OK, so here's a way out of the "circle:"
for those who OBJECT to what nuKirk did, what SPECIFIC differences would you include in the scene
What should he have done?
-not fired at all(perhaps have the movie make clear that the ship was going to be destroyed FOR SURE, 100%?)
- repeatedly beg Nero to pretty please surrender with a cherry on top?
-have NuKirk try to beam over to the Narada and drag Nero bodily to transport him away?
-have nuKirk show more regret at the situation?
How about having nuKirk ensure his ship is safe?
How about nuKirk order that any lifeforms be beamed out while ensuring his ship and crew are safe?
Transporters work very differently in this universe. The ship is being pulled into a singularity. Just how stable do you expect it to be in order to properly enable transport? How do you, in just a few moments, coordinate with the people on the ship who wish to go willingly, and will not cause trouble for the Enterprise
if they are transported aboard?