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Old October 13 2009, 07:36 PM   #1
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Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

The reasoning for starting this thread is simple: I'm lonely. And I'm ironically pretty sure that I'm not alone with that around here.

I thought it could be a fun idea to have a thread to come together in our loneliness of sorts. It doesn't have to be lonely in the same way I am, there are different kinds of loneliness. No what kind, here's a place to vent.


My loneliness is mainly of a romantic nature. I have for a while now felt ready for a new relationship, but have put it off since I've wanted to have some kind of job I'm happy with first, seeing as I'd be happier with myself then. Well as it is, I have a job now, but it's one I'm only doing out neccesity to pay the bills, and I'd walk in a heartbeat if I had anything else.

Right now it seems I'll be stuck at it for a while, and since that's the case I just can't be unhappy both in my work life and home life. One of the few good friends I have is head over heels for a guy she met a few months ago, and is now most likely moving away. So partly I'm losing a friend, but partly it kinda hurts me to see her so happy, as pathetic and twisted that sounds. Add to that the onstorming winter and 25th birthday and I just don't know if I can handle another year of no satisfaction in neither work or love life.


There's my loneliness, how about yours?
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Old October 13 2009, 07:44 PM   #2
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I'm isolated from my family, who live 340 miles away.

I'm mostly away from my neighbours, as my work is 45 miles away and I'm in an accommodation on my own.

I've moved geographical location four significant times in my lifetime (and 4-5 other times in a lesser fashion), having to meet new people along the way, and often forcing myself to leave my old friends behind, and very often having to start my social networks again from the ground up - in every possible sense.

OK, not the loneliest place in the world, but I am alone, yes.




By the way, these guys also had a lonely hearts club... band... thing.
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Old October 13 2009, 07:45 PM   #3
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I just moved away from all my friends to start a new job. Yes, I'm single, and have been for a really long time, but that doesn't bother me that much. My friends always more than made up for my lack of a partner. They're not too far away, but it's weird knowing that if I want to see them we'll actually need to schedule time to do it instead of just being able to say, "Hey, what are you doing right now?"
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Old October 13 2009, 07:59 PM   #4
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
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Old October 13 2009, 08:20 PM   #5
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

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I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
that doesn't count!



I'm a lonely dude.
I'm convinced that no female has ever been interested in me. This may simply be a result of my absolute inability to read signals, but I still can't help feeling that I'll be single forever.
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Old October 13 2009, 11:58 PM   #6
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I think loneliness is too essential a part of my nature to remove.

I was an Arts-and-Sciences kid born into a Church-and-Football family, so my creative and intellectual interests were always either ignored or mocked. Very lonely at home. I had some friends over the years who shared the occasional interest, but only in minor ways so my friendships were always superficial (at least from my perspective). It was worse with women, because the stereotypes are a barrier to them being interested in what I am interested in. Over the last few years, my Romantic escapades have dwindled because of a woman I knew who radically changed the way I view relationships; in the last 15 years, I've only known one woman who I considered myself compatible with, and there were some insurmountable barriers.

So I guess I'm lonely, but at peace with it; I wonder if I'd still really be me if I wasn't lonely.
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Old October 14 2009, 12:42 AM   #7
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I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
Damn, you made that joke that I came in to make.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:02 AM   #8
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I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
Damn, you made that joke that I came in to make.
Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:02 AM   #9
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Agent Spooky wrote: View Post
I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
that doesn't count!



I'm a lonely dude.
I'm convinced that no female has ever been interested in me. This may simply be a result of my absolute inability to read signals, but I still can't help feeling that I'll be single forever.
Fuck signals...time to take the bitch/bull by the horns and just be bold with it. I can't believe that no woman has EVER has been interested in you....surely you can't be that repulsive.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:43 AM   #10
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

Well... My life is a lonely one, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that I am lonely. It all comes down to dollars and cents; with lots of money, there are many things a person can do; with little money, or when desiring to save it, there is little if anything to do.

