I really wish people would stop misinterpreting the CotEoF lines to imply fate when it's really not the case.
Same with the STVI line. It has nothing to do with fate.
Having a disagreement about what the lines mean is not misremembering them.
That said, I don't think that Spock's line in TUC was about fate. I read that line in particular as a belief that good people working together in the name of just causes will accomplish good things, even if those things are not what you expected them to be.