Women value discretion, too many men have big mouths. Too many times have I heard from girls "I kinda want to fuck him, but I don't need all his friends knowing everything"
I'd say I disagree with the OP. Sure, that is the sterotypical view, but in my experience I've known several girs and women who have been very sexual, even more so then most men I know. I think it's just a very individual thing. My problem has just been to get these girls to be sexual with me Which on a serious not, is probably more my "fault" then anyones else because of my insecurities, past and present. Hell I know for a fact that there's been at least one girl in my past who where dying to have sex with me, but I declined because I was hung up on a girl who didn't even give me a fleeting thought. Had I been more realistic about that situation, I would surely have had some fun. Hm. Well, while also a stereotypical truth, and sadly there is some actual truth to it, I can at least that I and most of my friends are not the kinds of guys that would brag about it. Sure we'd say that there was sex, but no real details.
There are still, even now in the alleged 21st Century, many gender myths that people subscribe to; the sexual appetites of men and women is only one. It ranges from men not asking directions and women being hard-wired for shopping to women not liking The Three Stooges and men not liking poetry. It's crippling to both genders. And the underlying reason that these myths are perpetuated is, as with most things, insecurity. People pick up and adopt these "masculine" or "feminine" behaviors as a substitute for their own identity; and, of course, criticizing the opposite sex for their so-called innate qualities gives them the illusion of superiority that they crave (also makes for easy jokes for lame comedians). Chauvinism is just like any other kind of prejudice. That may be the funniest thing I've ever read on this board. Do you seriously believe that women don't talk about their sexual experiences with all of their friends, in excruciating detail?
From what I hear, it was only a decade ago, that women could actually admit to liking sex. Women can even admit to watching porn, now. They say they don't mind if their boyfriend watches it. I think that a woman could even have two boyfriends at once. Men can. Wasn't there a Christina Aguilera song about it? Wouldn't bother me, as long as she got the hosepipe out, before it was my 'day'. I long for the day when women can come right out and say it, which I think they can do in the US, ask for a date. Women can do it in the UK, I guess, but if they do, you are going to be a doormat for the rest of your life. That awful pause, when you are supposed to do the 'right thing' and basically tell her what to think, which is supposed to be gentlemanly, as they are all supposed to be chaste. Awful.
No, but it plays into the double standard when it comes to reputations. Did you really not think about that champ?
Huh? Care to explain that in more detail? That too, please. I think that Wally probably meant that women don't like the idea that men brag about it to each other, not that they have more discretion themselves.
Now here's a man with ambition. Who says they can't? Men are usually more comfortable confiding in women than in other men. Of course, women are usually more comfortable confiding in women too. By any metric one cares to consider, women are the superior social sex; and that's reflected in everything from homelessness to suicide rates. To make an overly broad, sweeping generalisation: masculinity is the problem.
'Huh? Care to explain that in more detail?' You do have some problems with some things, don't you? I've been asked out twice, and had no drinking money at the time. I don't think it's culturally as acceptable for women to to it, as in the US. I know some English guy who was amazed, when, after the Gulf War, as an admired Brit, he was offered a condom by an admiring US woman. It may be because we are reserved, it may be because our women are still supposed to be chaste, but it is getting better. And, though I am not telepathic, and I sometimes wish I was, it is my distinct impression, that in some cases, the man is supposed to 'take the lead', to put it in the best way, and the woman is supposed to follow, meekly and subserviently. No doubt they just jump on you. Actually, as I've stated in my transmissions back to 'Orson', on planet Orc, quite a few times, that my impression is, that women in this country usually only ask men out if they are very good looking.
I have problems with people that can't express themselves properly yes, perhaps English is not your first language, but I assure you I have no problems understanding when people make themselves clear. Not that bit. Why will you be a doormat for the rest of your life if a woman asks you out? And are you sure you are not communicating with us from the 1950s?
At times, I wonder if I am not in the 13thC. That's what I have seen, in some relationships, and that's what I can sense with some women, which is why I have steered clear of them, not wanting a meaty right hander for answering back, or her relatives to baseball bat my knees. I think it's just where I am, now, actually.
I might be going out on a limb here, but if you don't talk to women because you're worried about them or their relatives beating the shit out of you, you are probably hanging around the wrong people.
Of course. But, you do get people like that. Back to OP: I think women are more free to discuss their sexuality, now. Maybe, as I've said, women could have two boyfriends at once?? And, not in Broadmoor, either, thank you very much.
Isn't there a Christina Aguilera song, that says if a guy has two girls, he's cool, a girl has two guys, she's a whore? Also, I think, from what I have read, that women would like men to be less possessive too. A man can be forgiven for playing around and can be brought back into a relationship, after a sulk, but a woman would be shown the door? And, I won't tell you what the people back on Orc, do!!
What?? I think women are forgiven more easily for infidelity than men. Again, double standard, since women are "weak" and "emotional" and therefore easily plied into doing things they normally wouldn't. That said, some women are way too forgiving of men who cheat on them, letting them do it repeatedly. I have one friend whose boyfriend cheated on her four times with the same girl, and even then she was still begging him not to break up with her. She finally came to her senses and dumped his ass, but still.