo that got her attention at the time...

[JarodRussell]

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Rhubarbodendron wrote:

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Another thing that's not really a saying but a reflexive habit: People accepting a compliment that's not really directed at them.

"You have a lovely wife."

"Thank you!"

Oh, did you design her yourself?

So what is the purpose of saying "You have a lovely wife" to begin with?

And what would be the proper reaction to that statement in your opinion?

[Tora Ziyal]

Kestra wrote:

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You wife's coworker shared private information about your wife? The question/"saying" seems pretty straightforward here. You'd just say "Yes, I do mind," and then explain so it doesn't happen again.

And then you hope that explaining actually works.

I had a close friend whom I specifically told not to tell anyone some very personal/traumatic stuff that I had shared with her, and she agreed not to, but then went and blurted out all the details to a couple people. When I confronted her, she gave me three different, contradictory excuses why she'd told them, and never apologized.

Sounds like high school or something, doesn't it? We were both over 60 and had been friends for ten years.

[Rhubarbodendron]

sometimes it is really difficult to keep a secret, particularly when it's something unpleasant or traumatic.
Still, it's not ok to blab it out. I wonder how priests manage to not tell what they've heard in confession. Maybe they tell it to their diaries or to each other.

[teacake]

Or maybe they go home and wank about it. <----bitter about priests

[scotpens]

trekkiedane wrote:

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. . . "You have a lovely wife." (and that sort of comment) is actually an insult!

The one saying it to you is expressing their disbelief in the fact that such a "lovely" woman would ever have anything to do with you...

The "Thank you"-response only shows that you also find it quite unbelievable that such a person would have anything to do with you -AND implies that you have (had?) some kind of special mojo that got her attention at the time...

Well, that's a bit of a stretch, isn't it?

[Tora Ziyal]

Rhubarbodendron wrote:

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sometimes it is really difficult to keep a secret, particularly when it's something unpleasant or traumatic.
Still, it's not ok to blab it out.

No, it isn't. And it's especially not okay to make excuses afterwards. In the incident I referred to, her refusal to take responsibility upset me far more than the blabbing itself.

I wonder how priests manage to not tell what they've heard in confession. Maybe they tell it to their diaries or to each other.

I've had a lot of priests as colleagues or friends. They tell jokes about confession, like many of us tell jokes about our own profession, but I can think of only one who actually said something once that I suspect came from someone's confession. The vast majority of priests take the "seal of confession" very seriously.

[trekkiedane]

scotpens wrote:

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Well, that's a bit of a stretch, isn't it?

I may be over-analyzing the meaning of saying thanks to one of those compliments to you about something you had no influence on.

But the first half of my argument I stand by.