Yeah, I would agree with that. I definitely bought that Odo had a lot of feelings for Kira. But, I don't buy that a shapeshifter's idea of how to act on those feelings overlaps with a solid's idea of how to act on those feelings in any way. Odo/Kira's friendship should have never been viewed in terms of a 'Guy gets the girl' story. The men Kira was having physical relationships with shouldn't have made Odo jealous at all, if anything Kira's close friendship with Odo should have made the men jealous.
Their love should have been more along the lines of Picard/Guinan. Transcendent, asexual love.