Well jerk and fancy concurrently lol.. At least he "had his piece" in Conundrum, which Deanna endorsed lol..
As for scolding poor performers, it's his job. Which manager (which all senior officers in any military installation are by definition*) wouldn't? Was Picard a "dick" to Worf for killing Duras? To Beverly for doing an autopsy on the Ferengi scientist? To Data for being duplicitous in Clues?
* I know Starfleet is not exclusively military but it's structure, norms, customs and regulations are copied from the US Navy.