Right now I'm salaried with the Dept. of Social and Health Services, paid basically to babysit my mentally disabled mother who lives with me. This means that I don't have any workplace social interaction. The side job I had a while ago (working at Macy's) laid me off earlier this year, and nothing has come up since. Since I nolonger work there, money is tighter than it used to be as well, which means that the most logical thing for me to do is to just sit at home. (But then again, how can I complain about not having to go to work in the morning?)

Social contacts can be a big liability, not to mention irritation, so in a certain sense I'm quite happy not to have them; but that isn't to say that I am not looking forward to the day when I have more money and fewer inhibitions. There are times when life isn't bad as in needing to be changed, but isn't exactly what you'd call "good" either. That's me.

I'm convinced that no female has ever been interested in me. This may simply be a result of my absolute inability to read signals, but I still can't help feeling that I'll be single forever.
^ You probably are just suffering from a Nerd-Complex (This is, after all, a Star Trek forum...) and probably have decent odds. I've never really been a hugely outgoing type around women. Actually, in the past there always has seemed to be a reason not to actually take the plunge for me; it either seems unprofessional to try to spark romance (i.e. workplace or stranger) or just plain not the right time for fiscal reasons (face it - serious dating will cost thousands of dollars; it isn't a small investment.) That said, there have been plenty of positive "signals" cast my way... just not the right time. Remember, it isn't ever too late. As a matter of fact, statistics prove that people that get married in their late twenties or early thirties are usually less likely to divorce.

The key to avoiding loneliness is to learn just to cruise along and be cool. Don't take life too seriously. I think that feelings of loneliness usually are born in fear that whatever you are doing is somehow not sufficient.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:45 AM   #11
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

Cakes488 wrote: View Post
backstabbed wrote: View Post
Agent Spooky wrote: View Post
I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
that doesn't count!



I'm a lonely dude.
I'm convinced that no female has ever been interested in me. This may simply be a result of my absolute inability to read signals, but I still can't help feeling that I'll be single forever.
Fuck signals...time to take the bitch/bull by the horns and just be bold with it. I can't believe that no woman has EVER has been interested in you....surely you can't be that repulsive.
Well, I am pretty repulsive, but I occasionally 'have encounters', so there's hope.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:49 AM   #12
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Zyborg Ragescream wrote: View Post
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I'm pretty lonely too, but I get by with a little help from my friends.
Damn, you made that joke that I came in to make.
Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time.
Gotta admit, it's getting better. Getting better all time.

But yeah, i am also very lonely. I'm almost 25 and i am single with no chance so far for that to change any time soon.
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Old October 14 2009, 01:57 AM   #13
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Re: Admiral Brukk's Lonely Hearts Club

I'm lonely, been lonely for years, and I'm tired of it and, well, I've no idea how to correct it or where to meat somehone. With a shrug, all I can say is "Not sure."

All I can do is hope that something will happen, fate will take its course, or something to take away by lonliness.
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Old October 14 2009, 02:05 AM   #14
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Well, I am pretty repulsive, but I occasionally 'have encounters', so there's hope.
You are NOT repulsive so stop that.


I am a bit lonely these days myself. My family is 370 miles away. I work two jobs so I just don't have time to date right now. So it is just me... and my fish... and my McCoy doll. Both are trapped behind glass/plastic so they are not much company.
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Old October 14 2009, 02:33 AM   #15
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I'm not especially lonely, no. I have my friends and family around. There's just one person who I am far away from, and that kind of overshadows the rest. Plus I'm not entirely surely how or when I'll be able to be back with her, though I am currently trying my hardest to find a way. She's also very busy, and has never been one to email me all that often, so I miss her more than I might were she to contact me regularly. But I can handle it okay, and I have enough going on in my life now to keep me occupied. I have faith in her, and it feels good to finally have someone I can put my faith in and not fear that it will come back to haunt me. I'm happy for it.
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